by Bitsy Kemper
Ah, the life of an author. Writing, creating…it evokes images of stretched legs and hammocks by the sea.
Yeah, right. Sometimes I’d rather clean the toilet. Let’s face it. No matter how much we love what we do, and no matter how easily words may flow, there are days when it’s still work. To be a good writer, nay, a great writer, we are faced with days and days of less fun and more work. But hey, it’s still fun. And usually better than grabbing a scrub brush.
With an easily-distracted brain (IS THAT CHOCOLATE?), my biggest challenge is focus. When faced with a deadline or obstacle, my mind tends to freak out. It wanders about like a baby that’s just learned to crawl. (“Oh, I need to see that up close. Oh wait, there’s something shiny, was that always there? Can I eat it?”) Sometimes it sprints like an escaped prisoner and doesn’t come back for days.
When I *have*to focus, I usually can’t.
I figured I could better harness that energy by creating a blog. After all, writing is writing, right? In July I created a WordPress account and literally went live within five minutes. Then I spent 105 minutes picking out a font. Background color? Agonizing. Theme? Changed it four times. I could easily spend five hours a day refining and fine tuning to get it just right. And not one minute would be spent writing. That recently-sprung prisoner called distraction would be laughing all the way to the bank.
Creating or maintaining a blog isn’t the same thing as writing one. But you can’t do one without the other, not if you want to do it well. All the time I spent obsessing over managing formatting ate away at the time I could have spent writing it. Or better yet, working on a manuscript. There’s only so much time in a day, and we need to spend it wisely. (Oh, crap, did I just turn into my grandfather?)
Some of you are very good at writing a pithy post, hitting enter, and going back to your regularly-scheduled program. You impress me. But my brain won’t let me off that easy. “Was there an extra space after the fifth sentence? Would this look better in blue? Maybe I could take a few pictures to post along with it…hang on, I’ll grab my camera…” Next thing you know I’m knee deep in gifs and jpegs and have completely forgotten the purpose was to write.
Here’s the deal: WordPress ISN’T WHAT I DO. It’s not what defines me. Sorry, blog, I mean I like you and all, but you are not what I wake up in the morning eager to work on. You are not what I think about all day and can’t wait to work on again once the kids are asleep. You are not what kept me from falling asleep last night because of all those great story ideas resulting from an otherwise painful trip to the mall. Yes, I will tend to you, dear blog, but not at the expense of my other writing progress. I can’t hand you the steering wheel.
I set the blog up only to walk away because it aggressively detracted me from my one true love: working on my manuscripts. (To think they just waited patiently for my return! They are so good to me.) My blog is imperfect and I hate that. But sometimes “good enough” has to be, well, good enough.
Bottom line: if there is only enough time in the day to get one thing right, it’s gonna be my manuscript, not my blog. I won’t be a better writer if I use the blog as a distraction away from my “real” writing, the way I use my writing to distract me from cleaning the bathroom (honestly, you’d think it’d be spotless by now).
Maybe you can replace the word “blog” with “Facebook” or “crying baby” or something else from your own life; we all have that one big distracter that keeps us from staying on track. The trick is to fight the temptation, tame the beast, focus focus focus.
Make time for yourself, no one is going to give it to you.
Now I’m off to finish those revisions my editor needs next Thursday. Sorry, bathroom and blog, you’re gonna have to wait.
Bitsy Kemper is author of six educational picture books and one nonfiction YA that’s due 2014. Interestingly, her passion is humorous middle grade and creative, fictional picture books, but real life (or is it her blog?) has a way of interfering with finding their perfect publisher…
Busy with three kids (four if you count her husband), Bitsy has stayed focused long enough to present at writer conferences and schools from NY to CA. She’s enjoyed using her corporate background to create custom business plans for fellow writers who would rather clean toilets than market themselves. Follow her at @BitsyKemper or BitsyKemper.com.
Now stop reading and get back to writing!
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November 22, 2013 at 6:33 am
B Lee Draper
Wow. Did you just crawl inside my head? My blog is definitely my favourite distraction tool of late. *blush*
Thanks for the reminder to prioritise.
November 22, 2013 at 12:19 pm
bitsykemper
Haha, YES, I am in your head. Now lay off the blog, grab a quick bite of chocolate, and wear that blue dress more often, it makes your eyes pop.
November 23, 2013 at 7:48 am
B Lee Draper
Yes ma’am…especially quick to follow the chocolate order. 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 6:44 am
Lynn A. Davidson
Bitsy, I can So relate to this! 🙂 I was snickering because my blog gobbles up a lot of my time in the ways you described. Fortunately, I enjoy blogging. Well, most of the time.
Sometimes my writing is a guilty pleasure. Sometimes it is the last thing I get to, but when I can find a time to focus on it I’m surprised by what creative thoughts are hidden there waiting to burst through .. and not onto my blog page.
Thank you for this. Today is going to be a writing day.
November 22, 2013 at 12:23 pm
bitsykemper
See, now you’re doing it right. If it pumps the creative cranial juices then it’s all good.
November 22, 2013 at 7:01 am
marciecolleen
Brilliant post! Thanks, Bitsy!
November 22, 2013 at 7:04 am
Alicia van Thiel
Dear Bitsy,
Thank you for your stay focused, no delaying, and take time for yourself post…A pleasure to read!
November 22, 2013 at 7:08 am
DianeKHower
Thanks Bitsy. I had to start going to BA (bloggers anonymous) and admitting my distraction blog was eating up my soul. I am glad to know that others get caught up in it too. It’s so embarrassing when a writer friend points out a tiny flaw, and it sends you on a 30 minute binge of making it all pretty.
November 22, 2013 at 12:24 pm
bitsykemper
Oh, THAT’S where we met–the BA meeting…glad to see you are still attending; I seem to have fallen off the wagon…
November 22, 2013 at 7:21 am
Sue Poduska
Ha! This post was my distraction from the blog post I’m writing. Thanks, Bitsy.
November 22, 2013 at 7:29 am
Dee Almond
So true! So true! The thing about writing (which is loads of fun once I actually begin) is that there are always at least a dozen things I must do first. And don’t get me started on blogging. I spent hours setting one up a few months ago–and haven’t written a word yet.
November 22, 2013 at 1:00 pm
bitsykemper
There’s the rub, huh? The stuff other people will notice (laundry, groceries, public blog entries) takes priority because no one can see the progress you’re making on story arc or dialogue. Don’t let it win! At least, not ALL the time. Give yourself permission to do something for your work FIRST, then tend to the other stuff. My husband keeps telling me to create official “office hours” on my calendar and work the rest of the day around it. (I tend to tell him to mind his own business but it is a really good idea…just don’t tell him I said so.) (haha)
November 22, 2013 at 7:34 am
shiela fuller
After reading this, I feel it is not necessary for me to have a blog. I have been feeling like, it was a necessity. Thank you.
November 22, 2013 at 1:05 pm
bitsykemper
My theory is: unless you are certain what you’re about to create is better than anything already posted on the subject, don’t waste your time recreating the wheel. Let them do that while you hone your craft. Someday you might have the time to dedicate all your efforts on a kickin’ blog, but why the rush? Later is fine. Never is fine too. Its okay to be selfish with your time. Really.
November 22, 2013 at 7:51 am
msmo1958
Totally agree on the focus thing and the lack of it. Life can interfere at times and there are some things you just don’t want to miss. Taking a advantage of the times creativity takes precedent over milestones. Great post!
