Memories are those things sitting in the back of your mind collecting dust … until something in the present triggers them forward. Some of the best books act as that trigger; they awaken those memories that represent “universal truths”. These truths are what you want to capture in your writing.
So where do you find these universal truths?
They are happening all around you every day! They can be a little tricky to spot especially when you are rushing to pick-up the kids, rushing to meet a deadline, rushing to cook dinner, etc. But if you stop to listen to the singing child at the check-out stand or observe the toddler watching the mall Santa from behind his parent’s legs, you will see the universal truth standing there naked in front of you.
How do you know what experience is worth capturing?
Look for the emotional clues in any situation.
Search for the unusual in the usual. Is a child practicing their handwriting interesting? Probably not, but what if there was a rip in the paper from being erased upon so many times (frustration) or a drawing of a rainbow unicorn in the margins (boredom). These little details can be the key to something bigger.
Notice repetitive behaviors. Lately, whenever anything goes wrong for my 6-year-old daughter—stumbles, makes a mistake on her drawing, breaks something, stubs her toe—she blames it on me. I also noticed my daughter spends a lot of time on her penmanship (determination). Or that she worries about not getting a 100% on a test (nervousness). By noting down these observations, I realized that my daughter is a perfectionist who can’t handle making mistakes. Now I have the seeds for developing a strong character. And because I wrote down those incidents, I have a springboard upon which to generate other zany challenges/obstacles for my character.
How best to save the memories?
Journaling
For the past few years, I have kept a journal where I store my observation of kids. I have a terrible memory, and my biggest fear is that once my kids are older I will forget what picture-book aged kids are like. So I write down any tidbit that is interesting, odd, funny, or sad so I can refer to it later. These observations will help make my characters feel alive.
Here are some examples:
- 5-year-old dances in front of mirrored closets, at the dinner table, in-line at the grocery store, teaches her classroom teacher, etc.
- 3-year-old told me to whisper since her Minnie baby doll was sleeping.
- Both girls cried the day the ducks at school left for the farm. The 6-year-old said “I will miss the ducks” while the 4-year-old said “The ducks will miss me.”
Video Clips
With the prevalence of smart camera phones, it’s easy to take a video anytime, anywhere. My husband took a ton of movies when our girls were babies and toddlers. One of my favorite videos, from their pre-school era, is a two-minute rant of “I Want Pizza” for dinner.
Once in a while, I still eavesdrop on my school-aged girls’ conversations with my smartphone or journal. Fodder in case I ever decide to write a chapter book. (Note: Do not take videos of kids other than your own without permission from their parents.)
Don’t have kids? No problem.
If you don’t have kids, no problem! There are plenty around – storytime at the library, afternoons at the playground, babysit for a neighbor. Just observe them.
Also, in this day of the Internet, there is soooo much on-line. You can get ideas from other friends’ Facebook posts, websites such as the Honest Toddler, and YouTube, which has a plethora of silly, quirky, and inspiring videos.
Here is video that went viral. It’s just full of awesomeness.
Hope you find these tips helpful of how to look for ideas, save them, and find the universal truths within. Have a wonderful PiBoIdMo!
Darshana Khiani is constantly journaling about her silly, adorable daughters and the world from her home in California. You can find her on-line at www.flowering-minds.com and on Twitter @darshanakhiani. She is represented by Jodell Sadler of Sadler Children’s Literary.
Darshana is generously giving away a picture book critique! Leave one comment to enter. A random winner will be selected at the conclusion of Pre-PiBo!
Good luck!
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October 29, 2014 at 6:58 am
Nat Keller
Great post- though I have been noting my little boys habits/adventures/ developments..I hadn’t thought to write them down. Thanks Darshana!
October 29, 2014 at 6:58 am
Cat
Keeping a journal to save memories is a great idea – thank you 🙂
October 29, 2014 at 7:02 am
Aimee Isaac
I love the journaling idea! I get so many ideas from my children. Thank you!
October 29, 2014 at 7:08 am
Jim Chaize
Very helpful ideas on finding ideas. Thanks Darshana.
October 29, 2014 at 7:09 am
Laurie Theurer
Thank you for your insights!
October 29, 2014 at 7:11 am
Rita Antoinette Borg
Thank you for this great article. Will put down thoughts on a journal more often now.
October 29, 2014 at 7:12 am
Hayley B
Your journals do double duty, Darshana, recording little day-to-day moments and providing fodder for your work. They’ll be treasured by your children. Thanks!
October 29, 2014 at 11:44 pm
Darshana
My kids love watching the “baby movies” we took when they were younger.
October 29, 2014 at 7:14 am
marciecolleen
Thanks, Darshana! Here’s a tip for when your kids are grown, connect with your own inner toddler. Bring those qualities into your day to day. That’s what my husband and I tend to do seeing as we are “child free” and in our 40s. 🙂
October 29, 2014 at 11:45 pm
Darshana
Great idea! Though most days I am too busy to connect with my younger self. But when I do it is a lot of fun.
October 29, 2014 at 7:16 am
Joseph Miller
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on journaling.
October 29, 2014 at 7:16 am
Donna L Martin
Thanks, Darshana, for the great post! I never thought to watch YouTube for ideas…
October 29, 2014 at 11:46 pm
Darshana
Donna – it is a great time-sink of a resource. 🙂
October 29, 2014 at 7:16 am
mwebb32
What a great idea!
October 29, 2014 at 7:18 am
Doris Stone
Thank you, Darshana for sharing wonderful tips for finding universal truths. I’m starting a journal today.
October 29, 2014 at 7:18 am
Margaret Flint Suter
I have carried a pocket notebook for years, and going back through them has given me lots of ideas for character, story lines and poems! Thanks for this fun post!
October 29, 2014 at 7:19 am
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Lisa Connors
Thanks for the tips. We often forget the inspiration is all around us.
October 29, 2014 at 7:22 am
lindamartinandersen
Darshana,
Journaling about your kids’ behavior is a great idea for future PB manuscripts. Smart lady.
October 29, 2014 at 7:24 am
Joyce Tucker
Love the idea of universal truths! I will be looking for those as I go about my day. Thanks!
October 29, 2014 at 7:29 am
barbara kupetz
You’re so right about kids as an excellent source of ideas. Whether they’re yours or not, they are giving off great ideas constantly. As adults, we just have to slow down, look, and listen to collect those seeds for a great story.
October 29, 2014 at 7:29 am
Val M
How true about stopping to listen and notice — thanks Darshana.
October 29, 2014 at 7:29 am
ammwrite3
Hi WOW sister–thanks for the great post! I’ve also been keeping a journal of all the funny/sweet things my kids have said (and they’re 12, 14, and 16 years old). I hope to use some of it someday. I always have a notebook in my purse too! 🙂
October 29, 2014 at 11:47 pm
Darshana
Hi Ann! That’s awesome. You must have a lot of material!
October 29, 2014 at 7:33 am
Louann Brown
Great Tips. Thanks! Keeping my observations in a journal is my best source staring stories.
October 29, 2014 at 7:35 am
Rebecca Colby
Thanks for this idea, Darshani! I’ve also been chronicling things my children say and do for years but I was making note of these memories for their information. I think I need to go back and mine these memories for my PB ideas now.
October 29, 2014 at 11:47 pm
Darshana
Best of luck Rebecca.
October 29, 2014 at 7:37 am
MargieMoore
Kids provide a wealth of inspiration. Need to be more observant! Thanks Darshana!
October 29, 2014 at 7:37 am
momslifeponderings
I’ve always written down story ideas when they pop in my head. But now I’ll also hit down my observations.
Thanks, Darshana!
Dana Edwards
October 29, 2014 at 7:37 am
bevbaird
Loved your post – great advice for storing all those wonderful memories from childhood.
October 29, 2014 at 7:38 am
msmo1958
Thanks Darshana! Kids provide a wealth of inspiration!
October 29, 2014 at 7:42 am
ManjuBeth
I agree with Darshana. Journaling fuels my writing.
October 29, 2014 at 7:43 am
Jan Milusich
Darshana, Iappreciate your suggestions and will be starting an observation journal right away. I have a manuscript that I would love to have you critique.
October 29, 2014 at 7:44 am
Erin O'Brien
Wonderful advice!
October 29, 2014 at 7:47 am
Kim Chaffree
I love this post and do a lot of observing of my own two but need to do more journaling! Too many things that my brain is trying to hang on to. I need to give it a break and write some of it down! Thanks, Darshana!
