by Kelly Mangan & Adrea Theodore
‘Write what you know’ is a popular refrain we’re used to hearing as writers. And for good reason! When you write from your own, lived experience, there’s an honesty and authenticity to your words that’s hard to duplicate.
But what do you do when a lived experience is rooted in a difficult or uncomfortable reality? How do you translate those sorts of experiences into a story for kids? And…should you?
There are no easy, universal answers to these questions. But hopefully OUR answers will help as you dig into your own life experiences for story inspiration.
Why write about reality?
ADREA: For me, it starts with the story. If there’s a particular story that I want to tell, I have to consider if using the framework of a real-life experiences is the best way to do it. With my debut picture book, A HISTORY OF ME, I had a story to tell about a young girl being the only person of color in class during lessons on slavery and segregation. I had a story to tell about that same girl growing in her understanding of and appreciation for her heritage, one that includes an ancestor who was enslaved in this country. It might be difficult to write about, but not nearly as difficult as actually having the experience. This story is also worth sharing, since I know there are other kids out there experiencing the same or similar things right now.
KELLY: I write about challenging realities to comfort and validate kids going through similar situations. But also…? Because I want encourage kids to think about why things are the way they are, and to question if they could be different. For example, I was the fat girl growing up. I never once saw a fat character in a picture book who wasn’t either a bully or a buffoon. Sadly, that remains largely unchanged in children’s media (fat is often used as a visual shorthand for a whole slew of negative character traits). So I often seek out story ideas which confront this paradigm.
How do I know if a topic is appropriate for kids or not?
KELLY: I think virtually any topic can be broached with kids if done in a thoughtful, developmentally-appropriate way. I have two children who are picture-book-age, so I often think about how I’d explain a difficult topic to them. What questions or concerns do I anticipate them having? How could I answer those in a way that is honest and honors their intelligence, but which isn’t overly upsetting? And perhaps most importantly: What’s the overarching message or feeling I want kids to take away from this story?
ADREA: I definitely agree. The pages of a book can be viewed as a safe space to hear about or see things that can be scary, difficult to handle, or hard to explain.
How do you address serious topics in children’s books in an age-appropriate way?
ADREA: My approach? First, try to see it—whatever “it” is—from a kid’s perspective. Remember what it was like to be that age; and if it’s from your own experience, remember what or how you felt. What was most important to you?
Second, simplify “it” in terms that would make sense to a young person. Consider your words, phrases, sentence structure, and metaphors. Keep in mind that the illustrations will likely carry as much weight as the words, especially for those who aren’t yet reading on their own. As an example, in A HISTORY OF ME, there is a scene that takes place on a playground because these spaces are familiar to young children. The playground is known as a place for fun, but it becomes a place of racial insensitivity; and this juxtaposition is unsettling, but necessary.
KELLY: I always start from a personal experience, like being the only fat girl in my ballet class. Then I dig into the little, concrete details of that experience: the disdainful way other students looked at me; the snickers of the parents; my own mother’s fear of me performing and embarrassing myself. I needn’t ever say “people didn’t think she could be a dancer because she was fat”– for one, because it’s unnecessary: children are smarter, more nuanced readers/listeners than adults often give them credit for. And for two, because focusing too much on the pain can actually be damaging to kids rather than empowering. It’s a tough balance.
Does writing about reality always have to be sad?
KELLY: Absolutely not! I don’t write about serious topics to make kids sad. I write about them to instill hope, foster compassion, and to make kids feel seen. There has to be light at the end of the tunnel. Ultimately, I’m trying to distill my experiences down into something useful for kids.
ADREA: When we write about a serious topic, one that is uncomfortable or difficult in real life, we should consider how to present it in such a way that it’s beneficial to our audience. Is this something that can be used as a mirror for some kids or a window for others? Can it enhance empathy or cultivate kindness? And is there a way to leave the child reader with hope, regardless of the situation? The onus is on the writer to find that hope first and then bring it out in the text so the reader can see it and grab hold of it.