November 22, 2013 at 7:54 am
RaChelle Lisiecki
I, too, have a love/hate relationship with my Twitter account and lack of blog! It’s not that I don’t see their purpose but I’d just SO much rather be writing my manuscripts. Thanks for helping me realize there are others in my boat, Bitsy.
November 22, 2013 at 11:04 pm
bitsykemper
Yes, our boat is large and crowded but the perks are many 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 8:12 am
Malena Fuentes
very clarifying
November 22, 2013 at 8:14 am
jheitman22
“Make time for yourself. No one is going to give it to you.” Easier said than done, but still so true. Thank you, Betsy.
November 22, 2013 at 8:28 am
Melanie Ellsworth
This is why I have yet to create a blog! I know myself too well. But I suppose I’ll have to bite the bullet one of these days. Yes – focus is key to making writing happen. Wise words.
November 22, 2013 at 1:09 pm
bitsykemper
Hi Melanie, scroll up to see what I replied to Sheila. Don’t beat yourself up because you don’t have a blog. You really don’t NEED one. Want, maybe, but not need. Focus on your writing work first, there will always be time later to shine up a blog–you know, after you’ve dedicated so many thoughtful hours to your craft that you’ve written the next best seller and become BFFs with Oprah and Katie…
November 22, 2013 at 8:36 am
Meline
Sounds like we have some of the same writing habits. Thanks for your fun post.
November 22, 2013 at 8:41 am
Marcy P.
OH Bitsy, you make me smile 🙂 I’d almost rather do ANYTHING than clean the toilet. That’s what kids are for (HA!) I appreciate your sentiments about blog writing. I often feel an obligation to attend to it in a certain time frame (being a Social Media Manager will do that to you) but you are right, sometimes we have to say, “NO, blog, you have to wait.” Like the dog I’m dog-sitting. Sit. Stay. I’ll give you a treat later.
Thanks for sharing 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 1:12 pm
bitsykemper
Hi Marcy! Not all social media is bad (I’m an addict myself), it’s when your writing suffers because you’ve become lost in a shower of unrelated Tweets that it becomes a problem…THAT’S when you need to tell it to roll over and play dead 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 8:43 am
Joanne Roberts
I wish I had read this 14 years and two kids ago. Thanks for pointing out an obstacle we might have missed.
November 22, 2013 at 8:48 am
nicole snitselaar
Thanks !
I relate, I relate ! 🙂
This is what I wrote yesterday after loosing so much time with my blog. I was trying to put a new book in my book section…
“Dear over-blog …
I am grateful you had the great idea to change the whole administration of my blog …
This allows me to fill all those hours when I have nothing else to do than to discover the HTML language …
Thank you for helping me develop my memory, my perseverance and my patience ….
Victory! I was finally able to show my latest book in my book column…
By the time I’ll have a new book to add, I’ll have forgotten how to do it once more … I already stress just thinking about it …
( I must say confess, I nearly got crasy doing it today!) ”
🙂 🙂 🙂
I do turn off Facebook to be able to concentrate ! 😉
Thank you for your advice !
November 22, 2013 at 1:17 pm
bitsykemper
You turn off Facebook?! Wow, that is commitment. I’m impressed.
Next time you need to add a book to your book column, ask a kid to do it for you; they’ll have it done in seconds. I have my 12-year old punch up my Powerpoint slides before I present (who has time to add audio and gif files? Not this gal.)
And “over-blog” — great phrase, wish I thought of it! 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 2:20 pm
nicole snitselaar
🙂
I’m so stubborn ! 😉
And my children are adults now ! 😉
November 22, 2013 at 2:08 pm
mochamusing
I can really relate.
November 22, 2013 at 2:21 pm
nicole snitselaar
😉
November 22, 2013 at 8:54 am
Nancy Tandon
People have actually thanked me for not writing blog posts too often! I use mine, at times, to reintroduce my butt to the chair in a non-threatening way. Like saying to a kid, “just take a little taste, see if you like it.” Once the flow is going, I try to harness it, close the blog, and keep writing!
November 22, 2013 at 1:26 pm
bitsykemper
Let’s hear it for Nancy!! Gets creative juices flowing on her blog, then shifts over to manuscript writing. Well done. You are an inspiration (if not an anomaly) 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 8:56 am
Anne Bielby
What I needed to hear.
November 22, 2013 at 8:56 am
Susan Cabael
Focus. Focus. Focus. My lack of focus is my greatest downfall. Must get priorities straightened out. Thanks for the nudge to find a way to spend my time more wisely.
November 22, 2013 at 8:58 am
writeknit
I am so easily distracted…SQUIRREL!!!!……… glad to know I’m not alone.
November 22, 2013 at 9:01 am
megmillerwrites
Ugh so true! Facebook is my big distraction other than my two little peeps. Thanks for the motivation to focus!!! 😀
November 22, 2013 at 9:14 am
Michelle Church
Perfect post for today! Sigh…I want to be at the beach on a hammock by the sea :O)
Thank you for a great post!
November 22, 2013 at 9:18 am
Cindy Schumerth
For me the truth is, trying to write and working full time…I don’t have a blog and rarely do I read them. Just no time.
November 22, 2013 at 1:28 pm
bitsykemper
I hear ya, sister! Good for you for staying focused. Color me impressed!
November 22, 2013 at 9:21 am
Jennifer Neher
Home sick today, so I plan to write and illustrate during the day today… Thanks for the great post to help me focus!
November 22, 2013 at 9:22 am
Therese Nagi
Bitsy you hit the nail on the head with distraction keeping us from really writing. Sometimes it does seem easier to clean the toilet bowls.
November 22, 2013 at 9:25 am
familystufftodo
You hit the nail on the head! Distraction in the “real world” has also kept me from finding the right publisher. Thank you for validating my life! Now, on to finding that publisher . . .
November 22, 2013 at 9:29 am
Lori Dubbin
I’m blog-less, but I still find plenty of things to distract me – like reading other people’s blogs about writing and going food shopping at the new Trader Joe’s. Knowing we all have these distracted moments, makes me feel like the distractions are all part of the process of getting to the focus part. Thanks for your illuminating post.
November 22, 2013 at 1:30 pm
bitsykemper
Yeah, I think we’ve all been there with distractions. Not everyone has lived to tell about it tho’! Keep the faith Lori, Trader Joes can wait (grab me some dark peanut butter cups next time, will ya?).
November 22, 2013 at 9:30 am
Janie Reinart
Bitsy, thank you for the post! I too agonize over my adult book nonfiction blog! And know I should make a kidlit blog–but have been trying to focus on the craft of writing and then just doing it! Focus is right!
November 22, 2013 at 9:30 am
Stephanie Shaw
Loved it. Thanks for starting my day with a smile and a reminder that today will contain exactly the same amount of time as yesterday and tomorrow. It’s up to me to figure out how to use it.
November 22, 2013 at 1:30 pm
bitsykemper
Well said Stephanie!! ❤
November 22, 2013 at 9:31 am
MichelleLynn
Just what I needed to hear today. Thank you!
November 22, 2013 at 9:32 am
Eileen
Thanks for sharing your words of wisdom.
November 22, 2013 at 9:38 am
littledbl
Thank you so much! You are so right. I need to get better at deciding what I am going to focus on for the day. I am one of those try to do it all people, and it’s making it hard to achieve my dreams.
November 22, 2013 at 9:47 am
emazza1217
Bringing my ideas journal with me on the long drive from CT to FL. No distractions (besides 2 fussy boys) when strapped in the passenger’s seat!