October 29, 2014 at 11:49 pm
Darshana
Totally agree too many things to remember. I have to make reminder lists all the time now (personal stuff, work, writing tasks for the month, etc)
October 29, 2014 at 7:54 am
apserione
I’ve never left childhood and probably I write only about me. Your was a good hint, nevertheless. From now on I will take videos of me ranting “I want pizza” for dinner
October 29, 2014 at 11:50 pm
Darshana
LOL! I would probably rant for more ice cream!
October 29, 2014 at 7:59 am
Mary Warth
Thanks Darshana for the great reminder to write all those moments down. At one point I was good at doing that but I have gotten out of the habit!
October 29, 2014 at 8:02 am
Nadine Gamble
Your post reminded me that I have a file of cute things my sons said and did as toddlers and preschoolers! Now where is it? Off to look!
October 29, 2014 at 11:52 pm
Darshana
Hope you find it. Unfortunately, I didn’t start journaling til my kids were 4 and 6, so I got the tail-end of the preschool years. Luckily we have movies and I have a lot of nieces and nephews to observe.
October 29, 2014 at 8:02 am
Laura K Zimmermann
Thank you for the great tips!
October 29, 2014 at 8:10 am
schriscoe
Awesome idea! Thanks for the great post Darshana!
October 29, 2014 at 8:10 am
kroberts24
My kids love reading all the things I wrote about them when they were little.
There’s probably a story somewhere in those little journals just waiting to happen. Kids are the best!
October 29, 2014 at 8:10 am
Jamie Deenihan
It is amazing how much inspiration we can find all around us everyday. Journaling has really helped me stay aware of the small and large moments going on around me. Excellent post!
October 29, 2014 at 11:53 pm
Darshana
That is awesome how it has helped you be more in the moment of things.
October 29, 2014 at 8:19 am
Ann K
What a coincidence! My co-worker just told the she write in a notebook the unusual and usually funny comments that kids say. Thanks for the reenforcement!
October 29, 2014 at 11:55 pm
Darshana
Cool. I was sending your co-worker telepathic signals. 😉
October 29, 2014 at 8:28 am
Virginia Law Manning
Your post has really inspired me! Observing and journaling gestures, phrases, and expressions—a new goal! I loved your post! And can definitely see how this habit helps build believable characters! Thank you, Darshana!
October 29, 2014 at 11:55 pm
Darshana
I am so glad the post resonated with you. 🙂
October 29, 2014 at 8:28 am
Jodi Moore
Aw, I think the ducks will miss BOTH of your kids! 🙂 Thanks for sharing your inspiration with us.
October 29, 2014 at 11:56 pm
Darshana
Thank you Jodi. The ducks experience was 2.5years ago and they still remember.
October 29, 2014 at 8:30 am
Alice Fulgione
This for the great post! Writing my observations and ideas in a journal will hopefully motivate me to write some great stories.
October 29, 2014 at 8:34 am
Peyton Leung
I have seen so many great moments from the students at my school. I’ll have to start writing them down.
Thanks for revealing a treasure trove of ideas, Darshana!
You’ve done it again, Tara!
October 29, 2014 at 8:37 am
Anita Banks
Thanks for the tips, wonderful idea!
October 29, 2014 at 8:39 am
Nancy Piper Davis
Wonderful blog, I love the idea of capturing universal truths for story seeds. Thank you for the great insights,
October 29, 2014 at 11:57 pm
Darshana
You are welcome Nancy. Glad you enjoyed it.
October 29, 2014 at 8:40 am
Cathy Ballou Mealey
A great tip! I kept a lot of notes when my kids were little, but wish I had remembered to date them, or at least note their ages!
p.s. That video was cute but scared me that she was going to fall off the sink or edge of the tub. Their bathroom must be drier and less slippery than mine!
October 29, 2014 at 11:58 pm
Darshana
Sorry didn’t mean to scare you Cathy. 🙂
October 29, 2014 at 8:40 am
Lauren Greenberg
Great reminders to stop, look, and listen. Thanks, Darshana!
October 29, 2014 at 8:41 am
teresarobeson
I love the difference in perspectives from your 4 versus 6 year olds about the ducks leaving the school! It truly helps to pay attention to these things to write age-appropriate language and feelings. 🙂 And, yeah, with my kids being 16 and 18, I am grateful for the internet having a wealth of videos and stuff of other people’s kids. LOL!
October 29, 2014 at 11:59 pm
Darshana
It is interesting. I nearly cracked up when I heard her say it.
October 29, 2014 at 8:42 am
Jennette Mutolo
Thank you Darshana! I get blamed for everything too, it’s exhausting but entertaining!
October 30, 2014 at 12:56 am
Darshana
Doh! But yeah I’m not alone. Now whenever we get into one of those moments I just tell her I did it with my magic wand which helps lighten the mood.
October 29, 2014 at 8:43 am
angelapenadahle
I love the idea of keeping a journal to remember the behavior(s) of certain ages and the types of things they say. Brilliant.
October 29, 2014 at 8:45 am
Marge McGugan
I like the idea of an observation journal. It’s a trick I used with child development students in high school. Never even thought to use it here. Thanks!
October 29, 2014 at 8:47 am
Debra Shumaker
So good to see you here Darshana! These are great ideas. Love the confidence in your daughter who was convinced that the ducks would miss her!!!
October 30, 2014 at 12:57 am
Darshana
Hi Debra! Not sure if it was confidence or narcissism, I’m leaning towards the latter. 😉
October 29, 2014 at 8:49 am
Kimberly Sebastian
I share Darshana’s fear that as my kids get older I will lose tough with picture book fodder! Thanks for the helpful ideas on where to get more ideas!!!!! Kim Sebastian
October 29, 2014 at 8:49 am
tanyakonerman
I like the idea of searching for the unusual in the usual/universal truths! Also like the idea of capturing bits of that age group in a journal/notebook!
October 29, 2014 at 8:53 am
Pat
I’ve always had good intentions to start a journal. Now’s a great time to actually do it! Thank you for sharing!
October 29, 2014 at 8:56 am
Jenny Seiger
Thank you Darshana! I had thought before to write down the funny things my kids do so I can remember when they get bigger and also to share it with them. I never did of course because life gets busy. Now I have another reason to do so. I need to carry a pen and paper at all times! Thanks!
October 29, 2014 at 8:57 am
Nancy Furstinger
I love the ducks comments from two different girls…and perspectives. Precious memories!
October 29, 2014 at 9:05 am
Wendy Greenley
Your journal is a great resource–and someday I bet your children will enjoy reading it! Thanks for sharing, Darshana.
October 29, 2014 at 9:06 am
Jessica Maria
I love the journal idea. Like you, I worry I will forget what picture book children are like once mine grow out of this stage.
October 29, 2014 at 9:07 am
Donna
Journaling is like creating your own gold mine, one nugget at a time!
October 29, 2014 at 9:08 am
pathaap
Great ideas, Darshana! Thanks for sharing.
October 29, 2014 at 9:10 am
Nina Goebel
Great ideas!
October 29, 2014 at 9:12 am
Sue Poduska
Thanks for sharing. Wonderful!
October 29, 2014 at 9:13 am
Jeanette Bradley
Love “the ducks will miss me”!
October 29, 2014 at 9:14 am
Tracey M. Cox
Journaling, picture taking, youtubing… those are a few of my favorite things. 🙂 Thanks for your post!
October 29, 2014 at 9:14 am
alikotanko
Fabulous idea! I have three preschool aged children, so I’ll have tons to write about 🙂 Love it!
October 29, 2014 at 9:16 am
Laura Purdie Salas
The observation journal is such a great idea–it IS hard to remember once they’re past picture book age!
October 29, 2014 at 9:19 am
Kathy Raggio
Thanks Darshana. Always on the look out for universal truths!! Great post.
October 29, 2014 at 9:24 am
KatyD
Great post! Thank you! I didn’t know about Honest Toddler. How cute!
October 29, 2014 at 9:25 am
storyfairy
Great post, love the video! 🙂 -Lily Stejskal
October 29, 2014 at 9:25 am
Dana Murphy
I have two daughters (ages 2 and 5), so they make great picture book fodder. I have to be more conscientious about writing down moments. I think I’ll remember them, but often I don’t…
October 29, 2014 at 9:25 am
Audrey
I couldn’t agree more- The DELIGHT ( and the DEVIL!) is always in the details.