ADREA THEODORE is a mom, a pediatrician and a children’s book author from North Carolina. Her debut picture book, A HISTORY OF ME (Neal Porter Books/Holiday House) is available for pre-order now and in stores soon (January 18, 2022)! When not writing, Dr. Theodore works in a local child advocacy center (CAC) with children being evaluated for abuse or neglect. Every child she sees there also has a story to tell. Follow her on Twitter @adrea_theodore or check her website for upcoming event info: adreatheodore.com.
KELLY MANGAN an author and illustrator of picture books, middle grade, and young adult stories. She was a 2021 #PBChat mentee, and recently won an honorable mention in the KidLit411 annual banner contest. Though originally from the south, she now resides in snowy Vermont with her partner and two kids. When she’s not writing or drawing, you’ll likely find her weaving on a rigid heddle loom, reading anything with Squirrel Girl, or watching Star Trek with a cup of Earl Grey, hot. Follow her on Twitter @KellyAMangan or visit authorkellymangan.com for more info.
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January 11, 2022 at 8:08 am
kiwijenny
Helping kids is valuable. Thank you for writing books that embrace and comfort a child. It’s got me thinking. Thank you Andrea and Kelly
January 11, 2022 at 1:36 pm
Chayala Nachum
Loved this. Real stories about serious topics can be so good for kids, and help them both empathize and feel seen.
January 28, 2022 at 10:59 am
erica chace
great ideas to incorporate real life into childrens stories
January 11, 2022 at 8:12 am
Katie Petruzziello
Great article! Thank you for sharing your experiences
January 11, 2022 at 8:12 am
rebeccacolby
Lovely interview, ladies. Thanks for sharing. I don’t tend to write about serious topics, but this has got me thinking also.
January 11, 2022 at 8:14 am
authoraileenstewart
Thank you for sharing ladies. I think children understand a lot more than they are sometimes given credit for and books can help!
January 11, 2022 at 8:14 am
srkckass
Thanks so much for this wonderful post. Great advice about writing about real events and experiences!
January 11, 2022 at 8:15 am
Kelly Russell Jaques
Fantastic post, Adrea and Kelly, about tackling the difficult topics!
January 11, 2022 at 8:17 am
Catherine
‘Great article Adrea and Kelly! Writing about difficult topics for children is challenging but you both have given great advice in how to achieve this goal. Thank you and Congratulations on your many successes.
January 11, 2022 at 8:17 am
nycbgriffin
Such an important reminder, to keep the child’s perspective in mind while conceiving of the story and writing it.
January 11, 2022 at 8:17 am
Brigita O
Thanks for sharing your experiences.
January 11, 2022 at 8:18 am
Midge Smith
Wonderful post! Thank you, Adrea and Kelly!
January 11, 2022 at 8:19 am
brennajeanneret
Personal experience can be such a well of inspiration! Thank you for reminding me to write what I know.
January 11, 2022 at 8:20 am
Deb Adamson
Thank you for this thoughtful, interview, Adrea and Kelly. These are such important messages for all kids to understand, bullied or not. You’re making the world a safer place for kids.
January 11, 2022 at 8:21 am
ramonapersaudwrites
Thank you for sharing your perspective. I’ve had to dig deep lately to remind myself about why I write and it came down to the fact that books have always helped me figure stuff out it. I’m grateful we’re in a time where all kids can be represented. I still remember colouring kids’ hair yellow, even though all my classmates had black and brown hair.
January 11, 2022 at 8:23 am
anchance
First, congratulations on the book release! How exciting! I long to be in that position someday. Secondly, this is an important post. I have a young family member with a genetic condition. I often think about if there are picture books out there that address her type of condition in any way. I have not found anything yet, but I do keep my eyes open. Thank you for the push to think about these hard topics for our writing.
January 11, 2022 at 8:24 am
Deborah Agranat Sullivan
Kelly and Adrea – Great perspective to address tricky subjects with kids. Thanks for sharing (and offering such generous prizes! That’s one lucky winner 🙂
January 11, 2022 at 8:26 am
Rebecca McMurdie
Yes, any topic can be appropriate for children with the right angle, sensitivity, and thoughtfulness. Cheers!