November 22, 2013 at 9:57 am
Genevieve Petrillo
Great post, Bitsy. As much as you can skip Facebook and lose the blog – the crying baby may really need your attention!!!!! OMG! Hilarious!
November 22, 2013 at 1:31 pm
bitsykemper
“Don’t try this at home” haha
November 22, 2013 at 10:02 am
cherylsec
This is such a great reminder. It’s so easy to get distracted with life. I love the sentence that says we need to make time for ourselves because no one else will give it to us. So true! Thank you so much for sharing with us today.
November 22, 2013 at 10:04 am
Pat Haapaniemi
This is so true! I don’t have a blog, but I have plenty of distractions without it! Thanks for such a great post!
November 22, 2013 at 10:06 am
Nancy Armo
Yep the luring call of distractions….know it well. Comforting to know others struggle with it too. Enjoyed the post!
November 22, 2013 at 10:10 am
Joanne Sher
Totally relatingto this post. THANK you. And OFF I go! (Maybe LOL)
November 22, 2013 at 10:14 am
Jessie Miller (@pigknit)
Haha, this was hilarious. So true on so many levels too!
November 22, 2013 at 10:22 am
Maura Kay
You’ve read my mind! Focus and always wondering “isn’t there something I need to be doing?” are everyday hurdles for me. I just have to keep reminding myself that the pile of laundry can wait. This is exactly the post I needed to read today. Thank you!
November 22, 2013 at 10:25 am
Deirdre Englehart
Reading this was a great distraction! Thanks for sharing priorities!
November 22, 2013 at 10:26 am
Alexa Kaufhold
I’m so with you on the blog thing. I tried it too for about 5 minutes and quickly decided there were lots of other folks who did a better job at blogging. It’s just not my thing and I was relieved to learn that!
November 22, 2013 at 11:08 pm
bitsykemper
You are a fast learner, Alexa. Impressive you stopped yourself almost as soon as you started. I lost a week of my life to formatting! One of these days I’ll get over my perfectionism, post some ideally-helpful stuff, and then jump back into my work. Someday.
November 22, 2013 at 10:28 am
Brigid G
Focus. Write. Thank you 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 10:29 am
deborahholtwilliams
Thanks, Bitsy! Sometimes I feel guilty that my blog is pretty much just for myself, like a diary of my journey, but your post makes me realize it’s OK to put the writing first and the blogging somewhere down the priority list.
November 22, 2013 at 1:33 pm
bitsykemper
Glad to hear it, Deborah. Blogging at the expense of writing is common, but can be stopped. As Smokey the Bear would say…Only You Can Prevent Over Blogging! 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 10:32 am
danielledufayet
Distractions are sneaky! Good to be reminded about them so we can better focus. Thanks.
November 22, 2013 at 1:34 pm
bitsykemper
Sneaky, yes! Crafty, sneaky buggers, the lot of them. But not today, right?!
November 22, 2013 at 10:33 am
Sandie Sing
Amen! Your post said it all. Facebook,blog,etc. are becoming time consuming distractions. I think web sites are a better deal. One could check it once a week and still have a writer’s life. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
November 22, 2013 at 10:38 am
Juliana Lee
Oh No! I just spent DAYS perfecting my blog! Really though, it’s not a huge distraction and I find that I connect with other writers out there. We’re sharing ideas, great books, wonderful articles. I feel that I’m learning more than I’m offering, but someday I will pay it forward. And, I love your pic from Oh Brother Where Art Thou… hilarious! Good call!
November 22, 2013 at 12:53 pm
bitsykemper
If the time you spent on your blog and with writer friends was making you a better writer, then it’s not all misspent. Just promise me you’ll put that newfound knowledge to good use in your writing!
And props to Tara Lazar for finding the escaped prisoners image!
November 22, 2013 at 3:26 pm
Juliana Lee
You bet! I have seriously cut back on my ‘games’ with friends just so I can spend more time writing. But I do still have a strange addiction to funny movies. Oh well, can’t win ’em all! Enjoy the holidays Bitsy, I look forward to hearing more cool stuff from you!
November 23, 2013 at 8:44 am
Juliana Lee
Didn’t I already reply? I must be losing my mind! You are so right. Blogging should only be used constructively! I will not let my blog steal my writing time. I will not let my blog steal my writing time. I will not let my blog steal my writing time. 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 10:40 am
LovableLobo
Great post! Distractions are my biggest enemy!
November 22, 2013 at 10:42 am
Doreen E. Lepore
Thanks for a great post – it’s true, the shiny things are hard to resist!
November 22, 2013 at 10:51 am
Marty McCormick
Love your sense of humor. And it’s so true. I put off actual writing with all sorts of writing-related activities that are way easier, more fun, less frustrating, you name it. Which brings us back to BIC and my version of Nike’s motto: Just do it. Right NOW!
November 22, 2013 at 10:59 am
kathalsey
Scary, I think you tapped into my life. Yes, I spend time on my blog & FB & twitter & I “pretend” it’s writing!
November 22, 2013 at 12:49 pm
bitsykemper
If it’s making or keeping you creative, then all time is not wasted on social media. But if the beast eats away at writing time, well, then, show it the door. Disconnect from the internet if that’s what it takes! Word doesn’t need online access…
November 22, 2013 at 11:00 am
Ann Birnie
Bitsy – Thanks for the advice. Getting back to square one is hard and honestly, I think my square one hides from me.
November 22, 2013 at 12:50 pm
bitsykemper
LOL “Come out, come out, wherever you are!”
November 22, 2013 at 11:02 am
Pamela M. Tuck
I can truly relate, although I am one of the ones who would have to substitute other words for “blog” when it comes to distractions. It certainly feels good to know it’s a common beast, but one that can be tamed enough to become like Bitsy Kemper :). Thanks for sharing and inspiring us with the common battles of writers.
November 22, 2013 at 12:47 pm
bitsykemper
Carry on, warrior! You can do it! 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 11:05 am
Jackie Wellington21
This is by far one of my favorite post. I think the reason is she is talking directly to me. I felt so connected to this post. This was all about me, me, me! Wow! I do spend time on Facebook and write on a blog. But now that I am being called out, I have to get my butt back on the writing block. Thanks for the kick in the buttocks! I needed it 😀
November 22, 2013 at 11:11 pm
bitsykemper
You’re welcome!
(Want me to call you tomorrow around 2 and remind you again?) 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 11:09 am
Jewel Sample
gave up blogging when health issues got in the way. I didn’t take down my blogs, should I? I thought what was written was still good information. I think it is helpful to write about things that are timeless…can be used today or two years from now. However that is something one can’t predict. Like good books, no matter the age they are still wonderful to read. Indeed ms writing should be priority. Thank you for sharing..
November 22, 2013 at 12:46 pm
bitsykemper
I agree timeless posts should stay up. If you haven’t posted in a while, you might want to keep the content but remove the date so people don’t think it’s an unattended ghost site. You can also reword the oldest one, for example, and (re)post it to the top so the content looks fresh but it doesn’t take too much time to get it up there.
Hope the worst of your heath issues are behind you. Write on!
November 22, 2013 at 11:09 am
Patricia Holloway
Wow, I’ve experienced that prisoner who steals my time. Thank you very much for a post that most certainly speaks to me.