October 30, 2014 at 12:58 am
Darshana
Absolutely!
October 29, 2014 at 9:28 am
Susan Cabael
We’ve got to chat about perfectionist daughters! It IS hard to remember the mindset of little ones–like whispering to a sleeping stuffie–once your own kids are older. I’ll need to take conscious notes the next time I’m with my friends’ toddlers.
October 30, 2014 at 1:00 am
Darshana
I didn’t know your daughter was a perfectionist. We will have to meet up and share notes! We could just tell Margaret we’ll borrow her infant. 🙂
October 29, 2014 at 9:31 am
Linda
I love watching kids and listening to their little conversations. Now I will be more deliberate about writing them down.
October 29, 2014 at 9:32 am
rowenarae
Thanks for the great post, Darshana! So true that we forget the details of our children’s antics over time, even though at the time they seem so indelibly marked in our minds.
October 29, 2014 at 9:34 am
saputnam
Great post! I keep small notebooks all over the house and in my pocketbook for whenever ideas pop into my head. I later label and transfer them into the log I keep with all of my PiBoIdMo ideas… so far I have over 200
October 30, 2014 at 1:00 am
Darshana
Awesome!
October 29, 2014 at 9:34 am
Jacqueline
Now I’ll have my writer’s antennae up when I’m reading those Facebook posts and watching those videos! Thanks for the great tip.
October 29, 2014 at 9:34 am
Traci Sorell
Thanks, Darshana, for these great suggestions! I like the idea of journaling and noting what my son is doing now to use as future story ideas.
October 29, 2014 at 9:37 am
Joan Waites
What a great idea to keep an observation journal-brilliant!
October 29, 2014 at 9:45 am
hummingbird13
Great tips, thanks.
Terry
October 29, 2014 at 9:46 am
Jenifer McNamara
Enjoyed you post. And, Yes, I’ve watched my son, and written about his moments in my journal with his friends which have helped hatch ideas, too.
October 29, 2014 at 9:47 am
bodhigirl
Thank you for your ideas as to how to learn more about children when your own children are grown. Sadly, I don’t have a journal (what a great idea!), only my fuzzy memories of all their habits and quirks when they were young. Although, occasionally I reminded of one by something they do as an adult! I have as second chance now and can journal about my granddaughter, even through our FaceTime visits.
October 29, 2014 at 9:48 am
Dawn
“Search for the unusual in the usual.” Love it! Thanks.
October 29, 2014 at 9:49 am
girlwrites29
I am saving that video to watch every morning! It is INSPIRATION to let fly my own positive mantra! Thank you Darshana for starting my day off right:)
October 29, 2014 at 9:54 am
Heather Erquiaga
This post brought a smile to my face. Thank you for the reminder that real life inspires our writing.
October 29, 2014 at 10:00 am
deborahholtwilliams
I’m so glad I kept baby books (journals) on my five kids when they were small, because I know I would have forgotten so much, or forgot which child did what! I totally agree with the importance you give to writing our memories down! Great post.
October 29, 2014 at 10:02 am
Lori Alexander
Great ideas, Darshana. Thanks!
October 29, 2014 at 10:03 am
beckylevine
Wonderful ideas and ways to slow ourselves down and see things from the children’s pov. Thanks for the post!
October 29, 2014 at 10:08 am
DianeKHower
Darshana, Fun post full of wonderful ideas!
October 29, 2014 at 10:08 am
tanjabauerle
Your post really hits home. I have a ten year old and a six year old at home that have me in stitches with some of their antics. What you are saying also applies to illustration. Capturing all those little nuances of what it’s like to be little through journaling os also tremendously helpful when sketching out your characters. Thank you for sharing. 🙂
October 29, 2014 at 10:08 am
Holly Ruppel
Great insights! Thanks, Darshana!
October 29, 2014 at 10:11 am
Kelly Vavala
This is a wonderful post!! I was an educator for children with special needs. I loved observing their behaviors during work and play. I find that now that I am retired, I miss those moments! I did keep a journal in the classroom and wrote several times a week those actions that I thought were unique or story worthy! Thanks for taking the time out and sharing your thoughts…means a lot to us!!
October 29, 2014 at 10:14 am
Emily Lim-Leh
Great idea! I have a notebook on selective stories on my son. But it never occurred to me to have an observation notebook of one-liners from my son and all his friends. Ahhh….I better start jotting down what I remember and record the new lines to come!
October 29, 2014 at 10:14 am
Tina Cho
Great post, Darshana! I need to keep an observation journal, too. My mind is forgetting too much. And that’s a cute video of a very confident girl!
October 29, 2014 at 10:15 am
Debbie Wagenbach
Thank you, Darshana for a very helpful post!
October 29, 2014 at 10:19 am
mkokeefe
Thanks so much for your post today, Darshana! P.S. I love Jessica’s Daily Affirmation! My friends and I used to repeat her mantras in front of the mirror in college for fun. A very spirited way to begin one’s day indeed! -MK O’Keefe
October 29, 2014 at 10:20 am
Janet Bingham
“Look for the emotional clues in any situation” – great tip for Life as well as PB writing! Thank you.
October 29, 2014 at 10:21 am
Natasha
Journaling! I still enjoy ink on paper too. Great post. Thank you. I could use a critique from someone who does not know me- fresh, unbiased eyes and comments would be very helpful.
October 29, 2014 at 10:27 am
Robyn Campbell
LOVE THIS, Darshana! What a great idea for us. I will start doing that today. We do forget. It’s so important to keep it written down. CLEVER writer girl. 🙂
October 29, 2014 at 10:32 am
Kelly Hochbein
Thanks, Darshana! I need to be better about writing down the nuggets of wisdom and hilarity that my two little ones provide. They do make for great inspiration!
October 29, 2014 at 10:38 am
kirsticall
Darshana, your journaling idea is a fantastic one!!! Thanks for the great post—I’ll be paying extra careful attention to my little ones now.
October 29, 2014 at 10:45 am
Mary Zychowicz
Darshana, this was such an insightful post. I love the idea of observing and journaling even the tiniest little comments or situations to spark ideas or pull from later. Very helpful. Thanks so much for sharing.
October 29, 2014 at 10:47 am
colleenrkosinski
Great tips!
October 29, 2014 at 10:47 am
Karen
I, too, find most of my inspiration from my children. Thank you for your post!
October 29, 2014 at 10:50 am
dianneyoung65
More great ideas! Thanks.
October 29, 2014 at 10:50 am
Buffy Silverman
I love the six-year old “I will miss the ducks” versus four-year old “The ducks will miss me.” Wonderful example of the change of thinking in young children.
October 29, 2014 at 10:51 am
AlenaT
Love the idea of keeping a kid journal for inspiration. Great article!
October 29, 2014 at 10:59 am
Priya
Thanks for the inspiration. (Priya Gopal)
October 29, 2014 at 11:00 am
Pia Garneau
Darshana, great point in taking notes so you don’t forget how they are at that age. As my kids grow, I forget how they were when they were younger. Thanks for this great post!
October 29, 2014 at 11:02 am
Nancy Ramsey
Great ideas! Great post! Thank you!
October 29, 2014 at 11:12 am
martymi6
You’re so wise to journal while your children are small. You do forget! Take it from a mom whose adult kids can still remind her at times of their littler selves 🙂 Marty McCormick
October 29, 2014 at 11:16 am
Susan White
Thank you Darshana for your post. I appreciate your ideas!
October 29, 2014 at 11:19 am
Bonnie
What a lovely post. It is so true life is in the details. I will have to go back and look at some of the things my kids said that I actually remembered to write down and I will have to start writing them down again.
October 29, 2014 at 11:22 am
Donna Gwinnell Lambo-Weidner
Now that I’ve promised myself to be more observant, I’m off to the library. Thanks for the fantastic fodder!
October 29, 2014 at 11:22 am
Meredyth Sanderson
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October 29, 2014 at 11:22 am
Kim Erickson
I wish I had journaled while my kiddos were small — but I wasn’t writing then. It’s a great post and reminder to spend time with younger children.
October 29, 2014 at 11:24 am
Teresa Daffern
Thanks for the tips about keeping those memories alive – and waiting for the chance to become a story!