January 11, 2022 at 8:26 am
N. Alison Colle
Thank you so much for tackling difficult topics.
January 11, 2022 at 8:29 am
cbloomy
Thank you for the reminder that “children are smarter, more nuanced readers/listeners than adults often give them credit for.” This is helpful to keep in mind when trying to strike the balance between writing the truth without too much focus on the pain.
January 11, 2022 at 8:30 am
Laura Rackham
So hard to write about the things that make us cringe. But so important.
January 11, 2022 at 8:31 am
lavern15
You both made very valid observations! Diversity is more than just race and hopefully all forms of diversity are showcased for all to experience. Thank you for opening eyes.
January 11, 2022 at 8:31 am
Lenora (can't stop, won't stop writing) Biemans (@BiemansLenora)
Thank you, Adrea and Kelly!
January 11, 2022 at 8:33 am
michelemeleen
Writing what you know can be so hard, but these insights make it seem a little easier, thanks!
January 11, 2022 at 8:33 am
Liesl Couperthwaite
Wow, strong words. Topics like racism and body image are so sensitive but are out there. I agree that children need to be exposed to them in as sensitive way as possible and let the child know that it is ok to feel sad and bad. As a teacher I have to deal with these issues all the time.
January 11, 2022 at 8:34 am
thecrowsmap
Adrea and Kelly, thank you for this thoughtful post and for the books you write. Books about difficult topics that help all children feel seen are so important.
Gail Hartman
January 11, 2022 at 8:35 am
melissamiles1
I love that you’re a pediatrician and also that you bring painful experiences from your childhood into your writing. Great post! Thanks for sharing with us.
January 11, 2022 at 8:39 am
Erica Jensen Shiflet
I appreciated the comment about evaluating your topic as a mirror for someone or a window for someone else. At the heart of it, that’s where the hope comes in. Thanks for sharing!
January 11, 2022 at 8:40 am
Colleen Owen Murphy
You have both given great advice and addressed very important, relatable topics for children. Thank you.
January 11, 2022 at 8:42 am
annier1996
Thanks, Adrea amd Kelly, for sharing your inspiration and your process. Helpful and inspiring!
January 11, 2022 at 8:44 am
susandrewwrites
This is an interesting topic. My mom died when I was 5, and I’ve tried writing a picture book to address that but I haven’t found the right tone yet. It just comes out way too sad. But I can talk about it at the middle grade level, or in a novel I’m trying out. But fighting with my brother… I’m all over that. 🙂
January 11, 2022 at 8:44 am
Jany Campana
Thanks Adrea and Kelly for inspiring me to try a real-life subject!
January 11, 2022 at 8:45 am
Tanya Konerman
These are great insights on an important topic for kidlit creators. Thanks for your heartfelt answers.
January 11, 2022 at 8:47 am
mdk45
You both have a thoughtful process to deal with difficult topics. Kids will always need this type of book. Thanks for sharing how you write one.
January 11, 2022 at 8:50 am
KATHY Z PRICE
Thank you for such thoughtful posts
January 11, 2022 at 8:53 am
Charlene Patton
Thank you for sharing. Wonderful article!
January 11, 2022 at 8:53 am
lmconnors
Really thoughtful post Andrea and Kelly. Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 8:54 am
tasha woodson
thanks for pointing out that tough topics don’t always have to be sad. I agree that hope and representation can be the final takeaways if it’s done carefully.
January 11, 2022 at 8:56 am
Shan O’Shea
I love stories that invert negative stereotypes. I always found it interesting that the Fat Controller on Thomas the Tank Engine was called fat in the purely innocent way that a child might use the word, as a descriptor. He was always treated with respect and although he could be severe, was generally liked.
January 11, 2022 at 8:57 am
Andria Rosenbaum
Reading a book about a tough topic can be life changing for kids.
Writing them is such delicate, important work.
Bravo to you both!
January 11, 2022 at 9:00 am
Aimee Satterlee
This was the perfect post for me today! Just yesterday I have been brainstorming how to approach a difficult topic (and not widely published). This post gave me lots of food for thought. Thanks Adrea and Kelly!