November 22, 2013 at 11:11 am
RADical Readers
Great advice! Love to see that I’m not alone with my distraction woes 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 11:21 am
Tracy Molitors
What’s that old saying…Life is what happens while you’re making plans for other things…Thanks for the reminder to rein in the distraction factor! Could you remind me again in about 10 minutes?
November 22, 2013 at 11:11 pm
bitsykemper
(Psst–Tracy! Don’t forget to stay focused!) 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 11:24 am
kpbock
That is why I have never started a blog. I would like to, but I know for a fact that I would get distracted with it for hours and hours!
November 22, 2013 at 12:40 pm
bitsykemper
Keep fighting the temptation! I’m not saying avoid all social media, just keep it in check. You are wise to have already figured that out1
November 22, 2013 at 11:31 am
klmcmorranmaus
Thank you for sharing. I often check FB when I am at the computer and supposed to be writing.
November 22, 2013 at 11:40 am
Melanie Vickers
Your nonfiction books are exactly what I have been searching for to study how to do them well. Thanks
November 22, 2013 at 12:39 pm
bitsykemper
What a kind thing to say, Melanie. Any time I re-read them, there are a hundred things I wish I did differently… Reading what’s already published is a fantastic way to do research so it’s never time wasted, not to mention it’s way more fun that cleaning the bathroom.
November 22, 2013 at 11:56 am
Courtenay Schurman
You hit the nail on the head. I have *not* followed the trend to Blog (or read blogs) because I want my mss to get out there just as quickly as I can perfect them. Still talking another year or two (middle grade novels). Wish there were a magic solution, but each of us has to find our own way… Thanks for the post!
November 22, 2013 at 11:58 am
tpierce
Too funny, Bitsy. For me, it’s my two cats. In that regard, you’re lucky. At least your blog (or toilet) doesn’t physically get on your lap and demand your attention!
November 22, 2013 at 12:35 pm
bitsykemper
I was going to reply “Well there was that one time…” but we don’t know each other well enough for you to hear me laugh as I say it, making it potentially coming across as weird, so I’ll just say Grab some kitty treats and shake them to the side of you; it’ll keep your cats occupied for at least a paragraph or so…
November 22, 2013 at 11:59 am
cathy john biggerstaff
Love, love, love this advice. I must be your twin. You described me perfectly. Sending this post off to my writers group. Blessings to you and yours!
November 22, 2013 at 12:30 pm
bitsykemper
Thanks Cathy! I hope your writer’s group finds it helpful too.
(And PS–if we are twins, then you must be hot, haha)
November 22, 2013 at 12:03 pm
Alicia Schwab
Bitsy, I laughed out loud. I just finished cleaning the toilet! No kidding.. But now I’ve got my b.i.c. and am starting work. Distraction is a major hurdle for me too. So glad you talked about it in your post and I love your quote, “…no one is going to give [time] to you.” I’ve gotten better at taking, with no apologies.
November 22, 2013 at 12:29 pm
bitsykemper
You go girl! The toilet can wait. (Unless you are having company over, then ew, that’s gross, grab a scrub brush already)
November 22, 2013 at 12:15 pm
kevanjatt
You, dear Bitsy, are a hoot!
November 22, 2013 at 12:27 pm
bitsykemper
Hoot hoot!
Thanks Kevan! 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 12:17 pm
teresa m.i. schaefer (@TMISchaefer)
“Now stop reading and get back to writing!” Love it. Thanks, Bitsy
November 22, 2013 at 12:26 pm
bitsykemper
Thanks, Teresa, but seriously, why are you taking the time to reply instead of writing? Snap snap let’s focus here! LOL
November 22, 2013 at 12:29 pm
Rene Aube
woo hoo! we ARE all in this together! *BIG sigh of relief* thought I was just completely alone and undisicplined…so glad to hear that at least I”m not alone! lol 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 10:45 pm
bitsykemper
“We’re all in this together”–isn’t that a song from Broadway? Maybe it should be a title of your next picture book, Rene! 😉
November 22, 2013 at 12:32 pm
Rosi Hollinbeck
Hi Bitsy. I have so many distractions, it is not funny. I swear I am going to carve out some inviolate time for my writing as soon as I get a few more things done. (sigh) Thanks for the laughs. Always a good thing.
November 22, 2013 at 12:35 pm
Lori Mozdzierz
“Make time for yourself, no one is going to give it to you.”
Isn’t that the truth!
Great post, Bitsy! 😀
November 22, 2013 at 12:44 pm
Patrick Waldron
“Now stop reading and get back to writing!” What? Who said I didn’t start writing after reading your first sentence? Thank you.
November 22, 2013 at 12:50 pm
Jessica
I have that sort of procrastination that involves finding other things to do instead of the thing that needs doing. I thought I was the only one who cleans the bathroom when I’m supposed to be writing…
November 22, 2013 at 12:53 pm
Stacy S. Jensen
I read this post to avoid the toilet. May I stay here for a while to keep avoiding the toilet?
November 22, 2013 at 1:37 pm
bitsykemper
Yes. (But when you really have to use the toilet, by all means stop reading/writing and go!)
November 22, 2013 at 12:59 pm
Lauri
Love it! You have a kindred spirit in me for sure. Maybe that’s why my blog is so lonely and why the house is in dire need of a major cleaning. Write on!
November 22, 2013 at 1:37 pm
bitsykemper
Write on indeed! 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 1:08 pm
Robyn Campbell
I couldn’t have said it better. My blog suffers, but I don’t because the writing is what it’s all about. Thanks for letting me know IT’S OKAY! Hugs to you. Happy Thanksgiving.
November 22, 2013 at 1:44 pm
bitsykemper
It IS okay, Robyn!
Thanks for the kind comments. ❤
November 22, 2013 at 1:09 pm
Pam Brunskill (@PamBrunskill)
Great post, Bitsy! I keep thinking I need to start a blog/website, but then I would lose out on all that writing time–and it’s so precious to begin with! Thanks for sharing.
November 22, 2013 at 1:48 pm
bitsykemper
Pam, scroll up to see the replies I left for Sheila and Melanie…the blog can wait!
November 22, 2013 at 1:22 pm
LeslieG
Oh wow–Vulcan mind meld! If I ever start a blog, I would be so much like you, it’s scary! Forewarned is foreamed! Thank you!
November 22, 2013 at 1:45 pm
bitsykemper
“Vulcan mind meld” made my day 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 1:22 pm
Ellen Mott
OMG! How funny is that? And how many of us relate!! The computer often calls my name – time to read email and reply. Back to writing, then remember to Google how to write a synopsis. Can it really be done in one sentence? Did I buy a turkey yet? Write a paragraph, time to pay the bills. I have to stay away from the puter when writing or I’ll surely play ‘Super Granny’ for umpteenth time and lose all my kittens to a red t-rex.
Do male authors pick up a scrub brush? Thanks for your humorous look at ourselves. Loved it.
November 22, 2013 at 1:43 pm
bitsykemper
Ellen, you should never surf while writing. C’mon now. Focus focus focus 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 1:29 pm
Noel Csermak
You have obviously touched a nerve with all of us working writers hoping to break into the business. Staying focused is quite a challenge. Thank you for your words of support.
November 22, 2013 at 1:30 pm
heather sisson
I completly agree. i force myself to blog once a week but i spends hours as well just re designing everything.
November 22, 2013 at 1:41 pm
bitsykemper
Heather, repeat after me: I will not over-blog, I will not over-blog!