October 29, 2014 at 11:26 am
Deirdre Sheridan Englehart
I love your ideas for not missing the precious things our children do…
October 29, 2014 at 11:27 am
stephseclecticinterests
Maybe this year a quote I wrote down years ago will make it into one of my picture books. “Boots, where are you talking that boy?” It could even be a title. 🙂
October 29, 2014 at 11:29 am
Kathryn Ault Noble
Thank you, Darshana. Loved the duck perspectives! I raised my sons long before digital video was available so have no family videos. But had not thought about looking online at other people’s captured silly moments. Great idea!
October 29, 2014 at 11:36 am
Rachel H
Thanks for this, Darshana. I love how you pull out the emotion behind the action, discovering that universal truth. It’s giving me a reverse perspective on ‘showing, not telling.’
October 29, 2014 at 11:37 am
lauraboffa
I work with kids, and every week my friends ask me if I have any good student stories. Usually, I have far too many to remember! I’ll definitely start writing them down, thanks for that idea. 🙂
And as a duck owner, I LOVED your kids’ two different reactions to the ducks leaving for the farm. And you know what? I think they were both right…
October 29, 2014 at 11:37 am
Mary Jane
Loved reading this post. I think I am going to go back into my videos of my grand kids. Thanks for the inspiration!
October 29, 2014 at 11:38 am
Pam Miller
Great post. Many ideas and truths have come from the mouths of babes.
October 29, 2014 at 11:41 am
Sandy Powell
Wow! I need to keep that video, and look at it when I am having a bad day. The little girl was so inspirational. Darshana, thank you for the ideas. I always write my Story Ideas down, but I didn’t think to write down what I see and hear kids do so I can create great characters. Thanks again!
October 29, 2014 at 11:44 am
LovableLobo
Inspiration is truly everywhere! Thanks for reminding us that we just have to look for it, and remember to write it down for future use. Great post, Darshana!
October 29, 2014 at 11:47 am
Nancy Armo
The observation journal is a great idea. Bet your kids will enjoy it too when they are older.
October 29, 2014 at 11:48 am
Melanie Ellsworth
Darshana, I also jot down observations of my child – it’s amazing how quickly those details leave my brain as she grows and changes. The “notice repetitive behaviors” suggestion is helpful. And you capture so much about a child in the phrase, “The duck will miss me” – a perfect line for a picture book.
October 29, 2014 at 11:49 am
Lauri Meyers
Darshana, thank you for sharing your memories. Love the video> I’m going to go dance on my kitchen counter now to get pumped up for unloading the dishwasher. “I can do anything. I love my dishes. I love last night’s dirty pan. I love meatballs.”
October 29, 2014 at 11:53 am
Janny J Johnson
You just triggered a memory of my son on a very busy day… and because of that I’ve just added to my new start for my PiBoIdMo list this year! Thanks!
October 29, 2014 at 12:00 pm
Judy Cox
Universal truths–good point.
October 29, 2014 at 12:06 pm
Donna L. Sadd
Great article, Darshana. I think it’s brilliant that you’re keeping notes on what your kids say and do. :0)
October 29, 2014 at 12:10 pm
Marcy P.
I love my little kids! And you’re right… it’s so easy to forget. But they blow my mind EVERY day. Today my daughter asked if inside a light bulb was a tiny little fire. Stuff like that. All. The. Time. Thanks for the reminder.
October 29, 2014 at 12:11 pm
jport
I had never thought of hunting down videos online since I have kids around the ages of my characters – but that’s a very smart idea! Thank you!
October 29, 2014 at 12:19 pm
Christine Michaela Sharpe
love the observation journal idea, both for being a writer and a mommy!
October 29, 2014 at 12:24 pm
JEN Garrett
Keep a toddler in your pocket and a notebook on hand. Strike that. Reverse it. Or maybe don’t.
October 29, 2014 at 12:26 pm
Patricia Toht
Wonderful post, Darshana! It’s so important to look for the details and capture them, for that’s where the “show don’t tell” lies.
October 29, 2014 at 12:29 pm
Becky Hohensee
My 3 yr old niece told me she had a coconut for lunch at her preschool. I asked “what color was it?” She replied “orange and round.” I said “did it taste like an orange?” she said “yep!” HaHa! Loved this.
October 29, 2014 at 12:36 pm
jdewdropsofink
I wish I’d have journaled the way you did. I’ve forgotten so many memories. The video is so cute!
October 29, 2014 at 12:40 pm
Laura Bellina
Working in a library I get the opportunity to observe people and it is sometimes fascinating to see those little moments that most people miss. Thanks for reminding me of that!
October 29, 2014 at 12:45 pm
julie rowan zoch
Thank goodness you found it! My friend uses her faily calendar to record such moments on the fly. Great post, Darshana!
October 29, 2014 at 12:47 pm
Carla Burke
What a great blog post! Thanks for the tips!
October 29, 2014 at 12:51 pm
Lori Dubbin
We always think we’ll remember, but we don’t. Journaling is the answer. Thank you, Darshana!
October 29, 2014 at 12:52 pm
Cassandra Federman
For a fellow writer with a bad memory, this has been a great article. Thanks!
October 29, 2014 at 12:55 pm
Aunt Alice
Thank you for an inspiring article. I have been jotting down little moments in a writing journal on OneNote. I hadn’t thought of using video to also record things for my writing (it should have been obvious, but wasn’t!).
October 29, 2014 at 12:57 pm
Beth Blee
What a great post! Great ideas! I’m going to start keeping an observation journal. Thanks!
October 29, 2014 at 1:03 pm
csschwarz
Love the thought for looking for the emotional charge behind everyday stuff! Thank you!
October 29, 2014 at 1:12 pm
Carrie Finison
This is so great, Darshana! I actually have a notebook in my bag that I put there specifically for this purpose, but then I never used it! I feel like my “little” kids are slipping away (they’re 9 and 5 now) and I need to get recording before I forget everything. All those little day-to-day details are so important.
October 29, 2014 at 1:14 pm
Sandy Perlic
Thanks, Darshana! I wish I had written more down when my kids were younger. It’s amazing what you forget. Luckily, there are kids everywhere if we’re paying attention. Love your advice to look for the unusual in the usual!
October 29, 2014 at 1:20 pm
danielledufayet
Those were great ideas! Thank you for reminding us that, as writers, we have to be expert observers and we have to record our observations. They may turn into gold!
October 29, 2014 at 1:28 pm
topangamaria
WOW! and your Flowering Minds site is awesome too.
October 29, 2014 at 1:31 pm
Danielle Heitmuller
This is great advice, now I just need a kid. In the meantime I will delve deep in to memories of my own silliness, sadness, and moments of triumph. Thanks for the generous post!
October 29, 2014 at 1:32 pm
Christy Mihaly
All of these are good ideas, Darshana — thank you. I volunteer as a reading mentor at an elementary school and get a regular fix of kid-observation there.
October 29, 2014 at 1:34 pm
Ashley Bohmer
Super great tips! 🙂 If there is one thing thing PiBoIdMo’s taught me it’s that writers should always be in observation/idea gathering mode.
October 29, 2014 at 1:37 pm
Kathryn Cunningham
I’m sure the ducks will miss your daughter! Great memory, and great advice, thank you!
October 29, 2014 at 1:43 pm
Aimee
Thanks for the advice. My brain does not want to get into picture book mode! I just need to pay attention to my kids’ antics, and I’m sure I will be inspired.
October 29, 2014 at 1:47 pm
Rosie Pova
Thanks for the post!
October 29, 2014 at 1:53 pm
Anne Bromley
Thank you, Darshana. I really appreciate all your great tips as well as those memories!
October 29, 2014 at 1:56 pm
Carolyn Rohrbaugh
That is a good reminder to pay attention to what is going on around us. Thanks
October 29, 2014 at 2:10 pm
Denise Hughes
A picture book critique would be really useful.
October 29, 2014 at 2:25 pm
Chana Stiefel
Great seeing your post here Darshana! Awesome advice. Keeping my eyes open. Thanks!
October 29, 2014 at 2:29 pm
mona861
Thanks Darshana, Just thinking about jotting in a journal brings memories to mind that I should have written. Time to post them and go from here. Great post!
October 29, 2014 at 2:45 pm
Sherry Walz
Darshana, I enjoyed reading your post. Thanks for the reminder to pay attention to the little things. I’ll be following you on your blog.
October 29, 2014 at 2:46 pm
Didi Wood
Great post on how to observe and hold onto those special, telling moments – thanks!
October 29, 2014 at 2:49 pm
Janet Halfmann
Great post. I need to tell myself again to keep that journal close by!