January 11, 2022 at 9:00 am
Jane Heitman Healy
“The pages of a book can be viewed as a safe space to hear about or see things that can be scary, difficult to handle, or hard to explain.” This is why, when tough topics arise, parents also need these books–to help them help their children. Thank you, Adrea & Kelly!
January 11, 2022 at 9:00 am
Susanne and Colton
Much easier to bring up difficult topics with a good book, helps to ease it into conversation.
January 11, 2022 at 9:00 am
kurtzmom548513
This was another excellent post! I could really relate to the “fat kid” experiences and did not realize how fat kids had been portrayed in children’s literature.I am definitely inspired to write about my reality! Thank you so much!
January 11, 2022 at 9:03 am
Andrea Mack
Adrea, I love the idea of history starting from the child…this is the way I always have thought history should be taught. Thank you both for inspiring me to dig a little deeper into tough topics!
January 11, 2022 at 9:06 am
Leila Boukarim
Yes! I love this so much. As someone who tends to write about difficult topics, I really truly appreciate all that you ladies said. Thank you for this!
January 11, 2022 at 9:08 am
@FableFiddler (kellie)
Thanks for sharing your wisdom. It’s really inspiring.
January 11, 2022 at 9:11 am
stiefelchana
This post is a keeper! So important & so well presented. Thank you! Can’t wait to read your books.
January 11, 2022 at 9:13 am
Robin Brett Wechsler
Thank you, Adrea and Kelly, for sharing your thoughts on writing about realistic, difficult topics. I’m very moved and will consider how I can tackle this going forward.
January 11, 2022 at 9:14 am
Sally McClure
Thank you for this!
January 11, 2022 at 9:15 am
Lucretia Schafroth
Thank you both for sharing your childhood experiences, insights and, especially, the reminder that “the pages of a book can be viewed as a safe space to hear about or see things that can be scary, difficult to handle, or hard to explain.” They are key words to keep in mind while brainstorming and writing.
January 11, 2022 at 9:15 am
angkunkel
Thank you for this wonderful and inspiring exchange, Adrea and Kelly!
January 11, 2022 at 9:18 am
rbkrackeler
Thanks for your thoughts on presenting difficult subjects. To, “instill hope, foster compassion, and to make kids feel seen,” are some of my biggest reasons I write so thank you for reminding me!
January 11, 2022 at 9:19 am
Natalia Paruzel-Gibson
Love the notion of always making your targets needs the focal point when thinking about how the narrative should unfold. Appreciate you sharing!
January 11, 2022 at 9:20 am
Maria Bursey
This is a great post. Thank you for your insight. And the great reminder that kids are more nuanced readers than adults give them credit for.
January 11, 2022 at 9:20 am
Mary Warth
Thank you for the frank discussion of tough topics.
January 11, 2022 at 9:22 am
Janice Woods
Thank you for sharing! Great post
January 11, 2022 at 9:24 am
Maria
There are many important difficult topics to discuss and gain knowledge in. We don’t want our stories to make kids sad, but I think we can make them think, help them to empathize and have a richer worldview. Thank you Adrea and Kelly!
January 11, 2022 at 9:25 am
Helen Lys
The timing for this topic was perfect. Just yesterday, I was just thinking of a difficult topic that I want to write about and this gave the motivation to write that story. Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 9:29 am
Susan Wroble
It is so vital for kids to see themselves in our books, and sometimes, as you two so eloquently pointed out, that means addressing topics that are really hard — for both kids and adults. Thank you.
January 11, 2022 at 9:29 am
Laura Purdie Salas
This post sparked some new ideas for me — thanks for your thoughtful post and your books!
January 11, 2022 at 9:31 am
Suzanne Lewis
Wow! What a power-packed post–full of thoughtful, important questions and insights on how to frame challenging/difficult real-life experiences to empower self-esteem and compassion. Such helpful guidance! This post is now in my tool box, definitely to be called upon. Thank you Adrea and Kelly!