November 22, 2013 at 1:49 pm
katmaz2012
I usually just read the blog and maybe look at the author’s other web sites, but this time, I was reading all the comments and your replies! I think I needed that distractions today. Thank you so much. Now I am on to… sending Thanksgiving cards?
November 22, 2013 at 4:31 pm
bitsykemper
Hey hey now, no card writing for you today! Back to work!! Quick, before you come up with another excuse…
November 22, 2013 at 2:06 pm
Christine M. Irvin
Well said, Bitsy!!!
November 22, 2013 at 2:11 pm
Pam Jones
I always know, if I want a super clean house, just sit down to do some writing, and poof! clean house! Hahahaha!
November 22, 2013 at 4:30 pm
bitsykemper
LOL 😉
November 22, 2013 at 2:16 pm
Susan Nicholas
Thanks for the funny words of encouragement. I’m glad to find out that I’m not the only one who gets distracted.
November 22, 2013 at 2:19 pm
kirsticall
I agree Bitsy. I started a blog because my debut picture book is coming out and I felt like it was required, but I would rather spend time on my manuscripts, so that’s what I do:)
November 22, 2013 at 4:30 pm
bitsykemper
There are other ways social media can help you with your debut book. Maybe a blog tour would be a better use of your time. Why not spend time on other people’s blogs where they do the posting and promoting for you? Just make sure they are the RIGHT blogs, don’t just say yes to everyone.
November 22, 2013 at 2:47 pm
dee win
Bitsy- thanks for your advice and for reminding me that i have a blog!
November 22, 2013 at 2:48 pm
danacarey1
Ha! Fun post. And so true. Thanks, Bitsy!
November 22, 2013 at 2:52 pm
Sherry Walz
Bitsy, I’m so glad that I’m not the only one who flits from one thing to another and back again. Thanks for making me laugh today.
November 22, 2013 at 3:02 pm
sketched out
Thanks Bitsy! Very validating post! Went through similar thing. Finally gave myself permission to let social media/blog take back seat to my actual goals. Finding balance is key, but if one has to go for a time it will be the blog/FB! BTW, love your blog header (sorry (0;)
November 22, 2013 at 3:14 pm
Perfecting Motherhood
Ah, focus focus focus is what I tell my kids every day, while I’m having the hardest time doing it myself. So many things to do, so little time…
November 22, 2013 at 10:47 pm
bitsykemper
It *is* easier said than done, huh? Practice makes perfect 🙂
November 23, 2013 at 1:20 am
Perfecting Motherhood
Yep, and it’s also how to find ways to limit the interruptions or the distractions, in order to find the flow faster. It’s funny how easier it is to find time for something you enjoy doing rather than something that you just have to do!
November 22, 2013 at 3:36 pm
Sally Spratt
You lost me at chocolate…Thanks Bitsy.
November 22, 2013 at 3:37 pm
helen dening
I am sooooo glad I’m not alone. I have a blog site under construction and as I’m at the mercy of my husband’s time(he’s the designer), it may be under construction for months, perhaps years. Yet, I thought I’d be proactive and write the blogs ahead of time and then just post them. How ridiculous! I find that I’m rewriting and rewriting. Enough! I going to put my energies back into my manuscripts or maybe I should check out those toilet… no, write first!
November 22, 2013 at 3:46 pm
Dorothy Wiese
Thanks, Bitsy, you warned me to stay away from my own blog and just read other people’s. Responding to others is ok too. You made me laugh. I needed that.
November 22, 2013 at 10:48 pm
bitsykemper
It’s okay to spend *some* time on your blog, Dorothy, just don’t let it eat into your precious writing time! That’s the key. I think. I am pretty sure. Surely it works for others…
November 22, 2013 at 3:48 pm
Darshana
Thank you Bitsy. I have a slightly different dilemma. I actually love to post more than I do writing, unless I am many revisions into a story, then I love working on it. Sometimes I worry I am not a writer because I don’t love it enough. The things about blog posts is that I enjoy the immediacy of connecting to like-minded people. My biggest vice by far is Facebook and all the craft-related blog posts I read as a result. You have definitely given me something to think about. 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 4:27 pm
bitsykemper
Maybe you can write about crafts! 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 3:51 pm
Sue Heavenrich
Yeah – those blogs are like needy children… I’ve found at least a dozen other ways to distract myself from writing my manu – ooh, what’s that bird doing down there at the feeder?
November 22, 2013 at 4:06 pm
Kaye Baillie
Thanks, Bitsy and I love your hair color.
November 22, 2013 at 4:25 pm
bitsykemper
Thanks Kaye! By the time the pic was taken my bright pink had turned to a light purply shade, but hey, it’s still a splash of color 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 4:15 pm
Sandy Perlic
Distractions are truly evil! Love the advice to make time for what we enjoy.
November 22, 2013 at 4:21 pm
aliciaminor
Yes, always prioritize because all else can wait but writing. Thanks for sharing.
November 22, 2013 at 4:28 pm
Denise Bowman
Good focus would help us accomplish so many things! Thank you for the reminder.
November 22, 2013 at 4:32 pm
Penny
Loved this post. Could relate to so many points.
But – can’t comment much more – got to go and ‘get back to that writing’.
November 22, 2013 at 4:58 pm
bitsykemper
Impressive self control, Penny! I’m envious!
November 22, 2013 at 4:56 pm
Suzy Leopold
Making time for yourself and your priorities are so important. Thank you for the reminder and the inspiration. ~Suzy Leopold
November 22, 2013 at 5:41 pm
Laurie L. Young
I don’t have a blog, but a million other things fight for my attention every day. It’s so hard to keep my writing time sacred—I lose it about half the time. What does help is making writing appointments with friends. If I can show up, I can write!
November 22, 2013 at 10:49 pm
bitsykemper
Writing appointments — I like it! You can make a date with yourself at the library too…get reading AND research done in one fell swoop.
November 22, 2013 at 5:42 pm
MummyTheFunny (@EmiHowe)
I think there is a need in future generations for ‘social media control studies’. They’ll be on every curriculum I betcha! It’s a modern malaise and it’s making us so inefficient…sorry you lost me to a picture of somebody’s dinner on Facebook. Bitsy I love your name and I loved this post. I prioritised my blog today and gave my ms only 1 of my precious 6 hours. Time to rethink xx
November 22, 2013 at 10:51 pm
bitsykemper
If not studies, support groups at least, haha
November 22, 2013 at 5:57 pm
lindamartinandersen
Thanks for remindng us of the bottom line!
November 22, 2013 at 6:24 pm
Ashley Bankhead
Great post. Thanks for sharing.
November 22, 2013 at 6:49 pm
Catherine Johnson
As well as bloggers anonymous I have paintaholic. See the first thing I thought after reading this was wow what a nice author photo I want to paint it lol. Great post!
November 22, 2013 at 10:52 pm
bitsykemper
If you’re an illustrator or author/illustrator, then painting is good! If you mean painting the bathroom walls, though, that can wait… 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 6:52 pm
Gaye Kick
I don’t have a blog – not there yet – just got a smart phone. I loved your post. I don’t post until evening and then I typically skim the other posts and jump to the bottom to put in my two cents. This time I read all the posts with your replies too! Thanks for doing that!
November 22, 2013 at 10:53 pm
bitsykemper
You read me al the way through! I am honored 🙂 Thanks for the kind words.
November 22, 2013 at 6:53 pm
Nancy Churnin
Thanks Bitsy, I feel a little guilty taking the time to comment when I should be working on my manuscript, but I do want to thank you for the funny and to the point post!