October 29, 2014 at 2:52 pm
Doris Fisher
Kids are a wealth of ideas to find and mine!
October 29, 2014 at 2:54 pm
Maria Oka
Wonderful post. I have an idea journal, but I need a “tid-bit” journal to go along with it. Thanks for sharing part of your process!
October 29, 2014 at 2:54 pm
Rosie Taylor
Such a lightbulb moment when the older child said “I will miss the ducks” and the younger “The ducks will miss me”. This reinforces that we adults must pay attention because kids think in lovely unique ways. Thanks for reminding us to journal all of this.
October 29, 2014 at 2:55 pm
mariagianferrari
Thanks for the great tips, Darshana! Every observation counts and could lead to a story idea.
October 29, 2014 at 3:24 pm
hethfeth
Darshana, such a great post! I’ve been thinking a lot lately about a TedTalk that Amy Kraus Rosenthal gave, as well as comments I read in a book intro by Jane Yolen (I think maybe it’s in Harold Underdown’s “Complete Idiot’s Guide to Publishing Children’s Books”), about using life’s in-between moments for generating story ideas. And your post here is a great how-to for that topic. Sometimes, all I seem to have is in-between moments…and like you, I have a terrible memory. I’m always rushing for a slip of paper, my computer’s Idea file, or my iPhone recorder, to capture ideas before they fly away. Thanks for the guidance!
October 29, 2014 at 3:25 pm
lindaschueler
Ah ha! Thank you for the reminder to write more of these gems down.
October 29, 2014 at 3:26 pm
DonnaCangelosidonnacangelosi
Love your ideas, Darshana! Thank you for a fun post
October 29, 2014 at 3:26 pm
Shirley Menendez
Thanks for the great tips. Loved the video.
October 29, 2014 at 3:26 pm
viviankirkfield
Howdy, Darshana…I am meeting you EVERYWHERE these days. 🙂 🙂 Which is a good thing! Love the golden nugget I took away from your post…find the unusual in the usual. 🙂 And I don’t know why I don’t keep a journal…it’s such a great idea and I do during PiBoIdMo…maybe this year I will just keep on going and do a story idea and a notation about stuff I’ve observed that day for the entire year. 😉 🙂
October 29, 2014 at 3:30 pm
Carol Nelson
What a great reminder to capture all the gems that our children (or grandchildren in my case 🙂 ) utter. I’m sure there is a gold mine of story ideas just waiting to be told. Now I just have to keep the journal close at hand.
October 29, 2014 at 3:32 pm
Jill Siegel
Hi Darshana! Thanks for sharing great tips! 🙂
October 29, 2014 at 3:34 pm
Jenifer Heidorn
I love your idea of finding the unusual in the usual.
October 29, 2014 at 3:58 pm
Maria Marshall
Thank you for some great ideas and insights. Wonderful post Darshana.
October 29, 2014 at 4:05 pm
Stephanie Geckle (@SPGeckle)
Thanks for the reminder to stop and observe. You’re right…the answers are usually right in front of us the entire time!
October 29, 2014 at 4:07 pm
Elizabeth Brown
Darshana, Thank you for your wonderful post!
October 29, 2014 at 4:08 pm
Shena Ashcraft
Thank you, Darshana! You’re right! Each interaction, each snippet of conversation with my little guy could be what it takes to develop a great character. Thanks for the reminder and the inspiration!
October 29, 2014 at 4:13 pm
Carol Federoff
Thank you so much for the reminder to observe, observe, observe and WRITE IT ALL DOWN especially the age for later use. I haven’t written down observations in like, almost forever… 😦 I’m getting out some notebooks now…
October 29, 2014 at 4:31 pm
Kathy Doherty
What a wonderful reminder! The books that last and become classics have universal truths. Thank you for this post.
October 29, 2014 at 4:40 pm
John Strong
I love your attention to detail – so vital! And looking for “emotional clues.” Thank you!!!
October 29, 2014 at 4:46 pm
Genevieve Petrillo
Great post. I love that affirmation video! I wonder if her mom was insulted that it took so long for her to get a mention. So funny!
October 29, 2014 at 4:49 pm
lbouck09
That’s great advice, thank you so much! 🙂
October 29, 2014 at 4:55 pm
Michelle O'Hara Levin
I strive to be so organized.
October 29, 2014 at 5:03 pm
Katie
Keeping a journal is such a good idea. How many times have you seen something and said to yourself, that is odd, it would make a good story.
Sadly when the errands are all run and daily life takes over, things get
forgotten. Thanks for posting.
October 29, 2014 at 5:25 pm
joanwatsonmartin
How wise you are to record these everyday occurances. I wish I had done that now that they are grown up, but I didn’t know how fast it would go.
October 29, 2014 at 5:29 pm
gabisnyder
I appreciated this reminder to observe and record! Keeping a journal is a great way to collect seeds for stories and also to help us remember the “wonder years”!
October 29, 2014 at 5:32 pm
anniebailey7
Loved this post!
October 29, 2014 at 5:45 pm
writingcygnet
Thanks for such a great post! Now that my two are 26 and 30, I miss those early years. They always knew that when Mom ran for her notebook, she was going to record what they were saying! 🙂
Susan Reith Swan
October 29, 2014 at 6:05 pm
gweddle
Great post! My mother kept her own journal of observations of my now-grown children. Interesting how much I had forgotten or missed when we read her words recently.
October 29, 2014 at 6:18 pm
Dawn Young
Great post Darshana.; I crack up whenever I eavesdrop on my kids -they say the funniest things. I find myself having to run so they don’t hear me giggling – their words are priceless.
October 29, 2014 at 6:18 pm
Lori Mozdzierz
Observations are an amazing tool for characters both young and seasoned 😀
October 29, 2014 at 6:25 pm
supermario6
So true about inspiration!
October 29, 2014 at 6:32 pm
Debbie Smart
Great post! I love journaling and have fallen off the wagon … so I’m gonna get back on and write down a few “gems” that I still remember!
October 29, 2014 at 6:43 pm
Sandy Jones
Wonderful tips! I kept a journal when my boys were in elementary school. They’re teenagers now and it’s like opening a special gift every time I read through it.
October 29, 2014 at 6:44 pm
Peter Dargatz
I get lots of fun ideas from observing my 26 kindergartners. They are as constant source of inspiration (and aggravation at times) :).
October 29, 2014 at 7:04 pm
Cecilia Clark
This is the second time in as many days that I have had that particular video shared. What a wonderful way for a little girl to start her day and how fabulous are her parents encouraging positive affirmations like that.
Thank you for sharing your ideas Darshana, my last child is almost an adult now but lucky for me I became a grandmother twice over in the past three months so I have babies to observe up close and to take to the library and on outings. Whoot whoot! 🙂 Now my stories have a new audience.
October 29, 2014 at 7:16 pm
Lynn A. Davidson
Thanks for the reminder, Darshana. It’s easy to forget to make note of things when life is busy with other distractions.
October 29, 2014 at 7:16 pm
Deb Dunn
I love my little observation notebook – thanks for reminding me to use it more!
October 29, 2014 at 7:20 pm
Freckled Daisy Creations
I work in an elementary school and I can’t wait to apply this post to all my “characters” in the classroom
October 30, 2014 at 1:03 am
Darshana
have fun with it!
October 29, 2014 at 7:24 pm
Sally R. Flannery
Today’s observations: lollipop that falls in the dirt and a boy who likes to roar on the playground, but let’s a little girl go down the slide first.
Thanks, Darshana!
October 29, 2014 at 7:24 pm
Lauren Soloy
Thanks Darshana! I have two little ones at home, and I recently began writing down one moment from every day that I want to remember because I realized how quickly they are changing. I never thought to do it from a writer’s perspective, though – I think I will start a second notebook! My kids crack me up every single day 🙂
October 29, 2014 at 7:29 pm
Elizabeth
I would love your feedback on my story!
October 29, 2014 at 7:43 pm
Hélène Sabourin
No one should ever loose touch with their inner child. Always nice to be reminded. Thank you!
October 29, 2014 at 7:45 pm
sardyhar
Thank you for reminding us to pay attention to the raw character ingredients in front of us, Darshana.
October 29, 2014 at 7:47 pm
apmartin2014
Thank you for the wisdom 🙂 Thank you also for reminding us that our stories are all around if we have eyes to see them.