January 11, 2022 at 9:32 am
Annie Lynn, AnnieBirdd Music, LLC
Thank you both for sharing your experiences and insights. I admire that you write about difficult subjects, explaining and showing the negativity surrounding the issue(s), the feelings experienced, and then…..hope…..concentrate on the hope and understanding. I try to do that when dealing with difficult subject matter in songwriting. Bring up the problem(s), discuss the feelings involved and then……the hope and possible solutions to follow. You both are doing important work. Thank you for making a difference. Stay well all!✌🏼💝🎶🎨📚🌻
January 11, 2022 at 9:33 am
Polly Renner
Thank you Adrea and Kelly for sharing your experiences when writing for children!
January 11, 2022 at 9:33 am
Steena Hernandez
Great insight about writing difficult topics! Thank you for sharing!
January 11, 2022 at 9:37 am
pathaap
Thanks for addressing these difficult topics, Adrea and Kelly. I love Adrea’s quote that “pages of a book can be viewed as a safe place to hear about or see things that are scary . . .” Beautifully said.
January 11, 2022 at 9:40 am
cinzialverde
Thank you for this post and for writing books about these important topics!! I loved hearing about your perspectives and goals. These are critical stories to tell – and to discuss.
January 11, 2022 at 9:40 am
Jen Bagan
Love this post – thank you! I’m currently subbing a PB with a difficult topic and loved reading your approaches.
January 11, 2022 at 9:41 am
rozanark
So thoughtful and meaningful. Thank you for sharing this.
January 11, 2022 at 9:44 am
Leah Moser
Such great and meaningful advice. Thank you for this post.
January 11, 2022 at 9:47 am
lizricewrites
Thank you – for bringing tough topics into the light.
January 11, 2022 at 9:48 am
Joyce Uglow
This line resonates with me. “The onus is on the writer to find that hope first and then bring it out in the text so the reader can see it and grab hold of it.”
January 11, 2022 at 9:50 am
Manju Beth Howard (@ManjuBeth)
Thank you for sharing. I agree that it’s vital “to leave the child reader with hope.” That’s a lesson I learned from an agent years ago when I submitted a PB about a tough topic.
January 11, 2022 at 9:54 am
Heidi Chupp
I appreciate learning about the thoughtful approaches y’all have taken as you write your realities. Thanks so very much.
January 11, 2022 at 9:54 am
Alexandra
The timing of this post is so perfect. More and more the tough parts of my childhood have been pushing to the surface of my ideas. I want to write about them for other kids who may be going through similar things, but have struggled with whether I should or not. Going to be referencing Kelly and Adrea’s words for months to come!
January 11, 2022 at 9:56 am
authorlaurablog
Difficult topics are part of life which makes them perfect for picture books.
January 11, 2022 at 9:57 am
Ashley Nicole Parker
Such beautiful advice to write about the hard stuff
January 11, 2022 at 9:59 am
storycatcherpublishing
I write about topics I know about or have researched enough to feel I can make a fact based opinion on, with the ability to explain my views on the subject. Hopefully I learn something new about the world or myself along the way…😉
Great post!
Donna L Martin
January 11, 2022 at 9:59 am
Jessica Coupé
Thanks for your insights.
January 11, 2022 at 10:00 am
Jill Purtee (P. J.)
The background behind your stories saddens me, but thank you for turning your experiences into something relatable to children that also offers hope.
January 11, 2022 at 10:01 am
thedayswehold
Thank you so much for this post! Tackling difficult topics is such important work
January 11, 2022 at 10:02 am
Sallye O'Rourke
Love this: see an idea from a kid’s perspective, simplify it, leave the child with hope
January 11, 2022 at 10:02 am
Laura Bower
Thank you Adrea & Kelly for putting these important books out into the world! I love and support the idea that pages of a book are a safe space for kids. Books that challenge, inspire, and most importantly, provide hope are so necessary and appreciated. Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 10:03 am
kathalsey
Yes, ladies, all topics are fair game in PBs if presented properly. Love this thought especially, “The onus is on the writer to find that hope first and then bring it out in the text so the reader can see it and grab hold of it.” TY, Adrea and Kelly!