November 22, 2013 at 10:54 pm
bitsykemper
Haha — feeling guilty means it’s working 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 7:07 pm
Mary Jo
Wonder how many long your mind wandered like a crawling baby before settling so you could write this spot-on post…?! Grateful for the words as I’ve struggled A LOT with the constant advice of “You need a blog,” “You should have a Web site”, or “Aren’t you on Twitter?” While all the while I just want to write my manuscripts.
November 22, 2013 at 10:54 pm
bitsykemper
Oh my mind wandered for days writing this post. So glad it returned home in time for deadline, haha
November 22, 2013 at 7:13 pm
Dawnyelle
Thank you! I needed that!
November 22, 2013 at 9:03 pm
MSackman
Boy, can I relate to your post. I give in to distractions much too often. I sometimes believe I thrive on guilt trips!
November 22, 2013 at 9:32 pm
Evie Hjartarson
Thanks Bitsy, I love how you connect with the comments. I liked your thoughts and will FOCUS.
November 22, 2013 at 10:56 pm
bitsykemper
FOCUS in all caps–yes! You are a quick learning and a star student! You will do well my friend, may your distractions never get the bests of you 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 9:40 pm
viviankirkfield
Bitsy…I really appreciate your honesty and pull-no-punches appraisal of the importance of blogging. You are spot on when you say that it is critical to remember what you want to/need to be doing. I started a blog when my parenting book was published…I love the connecting…I love the visiting of other blogs and the reading and commenting. But I am often (too often pulled away from writing/revising/submitting picture books in order to blog.
“Do not tend to your blog at the expense of your other writing progress!” That is my take-away golden nugget…and I thank you for it.!
Congratulations on your successes…and best of luck with your family…your three children…four, if you count your husband.:) 🙂 Yes, I have one of those as well. (3 children..or 4, if you count my husband, which you definitely would have to)
And now I am off to put down on paper some story ideas that came to me today as my 5-year old grandson helped make pumpkin spice muffins!
November 22, 2013 at 10:57 pm
bitsykemper
Glad it struck a chord, Vivian. PS can you mail me some o’ those pumpkin muffins?
November 23, 2013 at 5:17 pm
viviankirkfield
OMG…I would love to! I’m afraid to get on the scale because I’ve been snacking on them (made with the healthiest rung of the food pyramid, you know!) for breakfast, lunch and dinner. 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 10:37 pm
intheirownwriteTeena Raffa-Mulligan
Bitsy…what a treat to read your post and discover I may be the queen of distraction but I’m definitely not alone. Interestingly, some of my best story ideas have come while cleaning the bath or watering the pot plants.
November 22, 2013 at 10:58 pm
bitsykemper
How nice to meet you, oh Queen of Distraction! May I be crowned princess? LOL
November 22, 2013 at 10:47 pm
Dawn Young
Thanks for sharing.
November 22, 2013 at 10:53 pm
Cecilia Clark
that was a delightful chuckle to move me back to my manuscripts and off the internet in any manifestation. Thanks Bitsy 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 10:59 pm
bitsykemper
“Delightful chuckle” = Bitsy blushing with pride. Thanks Cecelia! 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 11:51 pm
Stella Jane Stauffer
Fun post! Posting and writing and uploading on my blog gives me “instant gratification” that I finished something without waiting for about 3 months to hear from a publisher. What-the-heck…I don’t even have followers but the way I nurture the “beloved blog” you would think the children literary world is waiting for my next post. Nope…hasn’t happened.
November 23, 2013 at 1:52 am
bitsykemper
It hasn’t happened…YET 🙂
November 23, 2013 at 7:22 am
Karen Mae Zoccoli
Thanks Bitsy for this post. I love what you said, “Make time for yourself, no one is going to give it to you.” That is absolutely true!
November 23, 2013 at 7:25 am
Joanna
It took me two years of blogging before I finally got the balance right with my writing. Thanks, Bitsy!
November 25, 2013 at 2:17 am
bitsykemper
Round of applause for finding the balance! Way to go, Joanna!
November 23, 2013 at 8:32 am
aliciaminor
To blog or not to blog, that is the question but in today’s world, it comes along with the famosity (famous) and necessity of a cellphone. To writers, the importance of blogging depends, but I suggest we should have more time to write. Prioritize.
November 23, 2013 at 8:47 am
Samantha Grenier
Ahh! I identify with this very much! You WILL be published in humor soon. I wish you the best 🙂
Your column was a fun read! Thank you very much Bitsy!
November 25, 2013 at 2:18 am
bitsykemper
Thanks Samantha, it’s always nice to know I made someone other than myself laugh, haha
November 23, 2013 at 9:35 am
Kathy Cornell Berman
Thanks Bitsy! I felt guilty for not having a blog. I knew it would become a BIG distraction. I love getting into research mode with everything I do, so blogging not a good idea for me. FOCUS…FOCUS…
November 25, 2013 at 2:42 am
bitsykemper
Don’t feel guilty! Be proud! You’re concentrating on the good stuff. The rest can wait.
November 23, 2013 at 10:12 am
Barbara Messinger
Now I’m going to focus on being focused. Thanks!
November 23, 2013 at 10:19 am
Lauri Meyers
Making time for yourself is the key. Sometimes it’s hard to get butt in chair, but it always feels so GOOD once you are there. I never feel regret after writing.
November 25, 2013 at 2:40 am
bitsykemper
I never regret writing either (unless I write after eating chocolate on a warm day and get smudges all over my screen and paper…)
November 23, 2013 at 10:54 am
Theanna
Thank you Bitsy! Great post. Distractions are a hassle, but you are right. We have to make time for the writing that is truly important to us. Thank you for sharing.
November 25, 2013 at 2:20 am
bitsykemper
Thanks Theanna, may your distractions be few 🙂
November 25, 2013 at 2:21 am
bitsykemper
I never regret writing either (unless I write after eating chocolate on a warm day and get smudges all over my screen and paper…)
November 25, 2013 at 2:39 am
bitsykemper
Whoops, that reply was for Lauri…
November 23, 2013 at 10:59 am
Linda Thompson
What a great name, Bitsy! I id’d with this post so much! Next stop is your blog. Thank you!
November 25, 2013 at 2:40 am
bitsykemper
Thanks Linda 🙂
November 23, 2013 at 11:04 am
alisonhertz
The main thing keeping me from writing (other than laundry, groceries, cooking, cleaning, children, …) is drawing. As both an author and an illustrator, it can be difficult to find the balance. Focus, focus, focus..
November 25, 2013 at 2:23 am
bitsykemper
Writer AND illustrator? Oh man, you’re screwed. JK! Maybe you can distract your writing with illustrating and your illustrating with writing…?
November 23, 2013 at 3:24 pm
RadSheri
What a fun post and so like my day of distractions. I can’t wait to read her books and see what business plan she does for marketing an Author.
November 23, 2013 at 5:45 pm
Andrea
Love this quote: “Make time for yourself, no one is going to give it to you.”
This is so true!
November 25, 2013 at 2:35 am
bitsykemper
Thanks Andrea, hope it helps you secure more time for yourself!
November 23, 2013 at 9:29 pm
Brenda Harris
Oooo, she sounds so much like me when it comes to blogs and writing. Lol
November 25, 2013 at 2:36 am
bitsykemper
Repeat after me, Brenda: Just for today, I will not let my blog take over, I will not let my blog take over… 🙂
November 23, 2013 at 10:09 pm
lisa bader
Bitsy-what a fun post & such a fabulous pic I love your passion for your craft…balanced with a healthy dose of reality!