October 29, 2014 at 7:55 pm
Susie Sawyer
This!!: “My biggest fear is that once my kids are older I will forget what picture-book aged kids are like.” I’ve thought the same thing. What a great idea to jot down observations now! I also love the idea of seeing the unusual in the usual. I hadn’t put it into words before, but I realized that’s what I strive to do. Thanks so much for a great post!
October 30, 2014 at 1:04 am
Darshana
Yeah! Glad I could help.
October 29, 2014 at 8:17 pm
Patricia Tilton
Great post with wonderful suggestions. Sometimes we need a reminder to tap into our past, because there are some gems there waiting to be told. I love journaling!
October 29, 2014 at 8:54 pm
Prairie Garden Girl
Darshana: Kids do say the darnedest things and your suggestion to jot down the memories in a journal is excellent. Thank you. ~Suzy Leopold
October 29, 2014 at 9:01 pm
Donna Rossman
Thank You Darshana! Your post reminded me of the home movies I took of my children and quite a few ideas sprang to mind.
October 29, 2014 at 9:04 pm
writeknit
Ideas swirling around us everyday. Thanks for reminding us to open up our eyes and ears to them!
October 29, 2014 at 9:09 pm
Cindy S
I agree about always keeping a notebook close by. You just never know when something might trigger an idea.
October 29, 2014 at 9:15 pm
Maria Bostian
Journaling is such a great idea. I’ve gotten away from that since my teaching daya. Thanks for reminding me how important it can be to have a “place” for all of my ideas and observations.
October 29, 2014 at 9:25 pm
thelogonauts
Love how your journals are both a great way to remember and a great wayt to grow ideas!
October 29, 2014 at 9:41 pm
marlainagray
This is so delightfully sensible. Great advice!
October 29, 2014 at 9:42 pm
Ashley Bankhead
Great post. Listening to kids is so fun. There is so much about life and writing that we can learn from them. I like the idea of an observation journal. Good idea.
October 29, 2014 at 10:13 pm
Michael Karg
So true! I’m pretty sure most picture books were created by kids. Adults are mere scribes.
October 30, 2014 at 1:05 am
Darshana
haha .. i like that!
October 29, 2014 at 10:32 pm
Susan Schade
I loved your quote about “searching for the unusual in the usual!” In fact, I wrote it on a post-it and it is sitting in my office for inspiration. Thanks for the post!
October 30, 2014 at 1:06 am
Darshana
oh, wow. thanks! maybe i should post-it on my wall too. 🙂
October 29, 2014 at 10:34 pm
Shirley Johnson
Always listening to the world around me. Love the organization of an observation journal. Great post! Thanks for sharing
October 29, 2014 at 10:56 pm
megmillerwrites
Great ideas! I like how you get to the source emotion, to figure out character. Thank you!!
October 30, 2014 at 1:07 am
Darshana
That’s an interesting observation, hadn’t thought of it that way. Thanks!
October 29, 2014 at 11:23 pm
Caroline
Yes! My kids constantly amaze me and bring me into the moment – great for observing and appreciating. Thanks!
October 29, 2014 at 11:23 pm
Magda
This is great advice and so true. There is so much material to be found in the everyday moments.
October 29, 2014 at 11:39 pm
Christine M. Irvin
Thanks, Darshana!
October 29, 2014 at 11:56 pm
jJane Heitman Healy
Thanks for yourJournal Examples. I think it’s important to note the children’s ages, so you can write accurately about their actions and reactions.
October 29, 2014 at 11:57 pm
Keila
Time to get out those old journalsI kept when my kiddos were little for some story ideas. Thanks for the tips!
October 30, 2014 at 12:09 am
Juliana Lee
So smart to write down observations. I did with my own kids and many students. I’m lucky enough now to write observations of my grandchildren.
October 30, 2014 at 12:28 am
Carrie Charley Brown
Thanks, Darshana! I love how you took little journal notes of your kid’s quotes. I totally wish I could have captured my kid’s quotes when they were younger. Mommyhood is a busy time and sometimes stressful. What a great way to not only have understanding into childhood characters, but also be grateful for those precious moments.
October 30, 2014 at 1:09 am
Darshana
Yes, as someone earlier said. It does double-duty. I actually think it does triple-duty in that I feel like/hope I can be a better mom by really “listening” to what is going on with my kids.
October 30, 2014 at 12:52 am
Kaye Baillie
Thanks for the great reminder, Darshana. I seem to have journal problems where I can’t stick to one book and I write stuff in too many places. I have to sort this out. I love your ideas on observation.
October 30, 2014 at 12:57 am
Gloria Amescua
I really like how you get to the heart of the emotion in your observations.
October 30, 2014 at 1:28 am
KJ Bateman
Lovely reminder to really pay attention to what is going on around us.
October 30, 2014 at 1:31 am
Sharon Nix Jones
An observation folder…what a wonderful idea.
October 30, 2014 at 1:33 am
Laurie L Young
Emotional clues, an “aha” moment for me. Thanks!
October 30, 2014 at 1:55 am
Julie Murphy
My journal is invaluable. My daughter hasn’t been a toddler for a while now, and the memories pour back every time I read it. It’s great inspiration…as was your post, Darshana!
October 30, 2014 at 12:02 pm
Darshana
Isn’t that the best thing, when memories you thought were forgotten are really just need to be unlocked!
October 30, 2014 at 2:19 am
Meridth Gimbel (@Meridth_Gimbel)
I am totally going to start an observation journal. Thanks for your inspiring post!
October 30, 2014 at 3:12 am
wendymyersart
I wish I could take pictures of all the neat things I see kids do so I would not forget them. A journal is a good idea. Thanks for the post!
October 30, 2014 at 4:51 am
Sharon Giltrow
Great reminder Darshana I am constantly writing down what my 5 year old says he cracks me up most days. I read recently to include the context as well as emotion so that it jogs your memory of when they said it too 😏 smart idea
October 30, 2014 at 12:04 pm
Darshana
yes. understanding the context for the bigger picture is always helpful.
October 30, 2014 at 5:54 am
Dee Knabb
Thanks for the web site reference.
October 30, 2014 at 6:06 am
Joan Kassmann
Slow down enough to notice the small ‘seemingly unimportant things’ and write it down, write it down, write it down … My concentration for the next 30 days. Thank you for your post.
October 30, 2014 at 12:04 pm
Darshana
You can do it!
October 30, 2014 at 6:18 am
Yvonne Mes
I love your observation journal, Darshana!Though I kind a feel like a very unobservant type of mother. Then again I have many hours of footage of my boys dancing around in their fairy costumes! Thanks for the encouragement in getting PiBoIdMo ready!
October 30, 2014 at 12:11 pm
Darshana
It’s never to late too start. I would say re-watch some of those videos and focus on how you feel what are your thoughts about the boys and they focus on how they feel. I’m sure something beautiful truth will reveal itself. If doesn’t want to reveal itself (which does happen) then at least you got to chill out for a little while. 🙂
October 30, 2014 at 9:37 am
kpbock
Great advice and I love that “Daily affirmation” video! Priceless!
October 30, 2014 at 9:49 am
Janet Disotell
I have numerous videos of my kids, and I also have an app in which I store their humorous moments or phrases. Now I will utilize those things differently, possibly using their actions, emotions and turning them into characters–brilliant! Definitely an “aha” moment for me as I read your post. Thank you so much for sharing with all of us!
October 30, 2014 at 12:12 pm
Darshana
Yeah! Glad to hear things are clocking for you!
October 30, 2014 at 9:53 am
Barbara Cairns
What a great idea to observe all these emotions and then expand on them in a story! Thanks, Darshana!
October 30, 2014 at 10:58 am
Sue Frye
Great post, Darshana! I love your thoughts about using emotions:)
October 30, 2014 at 11:05 am
kateywrites
Love these ideas. I have 3 little girls, and often use things they do, say, or SING as inspiration or jumping-off points. My phone has been an incredible tool for keeping track of those moments and phrases! Thanks for sharing.
October 30, 2014 at 12:13 pm
Darshana
Sounds you have got a working system going!
October 30, 2014 at 11:17 am
ducks33
Excellent advice to keep notes in a journal on cute things you see children doing. I was too busy when my own kids were that young, running a farm and raising my family, but now I have grandbabi
es, so thank you!
October 30, 2014 at 12:13 pm
Darshana
There is your second chance!