January 11, 2022 at 10:03 am
Tara
Oh, how I wish I had “The History of Me” as a teacher. This was a wonderful post and inspired me to think about the gaps, book topics I searched for as a teacher to help my students, but could not find.
January 11, 2022 at 10:04 am
Ann Harrell
Such a thoughtful and important post – I love that picture books can provide that safe space to address serious topics for children. Kudos to you both for validating kids through your books!
January 11, 2022 at 10:05 am
Louann Brown
I’ve considered writing about difficult topics but I’m not that brave. Kudos to those of you who do write them. So many children are living in trauma these days….they need to see themselves overcoming situations that are totally out of their control.
January 11, 2022 at 10:06 am
Brandy Dixon
Definitely gets me thinking!
January 11, 2022 at 10:06 am
Jennifer Phillips
Thank you so much for this discussion. Life is not all rainbows and unicorns for too many children and I am a firm believer that these stories need to be told. I appreciate your thoughtful discussion about how. Congratulations on your new book!
January 11, 2022 at 10:07 am
Searra Simpson
Very informative! Thanks!
January 11, 2022 at 10:11 am
Megan Whitaker
You absolutely know there will be kids who have this same experience and hopefully their teacher will find your book for them! Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 10:11 am
Kristen Indahl
Light at the end of the tunnel and find the hope first – love it!
January 11, 2022 at 10:12 am
marty
Hi Kelly and Adrea, The topics in picture books that you describe are so important, as well as the author’s lived experience. Thank you for speaking about unspeakably painful moments during your own childhoods for today’s readers.
January 11, 2022 at 10:12 am
triciacandy
Wow. Thank you so much for this post. Both of these topics are so difficult but so necessary!
January 11, 2022 at 10:12 am
NC Karuzis
A post to save and reread for those who wish to sooth young hearts. Thank you for your insights.
January 11, 2022 at 10:13 am
ziemkeart
Wow! So well done. This has truly inspired me to start writing! Kelly is one of my critique partners, and having her in my corner is always a blessing!
January 11, 2022 at 10:17 am
Susan Jobsky
My first picture book story began as a way to give my daughter a lasting memory of her beloved dog after he died. Writing it helped me work through grief I wouldn’t let myself feel when my grandmother died. Stories about tough topics can be gentle teachers for us all.
January 11, 2022 at 10:18 am
Janie Reinart
Thank you ladies. Excellent points. We must bring the Hope!
January 11, 2022 at 10:20 am
Rochelle Y Melander
Such a great post!
January 11, 2022 at 10:21 am
Lauren Barbieri
I loved these points–thank you for the great “discussion!”
January 11, 2022 at 10:23 am
Reed Hilton-Eddy
Oh YES, YES! How brave ladies. Jon Klassan once said “write what your fear.” Every adult (therefore child) has at least one experience of otherness. Some it is short, others it lasts years. But we know it. It is a terrible feeling and we do need to acknowledge it to children otherwise they can feel othered from books too. BUT that is tough stuff to write. Hats off to you both.
January 11, 2022 at 10:23 am
Charlotte Offsay
These topics are so important, thank you for sharing your insights.
January 11, 2022 at 10:25 am
Leah Marks
Thank you for your words of empowerment for children’s book writers as well as our young audiences.
January 11, 2022 at 10:25 am
Brittney
The ability to encourage and empower others to do, think, and view things with an accurate perspective is highly coveted. What an art to use this ability in picture book writing for kids. Thank you for the insight!
January 11, 2022 at 10:33 am
writeremmcbride
What a marvelously insightful and compassionate post! Thank you so much! I heartily agree with your approach and your advice. Teaching our children to consider others with the compassion they would wish to receive for themselves will work toward more open-mindedness and a willingness to seek the perspectives of others.
January 11, 2022 at 10:35 am
mlyablonaolcom
Wonderful reminder to write with hope!
January 11, 2022 at 10:41 am
Angie Baker
What courage. To address difficult situations with kids boldly and with reality and hope. Thank you.
January 11, 2022 at 10:41 am
Jasmine Ann Smith
Thank you for this post, and for writing the hard things!