November 29, 2013 at 12:09 pm
bitsykemper
Thanks Lisa!! Wait, are you the Lisa Bader from http://www.WrapWithLove.com? I love that site!
November 23, 2013 at 10:27 pm
Cathy C. Hall
Oh, yeah, it’s always something–if it’s not the blog, it’s those pesky family people, expecting to be fed regularly. And the dishes? The pile of dirty clothes?–don’t get me started. 🙂
November 25, 2013 at 2:34 am
bitsykemper
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve asked my kids “Didn’t I feed you yesterday?” but sheesh, they always come back for more… Too bad we can’t feed them dirty laundry, huh? LOL
November 23, 2013 at 10:43 pm
Penny Parker Klostermann
It’s definitely a love/hate thing between me and my Internet! I love the quick access to information, writing blogs, publishing news, etc….but the quickness is like quicksand, too. It grabs me and sucks me right in…I say I’m gonna get back to my writing and it just sucks harder 🙂 I like your husband’s idea. In fact about 7 weeks ago I made myself and schedule and it has helped me avoid the quicksand. I set a timer and everything. I really have been more productive. You speak the truth, Bitsy. Thanks for an entertaining and accurate post!
November 25, 2013 at 2:32 am
bitsykemper
A timer–great idea! I might give that a try too, thanks!
November 24, 2013 at 12:04 am
Fashionista Philly
I can so relate to your blog posting thanks so much Bitsy!
November 24, 2013 at 2:06 am
Teresa Daffern
I totally get it! Thank you Bitsy, for your honesty and humour. I will make time for writing, because you’re absolutely correct — it won’t just be given to us.
November 25, 2013 at 2:32 am
bitsykemper
🙂
November 24, 2013 at 12:18 pm
Sharon K Mayhew
Great post, Bitsy! Blogging and Facebooking does distract from my writing, but both things also have given me so much…critique partners, writing friends, animal lover friends, and even a couple agent friends. It would be hard to give either activity up, so I mainly am on the in the evening. The afternoons are my writing time.
November 25, 2013 at 2:31 am
bitsykemper
Slick, Sharon, the way you can effectively marry the two!
November 24, 2013 at 1:07 pm
Kathy moncrief
I don’t have a blog (sorry) for precisely this reason! Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE reading YOURS, I just know myself. As a retired graphic designrt, I could spend waaaaayyyy too much time on a blog just making it pretty. I just think I need to be focusing on A BOOK! Bitsy, you definitely made me feel like I’ve made the right choice, FOR NOW. I can’t waste any time, especially after the DAY 24 post!
November 25, 2013 at 2:29 am
bitsykemper
Stay the course Kathy! Happy you agree the blog can wait. Your writing needs as much of your attention as possible. You’re worth it!
November 24, 2013 at 2:09 pm
Priya Gopal
Focus focus focus, good reminder
November 24, 2013 at 3:37 pm
Kathryn Ault Noble
So true, Bitsy! I was a graphic designer for years, then taught at an art school for years. I’ve found a blog format that works, kind of, but the typography pains me!
November 25, 2013 at 2:26 am
bitsykemper
Font, color scheme, format…it’s always something, right? Maybe we have too many choices. Or maybe we’re human and easily distracted (I’ll speak for myself there!)
November 24, 2013 at 6:22 pm
thiskidreviewsbooks
I think I need to take a lesson from you – stop doing emails and blog stuff 24/7. So, goodbye! I’m gonna write! 😀
November 25, 2013 at 2:24 am
bitsykemper
🙂
November 24, 2013 at 7:05 pm
Debbie Faith Mickelson
I relate to this more than I care to admit. “Make time for yourself, no one is going to give it to you,” is brilliant. Thanks.
November 25, 2013 at 2:37 am
bitsykemper
Thanks Debbie!
November 24, 2013 at 8:59 pm
SevenAcreSky
Bitsy, thanks for this warning…at the moment my blog is my ‘occasional hit’ and I’m not, really, I think addicted to it. Just a means of ‘expression.’
I DO have blogs clogging my mailbox though…I have subscribed to several in the name of ‘inspiration.’
That takes time, but there are other distractions in my life, as you suggest, that are more alive and demanding than blogs.
I must learn to demand my own time…like you said, “they aren’t going to give it to you.”
Thanks.
November 25, 2013 at 2:38 am
bitsykemper
You can do it! You can whip those distractions into shape, I know you can!
November 25, 2013 at 8:36 am
erin
This is so right on. Remembering to make time for yourself is something I struggle with. No one is going to give me extra hours in the day. Thanks for this!
November 25, 2013 at 12:42 pm
wendymyersart
So true. When I find myself cleaning or decorating (used loosely, it’s really just moving stuff around) I know I’m big into avoidance behavior. Proudly, I have 2, that’s TWO!, blogs half finished which I keep saying I’m going to get running. But then I see the half finished dummies in the corner, the manuscripts calling out, ‘don’t leave me like this, I need change,” and I get to work. I’m Queen of half done house projects. Thanks for the kick in the…err..reminder! 🙂
November 29, 2013 at 11:39 am
bitsykemper
“just moving stuff around…” LOL, *that’s* how you know that cleaning job is distraction and not commitment 🙂
November 25, 2013 at 12:49 pm
Debbie Austin
Thanks for sharing, Bitsy! I, too, indulge in many distractions although bathroom cleaning is usually my last resort. Still, once in awhile it does make the list of distractions vying for my time — time I must guard for my manuscripts. Thanks for the encouragement!
November 25, 2013 at 1:38 pm
Laurie Young
Great advice!!! I have so many distractions in my life… I am going to tame the beast or beasts, right now!!! 🙂
November 25, 2013 at 1:46 pm
Jennifer Kaplan
Thanks! Time management is tough.
November 25, 2013 at 4:19 pm
Sandi Lawson
Well said! Distractions are my biggest problem.
November 25, 2013 at 6:55 pm
Kirsten Carlson (@kirstencarlson)
I’ve actually thought about getting an old fashioned time-clock, the kind where you stick a card in and it puts a time-date on it…wondering if that would commit me to a schedule. So glad you shared how you “make it happen.” Lots of great stuff!
November 29, 2013 at 11:40 am
bitsykemper
Love that image of punching a time clock! I think that would force me into regular writing hours too!
November 26, 2013 at 1:37 am
Lynn Anne Carol
Great post.
Great honesty.
Great Gatspy, you sound like me.
Thanks for the chuckles. Now pass me some chocolate,
Lynn
November 29, 2013 at 11:42 am
bitsykemper
OK, here ya go Lynn, just don’t take a big piece, OK? this stuff’s gotta last me thru PiBoIdMo!
November 26, 2013 at 2:54 am
Dani Duck
I get distracted easily as well! I find that I actually buckle down and focus more now that I have had a baby. You can’t just ignore a crying baby, but there are ways to budget your time so you do have time to work on your writing. I don’t know if I’ll get a ton more writing done this year, but I will try to focus on writing a lot more after the year is over (still working on Illustration work though).