October 30, 2014 at 11:29 am
Joanne Roberts
Thanks, Darshana. It can be very difficult to zero in on those true moments in the midst of the (sometime) chaos that is life. Thanks for reminding me to slow down and enjoy my kids.
October 30, 2014 at 12:17 pm
Darshana
Absolutely, I have a really hard time noticing things when I am right in the thick of it. Which is why the “repetitive behaviors” works for me. Even then I pretty much have to hear it for at least several times or more before it even registers that I should step back and “observe”.
October 30, 2014 at 11:32 am
Hope Lim
I started keeping a journal when I learned I was pregnant with my first child. Chronicling my experiences became ritual and I wrote nearly every day. My entries led me down a writer’s path, to that of children’s book author. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I have a new notebook thanks to you!
October 30, 2014 at 1:09 pm
Karen Lawler
Now that I am a granny I am going to go back and watch the never ending videos of my kiddies and pick up the thoughts and emotions you talked about. Thanks.. and I loved the video!!! 🙂
October 30, 2014 at 1:21 pm
Lois Peterson
Great way of connecting behaviour to emotion and personality. Thanks for this.
October 30, 2014 at 1:34 pm
desirae1987
The kids and teens I work with at the library are constantly inspiring me. Working in a library with kids means there are always opportunities to observe them.
October 30, 2014 at 1:41 pm
Stephen Martin
No kids – 10 cats. They are plenty full of enough antics worth observing!
October 30, 2014 at 5:36 pm
Darshana
I don’t have any cats but my pilates trainer does and she shares her cat stories. I never knew the mental age of a cat doesn’t go beyond that of a toddler.
October 30, 2014 at 1:46 pm
Amanda Smith
Thank you for reminding us to look for those universal truths, Darshana.
October 30, 2014 at 2:19 pm
Joanne Sher
Absolutely FABULOUS advice, Darshana! Definitely need to start writing this stuff down!
October 30, 2014 at 2:49 pm
Penny Parker Klostermann
Thanks for an inspiring post, Darshana.I love how you pointed out emotions in handwriting, etc! I wasn’t writing PBs when my son was young…so no journal 😦 I should probably start a journal because my great nieces and nephews give me plenty of material!
October 30, 2014 at 5:38 pm
Darshana
Yes! Great Nieces and nephews count and because you aren’t the primary caretaker, you will actually be able to see the naked truth that quicker than I can with my own kids. Some distance helps.
October 30, 2014 at 3:11 pm
Sue Heavenrich
Great post – now I won’t feel so guilty about my “harriet the spy” behavior.
October 30, 2014 at 3:40 pm
Sylvia Liu
Those observations of your kids are classic. I once wrote a story solely inspired by the funny things my kids said in the pool one day.
October 30, 2014 at 3:49 pm
Linda Baie
Taking the time to take those observation notes is key, Darshana. Thank you for reminding us.
October 30, 2014 at 5:58 pm
yetteejo
I just need to open my eyes. Thanks.
October 30, 2014 at 6:19 pm
Maria J Cuesta
Thanks for your post. Capturing memories is key for happiness. THANKS!
October 30, 2014 at 6:40 pm
erikammon
I love it! I enjoy looking for ideas in nature- not sure why, I just like animal characters…as well as fantasy. For kids? Well, I teach 2nd, so I have an advantage there 🙂 Now I just gotta come up with an amazing MS to land an agent, etc…
October 30, 2014 at 6:48 pm
Beth Barrett
Thanks for the reminder to “revisit” those everyday moments for specialness and inspiration!
October 30, 2014 at 8:11 pm
hmmmmm
I’m a big believer in the importance of observing kids (not in a creepy way), but I hadn’t thought of going back to those notebooks that I kept when they were young — great idea! Thanks!!
(Also, I love that phrase “the unusual in the usual”.)
October 30, 2014 at 9:03 pm
Rebekah Hoeft
I wish I was better about keeping track of kid observations. I tend to get bogged down by not having the right journal at hand. A friend keeps a file on her desktop for easy digital note taking, which seems to work for her. Facebook is about the only place i write the funny things my kids say; not such a great place for observations for other kids though!
October 30, 2014 at 10:27 pm
Shirley Timberlake Fadden
I don’t have a journal, which would be easier to access, but I do have baby books that I often write observations in of each of my kids. Note to self: buy journal and read what I have already written. Thank you!
October 30, 2014 at 10:31 pm
Janie Reinart
Hanging out with grandchildren helps too! They say the funniest things. Thanks for the post.
October 30, 2014 at 11:23 pm
Celeste Elbert
Great post. Thank you so much. I am going to search the recesses of my brain to uncover dusty memories….and write them down. There is gold in there somewhere!
October 30, 2014 at 11:45 pm
Darshana
Absolutely! And if you can’t find gold a bunch of silver will work too. 🙂
October 31, 2014 at 12:30 am
Debbie Austin
Thanks, Darshana! You are so smart to write it all down. My kids are grown and although I remember some, I know I’ve forgotten a lot, too. Going to dig out some of my old journals and see if there’s an idea spark there.
October 31, 2014 at 12:41 am
SevenAcreSky
Journaling is a lost art, an abandoned discipline. I don’t journal well. You’ve prompted me to crank it up…but I HAVE to do it digitally. Access is always in my pocket with my smartphone, and I have to do it on the spot. Thanks Darshana for the inspiration.
October 31, 2014 at 10:55 am
Darshana
Yes doing it on the spot is key! It’s amazing how quickly we (I) will forget something if we don’t etch it into our brains or capture it.
October 31, 2014 at 12:53 am
Carrie O'Neill
This is such great advice and timely! My girls are 4 and 8 and I need to write it all down bit by bit! Thank you.
October 31, 2014 at 4:49 am
imartypoet
I love the two different responses to the ducks leaving. Thanks, Darshana. When my 20 year old son was small we lived near a minimum security prison that was a dairy farm. One day as we drove by he asked me if that was where bad cows go! That was one I never forgot. You inspire me to record what I hear kids say, do, and show an interest in.
October 31, 2014 at 10:56 am
Darshana
That is so cute. It so interesting to see how kids try to connect the dots in those early years.
October 31, 2014 at 5:51 am
debkrygeris
Darshana, you are so correct about forgetting some of those little moments when your children are grown! I missed the opportunity to write down all those little observations/conversations that I witnessed, but as a teacher, I can pop into a lower grade classroom at times and fill a notebook page just in a few minutes. It’s so fun! So, even if you don’t have children, get to know a lower grade elementary teacher and pick their brain! We have so many stories to share:)
October 31, 2014 at 10:57 am
Darshana
Great idea!
October 31, 2014 at 7:59 am
Janet Smart
Thanks. you’ve given me some ideas. I just might try journaling.
October 31, 2014 at 9:09 am
Kathy Cornell Berman
Thanks for your insightful ideas Darshana. I’m off to buy another notebook!!
October 31, 2014 at 9:51 am
Sandra Lawson
Thanks for the important tip. It’s so easy to forget the little things as your children get older.
October 31, 2014 at 10:27 am
Stacey Shubitz
I have a three year-old and need to start an observation journal about her. I write a lot about her, but not these little kinds of things. Thanks for these ideas, Darshana. I’m going to start an observation notebook today!
BTW: @PiperPreschool is a great Twitter account that captures overheard preschool conversations for those folks who are looking to write for the preschool age group, but don’t have preschoolers themselves.
https://twitter.com/PiperPreschool
October 31, 2014 at 10:57 am
Darshana
Thanks for the link, this is great fodder!
October 31, 2014 at 12:15 pm
lidia varesco design (@lsvdesign)
Such a great post, especially the “observations.” I’ve been keeping a journal since my 3-year old was born, but I plan to note more simple observations, like when my son says “I’m going to my office, I have a lot of work to do.” (hmm, I wonder who he gets that from 🙂 Thank you!
October 31, 2014 at 12:28 pm
Deb Beauchamp
Great ideas for keeping those memories alive. Kids provide a ton of inspiration!
October 31, 2014 at 12:30 pm
Michelle Cusolito
I wish I did a better job of recording details about my young kids. I have some funny tidbits, here and there, but not enough.
October 31, 2014 at 1:09 pm
januaryfae
Ooooh, observation journaling. Great ideas! Thank you!
October 31, 2014 at 1:35 pm
Mishka Jaeger
Absolutely! People used to tell me this before I had kids. Little did I know how much inspiration you can actually get from living with toddlers… and how little sleep!