January 11, 2022 at 10:41 am
Sarah Heaton
Thanks Kelly and Adra for your amazing interviews. Not to put it all on illustrators or publishers, but I”m hopeful that illustrations can normalize fat kids, bi-racial families, people with disabilities, etc. Main characters can have these traits without reference to the story line. They are just normal people in the world doing their normal things.
January 11, 2022 at 10:42 am
Beverly Smith
“I don’t write about serious topics to make kids sad. I write about them to instill hope, foster compassion, and to make kids feel seen.” So good and so true. Thank you both for good food for creative thought!
January 11, 2022 at 10:42 am
katiemillsgiorgio
Thank you for this post!
January 11, 2022 at 10:43 am
Marilyn Ostermiller
As an aspiring picture book writer, this post gave me a better sense of how to tackle the tough topics.
January 11, 2022 at 10:43 am
rebeccaupjohn
Thank you for this post. Keeping focused on a kid’s perspective on a challenging subject is huge and helps steer away from didactic writing.
January 11, 2022 at 10:43 am
Melanie Ellsworth
Thank you Adrea and Kelly for this important post. I appreciate your work writing about tough topics to give kids a sense of hope and a recognition that they are not alone.
January 11, 2022 at 10:44 am
Susan Lorene
I like how you create stories using real life experiences. It makes the book much more layered.
January 11, 2022 at 10:46 am
Penelope McNally
You’ve reminded us how empowering it is for children to see themselves and their stories in the books they read. Thank you this honest and brave post.
January 11, 2022 at 10:46 am
DaNeil Olson
Excellent post! Thank you.
January 11, 2022 at 10:46 am
Leslie Eva Tayloe
Thank you for sharing your experience. Sharing experiences whether negative or positive can heal the inner-self. Best wishes in 2022.
January 11, 2022 at 10:49 am
Jennifer Roman
Thank you for this! I wholeheartedly agree.
January 11, 2022 at 10:50 am
Liza Parfomak
Enjoyed reading the post.
January 11, 2022 at 10:50 am
Hannah Roy LaGrone
A great reminder to write for all of our readers.
January 11, 2022 at 10:50 am
Jenny E.
I loved this post! What fantastic advice.
January 11, 2022 at 10:51 am
Hannah Roy LaGrone
A great reminder to write for all our readers.
January 11, 2022 at 10:51 am
Cindy Jeklin
Thank you for sharing and for the important stories you are telling!
January 11, 2022 at 10:55 am
Leslie Piotrowski
Thank you for writing books that help children understand themselves better.
January 11, 2022 at 10:56 am
chalenar
This was great – and for me, very timely. Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 10:57 am
Sarah Tobias
This past Saturday, I was at a Zoom Pitch Party and Jem shared the cover of this book. Even on a small screen, it took my breath away. I look forward to reading it and sharing it with others.
January 11, 2022 at 10:57 am
Doreen Tango Hampton
Much to think about. Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 10:57 am
Gabriella Aldeman
Books are safe spaces to be and feel. Thank you for your courage to share!
January 11, 2022 at 10:58 am
Cindy S
Thanks
January 11, 2022 at 11:00 am
Ellen Leventhal
Great reminders. Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 11:03 am
Elizabeth W Saba
Thank you for your work with children. Looking forward to reading your book.
January 11, 2022 at 11:05 am
Deborah
Such thoughtful advice. Thank you.
January 11, 2022 at 11:06 am
Robyn McGrath
Love this post. 🙂
January 11, 2022 at 11:08 am
Ellen Slanczka
I was the fat girl too. Totally connected with this interview.
January 11, 2022 at 11:09 am
Stephanie Gibeault
This was wonderfully helpful advice for digging deep into personal experience to find positive messages for kids. Thank you so much!
January 11, 2022 at 11:09 am
Jenny Boyd
Thank you for an honest, thought-provoking interview. And congratulations on your upcoming (very soon!) book.
January 11, 2022 at 11:11 am
Dawn Mitchell
That book cover is beautiful! Great post.
January 11, 2022 at 11:12 am
rosecappelli
Thank you for this post! Digging deep to find our emotions always leads to authenticity. The topic may be difficult but can be presented with compassion and hope. Looking forward to reading A HISTORY OF ME.