November 29, 2013 at 11:49 am
bitsykemper
Have your read the NaNoWriMo book by founder Chris Baty? (it’s fabulous, by the way) In it he basically says that the busier you are, the more you can get done. I love that theory. If I have 10 things to do today, I will try to get them all done. If I have ONE thing to do…well, I might wait until tomorrow or the next day… So that precious little baby of yours just might be helping you write because you are forced to carve out writing or illustrating time instead of “doing it later” I hope the PiBoIdMo has helped you focus. Now kiss that baby, ask someone else to change it, and get to work, even if it’s for 20 minutes 🙂
November 26, 2013 at 4:22 pm
writersideup
Bitsy, do you know that all I did was nod my head while reading your post, then, as I scanned through the comments and your replies, it worked me into tears. Yes—tears. I struggle with this daily (especially the past couple of months, now that I’m social-media-active), and hear conflicting advice, both pro and con, about the whole platform-building, social-media world.
It took me several years to jump into the social media “waters” because, in having been in misc. groups and chats (sporadically) in years past, I dreaded what I KNEW would be very time-consuming. I already had an overwhelming demanding life (in ways I won’t get into), and didn’t want to make it worse. Now I have. I finally did it because it’s pretty much all you hear, everywhere within the writing/publishing community, about building a platform, how, when, why, the whole thing, because authors have to do most of the promotional and marketing work themselves. That, alone, kills me because I’m not a “sales” type anyway. BUT—I am most definitely a chatty, sociable person AND an information addict. Not only do I thoroughly enjoy “meeting” new and interesting people, and conversing, but I find ZILLIONS of things interesting or important and, as everyone knows, on the internet you’re only a split-second click away from the next “thing.”
I’ve been slowly (in spurts) setting up my blog, but haven’t launched because I want to work out HOW I’m going to maintain it before I dig my hole deeper. Meanwhile, reading so many blogs (all good!), commenting and connecting with people (mostly through Twitter) has taken over. I’m still trying to figure out how to whittle things down to take less time, yet still accomplish what it needs to, but it’s very hard when your brain is foggy 24/7. All I know is I virtually never spend time doing the writing that supposedly warrants me needing to blog and be active online. So—tears.
Anyway, thank you for posting this. At some point, I will probably download a program Lisa Yee recommended. I’d heard of it before, but she recently reposted it and I think it will be what I resort to. It may be of use to many others, too:
http://redroom.com/member/lisa-yee/blog/taming-my-internet-addiction
Thanks, and Happy Writing everyone!
November 29, 2013 at 12:02 pm
bitsykemper
It sounds like you have done your research thoroughly, but now it’s time to work. That’s a scary place to be, isn’t it? Putting pen to paper opens up a new level of possible failure, so by not writing we’re not exposing ourselves to criticism., right? At least that’s how I feel.
Maybe you can whittle your exploration down little by little, slowly giving yourself a little more writing time every day. I personally think it’s better to go cold turkey (Thanksgiving analogy aside) and (Nike slogan aside) JUST DO IT. That software might just do the trick.
I’m glad you made great contacts and learned great things, but you can’t be a student forever. Take a chance, my friend! You are so worth it.
November 29, 2013 at 9:59 pm
writersideup
Bitsy, you’re such a sweetheart 🙂 I’m thinking you may have misunderstood my plight, but that’s OK 🙂 I’m actually not at all afraid to write; it’s where I would prefer to put my focus and really want to get this whittled down so I can finally do that. It’s the frustration of the lack of time, for so many reasons, that upsets me. And it’s not the learning and research—it’s the whole social media thing and building a platform. The learning, etc. is simply stuff I’m drawn to, whether it has to do with writing or something else that’s interesting. Often times I DO find helpful hints I may be able to use to make my writing life (WHEN it begins) perhaps easier or better. Anyway, the socializing is very easy for me and I enjoy interracting with the many other book lovers (teachers, librarians, other author/illustrators, reviewers, people in the pub. biz, etc.), but it’s too much to do all the things agents, publishing houses, etc. say we need to do. It simply takes an inordinate amount of time. At some point I’m sure I’ll get it figured out, but for now, it’s a struggle. Thanks for taking the time to reply, Bitsy! 😀
November 26, 2013 at 6:33 pm
Kelly Vavala
Love it…very funny and so so true…I get distracted in between getting the kcup and putting it in the machine to actually getting a cup out, came back one time and WHAT? no cup lol all because I had to hurry and write a story idea on a napkin!
November 29, 2013 at 12:03 pm
bitsykemper
Napkin or not, at least you wrote it down! Good job 🙂
November 27, 2013 at 12:33 am
blanchebaxter
Bitsy, thank you! I feel the same way. I have to remember, everything in moderation. I’ll try and use it as a break and not a distraction.
November 29, 2013 at 12:16 am
Jane R Cooper
I suffer from blog envy…& perfectionistic paralysis…Recipe for a perfect storm to get me off track. Thanks for your guiding wisdom!
November 29, 2013 at 12:04 pm
bitsykemper
Hah, Jane, yes. that is the perfect recipe for a storm. Put all the energy into your writing instead 🙂
November 29, 2013 at 6:21 am
Tracey Jackson
I don’t have a ‘blog’ but there are many other words that I could insert in there instead that distract me just as you’ve said. Thank you, Bitsy, for the reminder to FOCUS!
November 30, 2013 at 1:11 am
angiekarcher
Great advice for me…an aspiring blogger, distracted, wannabe perfectionist!
November 30, 2013 at 11:33 am
alwaysbedancing
I find my blog is a great way to keep up with my current thoughts. Like a diary. It is the added distraction if email face book etc that I find the most distracting!
November 30, 2013 at 2:31 pm
Amy Smith
Around the time you decided to start your blog, I decided not to. For this very reason. Haven’t sworn it off forever, but don’t feel like Im strong enough to fight the distraction monster yet. But I’m so glad I’ll have this post to refer to when I do. Thanks Bitsy.
December 2, 2013 at 1:41 am
bitsykemper
Glad the post was helpful, Amy, and hope it’s still resourceful when you decide to blog. Best of luck. 🙂
November 30, 2013 at 3:01 pm
carolmunrojww
That line about getting the camera to grab some shots for the blog? Yep, that was me, but now I usually break the rules and throw blog posts up that are all text so I can get on to the next writerly thing. And geez, I know just what you mean about that toilet. lol
November 30, 2013 at 3:12 pm
City Sights for Kids
I started my blog to build a platform for a writing project I began 3-4 years ago. I was active for about 6 months and then began planning a wedding. That initial project is still on my mind but I changed my focus and haven’t added to the blog in 2 years while I have been focusing on my PB manuscripts. I keep thinking I need resources on achieving balance between writing, day job, family, writing, play, etc., but it is really about MAKING THE TIME! Thanks for the reminder: “Make time for yourself, no one is going to give it to you.”
November 30, 2013 at 6:52 pm
Dana Atnip
So true, Bitsy! I get distracted easily (something shiny!), plus all of the other distractions (FB). I haven’t joined Twitter as I’m afraid of more distractions. I try to blog more than once in a blue moon, but thank you for reminding me that it’s the writing (and art in my case) that’s important!
December 2, 2013 at 1:43 am
bitsykemper
You’re welcome, Dana. I’d have replied sooner but OH! BUTTERFLY!
November 30, 2013 at 9:30 pm
Tracey M. Cox
Bitsy, READING blogs is a great time waster too. *cough, cough* *wink, wink* Thanks for the kick in the behind to get me in the right direction.
December 2, 2013 at 1:43 am
bitsykemper
LOL. True story! 🙂
December 3, 2013 at 12:28 am
Laurie J. Edwards
I always manage to get a lot done on my “procrastination” list whenever I have a deadline. Glad to know I’m not the only one.