October 31, 2014 at 1:45 pm
Tracy Molitors
Great advice! I wish I had kept a journal when my children were young-now I’ll just have to wait for some grandkids! (and scour YouTube, of course).
October 31, 2014 at 4:44 pm
thiskidreviewsbooks
Well said! 😀
October 31, 2014 at 5:27 pm
Vicki Wilke
LOVED the video – what a sweetie! I feel blessed that I have kept folders and folders of Kgtn and first grade writing from my 33 years of teaching – I am never at a loss for ideas – just need to work hard on lovely reflections of their innocence.
October 31, 2014 at 6:02 pm
Jennifer Kaap
An observation journal is a great idea– I’m going to get on that! Thanks for the great post 🙂
October 31, 2014 at 8:24 pm
Julie Durr
I love the idea of creating a journal with emotional clues and insights. Thank you!
October 31, 2014 at 8:38 pm
Vanessa Harvey
Thank you for the good reminder. Now to clean my glasses and get back to watching the world around me.
October 31, 2014 at 9:06 pm
Heather Pierce Stigall
I’ve been keeping a journal of sorts ever since my oldest (now 17) was little so I could write down the cute things they say and do. I have some favorites that I still remember, but there are others that I’d surely forget if I hadn’t jotted them down. Sometimes I’m even reminded of something an older child did when a younger sibling does something so similar! In addition to providing me with a special personal memory, I have always thought some of the things I’ve written would make for a great story someday.
October 31, 2014 at 9:13 pm
teresa m.i. schaefer (@TMISchaefer)
Journaling is soooooo important. What is memorable today — the I will never forget this moment– is all to often followed by another such moment. And then the file drawer of memory gets full and great memories are lost
November 1, 2014 at 1:55 am
Angela Turner
Enjoyed this post so much. I like the journaling idea though I have trouble keeping up with them or start to use them for other purposes. Something I need to work on.
November 1, 2014 at 8:00 am
Author Ashley Howland
I’ve always loved using a journal, wish I had more time to use what I write.
November 1, 2014 at 8:51 am
Becky P. Hurd
I forget things easily too. I take for granted the fact that I have unlimited material (aka my kids) every day to observe. I guess I’m in denial that someday I won’t have that! Journaling things that seem insignificant at the time is a great idea. Thank you!
November 1, 2014 at 4:34 pm
Melanie Lucero
Excellent advice, thank you!
November 1, 2014 at 5:55 pm
Caroline Lee Webster (@uncoverthepearl)
Thank you for sharing about your process. I should definitely start keeping better notes on my own two sons:)
November 1, 2014 at 6:19 pm
Shari Della Penna
Thanks, Dashana. You are right about connecting to the emotional universal truths we all share.
November 1, 2014 at 7:06 pm
Amy Houts
I have a terrible memory, too, and love keeping a journal of my observations. When I was writing on assignment about kindergartners, I spent a few hours at the university lab school. It made such a difference.
November 1, 2014 at 7:26 pm
angelapadron
Wonderful post – love the journal idea – my son does tons of things that I can write about in it. That video was very cute too.
November 1, 2014 at 9:13 pm
Deborah Patz
Yes, you think those memories will stay with you but they do get pushed aside for newer memories as they age. Writing down the observations is essential.
November 2, 2014 at 12:00 am
laura516
I keep a journal of the silly things my kids say. It is for my poor memory and as a resource for my writing!
November 2, 2014 at 3:17 am
Mindy Alyse Weiss
Thanks for your helpful post, Darshana! I wish I had more videos from when my girls were younger. They grew up way too fast! I love the idea of journaling whatever catches my eye about children. That could definitely help build 3D characters.
November 2, 2014 at 7:31 am
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November 2, 2014 at 4:09 pm
Kavita Ramchandran
I love that you journaled your kids misadventures. I have two kids aged 5 and 3 and they do drop pearls along the way..your post as inspired me to be better about noting them down.
November 2, 2014 at 6:36 pm
Cindy C.
Wish I had kept a journal when my kids were really little. I did it sporadically, but not not enough. You’ll have so much great material to look back on. Maybe I’ll carry a little notebook on me for those crazy “tween” comments. Who knows, a middle school book may be lurking!
November 2, 2014 at 8:20 pm
writersideup
Great stuff, Darshana 🙂 I used to be around kids a lot more when I was doing clown work more frequently and since my son’s grown and married, when the grandchildren come I’ll have more moments, too 🙂 I always soak them in, though, whenever kids are around anywhere 🙂
November 2, 2014 at 10:44 pm
Amanda Banks
I love the journal idea.
November 2, 2014 at 11:39 pm
Mindy Kidd
For awhile, I would jot silly, funny, interesting things my kids said/did down on sticky notes and would stick them to my computer. When I had time, I would transfer the one-two work jots down in my journal as the actual full length stories that they were. This post has inspired me to start doing that again!
-Mindy Kidd
November 3, 2014 at 8:53 am
carolmunrojww
Universal truths, emotions, the unusual in the usual…if only we can program our brains to see these things every day. This is a great post, Darshana. Thanks for reminding me of story times at the library. I’ve been meaning to hang out there for a while.
November 3, 2014 at 5:25 pm
Sharalyn A. Edgeberg
Yes, I agree looking for the emotional “hot spots” helps with the universal truths.
November 3, 2014 at 8:27 pm
rgstones
I keep a journal of all the funny things my kids do and say. It’s definitely a gold mine of book ideas. 🙂
November 4, 2014 at 12:47 am
Marge Gower
My daughter is always telling me stories about my two year old granddaughter. She keeps us laughing. I never thought of writing them down. I’m going to have to start.
Triggers awaken those memories that represent “universal truths”. These truths are what you want to capture in your writing. Good tip.
November 4, 2014 at 10:53 am
oceanis723
I need to start writing things down. I have four kids and there are a lot of little moments to remember but finding the time can be so tricky. I need to make it happen
November 4, 2014 at 8:20 pm
Dani Duck
I’ve just started doing this, but not to the extent that I should. I have a three year old and he does the craziest things. He’s really funny, too. I have to sit with my thinking cap on and remember all the great things he’s done in the past, because there is so much story potential there!
November 5, 2014 at 3:41 pm
mbeaversillustration
Thanks so much for sharing! Fun tips. 🙂
November 6, 2014 at 1:09 pm
Shel LeDrew
Great helpful hints that ican relate to.
November 7, 2014 at 3:34 pm
Rebecca
Thank you! A great post!
November 16, 2014 at 3:34 pm
bucherwurm65
I enjoyed your post! I’m so thankful to be an elementary school teacher. The kids say and do the funniest things!
November 18, 2014 at 12:29 am
MaryAnne Locher
This is a very relatable post. Much of my inspiration comes from frequent visits with little ones.
November 19, 2014 at 9:29 am
Rick Starkey
A lot of my ideas are from memories. Of my childhood and of my children’s. It’s fun finding the emotional element behind the incidents.
November 20, 2014 at 2:15 pm
Sydney O'Neill
I love the flawless logic of children. Smiled at your younger daughter’s statement. My granddaughter used to greet me with “You’ve really been missing me, haven’t you?”
November 21, 2014 at 8:26 am
goodfish78
I agree with writing things down…I, too, worry about my little ones outgrowing my need for picture book ideas. Kind of rude, isn’t it?!? Thank you.
November 22, 2014 at 9:46 am
Andie
I need to start a journal. My little daughter comes out with the funniest, and sometimes incredibly perceptive things, and reading this post made me realise just how many of them lie just out of reach of my memory. Great post. Thank you!
November 26, 2014 at 3:06 am
Jessica @ Play Trains!
This is so helpful! I’ve been trying to take down notes about interesting things that my son experience, but I really like the idea of making the effort to look for and clearly identify the emotions in the situation. Thanks!
November 29, 2014 at 9:22 pm
Patricia Saunders
Yes, keeping a journal of your kids is a fabulous idea!
November 30, 2014 at 8:47 am
Brook Gideon
I’ve always been a watcher, but thanks for ideas to expand on that!
November 30, 2014 at 9:18 pm
Nancy Kotkin
I will remember this advice: “Look for the emotional clues in any situation.” Thanks!
December 1, 2014 at 4:43 am
Andrea J Loney
Wow, your post has sent me running back to my journals to see what little entries I’ve written down about the little ones in my life… even though most of them are taller than me by now!