January 11, 2022 at 11:13 am
Jennifer Kennedy
Thank you for sharing your experiences!
January 11, 2022 at 11:14 am
Natalie Lynn Tanner
KELLY: Your reasons for writing about tough topics for kids is THE ULTIMATE definition of why it is SO IMPORTANT to do so: “I write about them to instill hope, foster compassion, and to make kids feel seen. There has to be light at the end of the tunnel.”
ADREA: Your question, “. . . is there a way to leave the child reader with hope, regardless of the situation?” is a TRUE COMPASS to help guide us in our own writing. THANK YOU for the IMPORTANT reminder that is up to “the writer to find that hope first and then bring it out in the text so the reader can see it and grab hold of it.”
THANK YOU BOTH for showing us how dealing with the tough subjects in writing for children all comes down to instilling, cultivating, fostering, and INSPIRING hope. BEAUTIFUL!!!
January 11, 2022 at 11:14 am
Jane Martin
Very inspiring.
January 11, 2022 at 11:14 am
Marcia Parks
Children are, indeed, smart, nuanced readers. Writers don’t need to be overly explicit; respect your own experience and respect the reader, letting them take away what rings true to them.
January 11, 2022 at 11:14 am
Angel Gantnier
Thank you for sharing your experiences.
January 11, 2022 at 11:15 am
Alison McGauley
This is a really helpful post for me as I’ve been writing some manuscripts that deal with difficult themes and situations.
I love this: “I write about them to instill hope, foster compassion, and to make kids feel seen.”
I completely agree! I don’t want kids to feel sad reading my stories some day. I want them to see that life sometimes gives us hard situations, but we can have hope and strength and know that we’re not alone.
January 11, 2022 at 11:16 am
jms5880
Thank you for sharing with us today.
January 11, 2022 at 11:19 am
Jamie Bills
Super insightful ladies! Thank you both!
January 11, 2022 at 11:20 am
allisonrozo
Wonderful words! Thank you for sharing your insights Adrea and Kelly!!!
January 11, 2022 at 11:20 am
Ellie Langford
Andrea and Kelly I think you help each other see inside the head and heart of a child. I what to make sure my PBs relate meaningfully to children.
January 11, 2022 at 11:22 am
JAYNE TOMAN
You have given me a lot to think about. Thanks!
January 11, 2022 at 11:22 am
Candace Spizzirri
Thank you, Adrea and Kelly, for the wonderful post!
January 11, 2022 at 11:28 am
Patricia Franz
Beautiful conversation! I appreciate the dignity you bring in your approach with writing for children. Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 11:28 am
Kate
Your sensitivity and compassion reach the heart! thanks for sharing.
January 11, 2022 at 11:30 am
Cheryl Simon
Love this important message! Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 11:30 am
8catpaws
What a powerful post. It immediately brought me back to my days as a very young ballerina whose feet wouldn’t do what I wanted them to!
January 11, 2022 at 11:31 am
Carol Gwin Nelson
This is such an important topic. Thanks for all of your advice on how to deal with difficult topics that need to be addressed in a kind, caring, and sensitive manner. I will be revisiting one of my stories with your comments in mind.
January 11, 2022 at 11:33 am
Lynne Marie
Thank you for sharing your personal experience and heart! Best, LM
January 11, 2022 at 11:34 am
Jennifer Vose
I do think we probably tend to underestimate the content that kids are able to handle emotionally – provided the goal is always that difficult topics be presented in developmentally-appropriate ways. I do also think that picture books can be for any age, not just the typical 4-7 (younger for board books, of course). Older readers can benefit from and enjoy picture books, too!
January 11, 2022 at 11:34 am
Lynn McCracken
Thank you Andrea and Kelly for giving so much to the children of the world through your stories in your books.
January 11, 2022 at 11:41 am
David McMullin
Thank you both. I often have difficult ideas and it’s great to get ideas on how to approach them.
January 11, 2022 at 11:43 am
Cheryl Ann Johnson
Books about difficult topics are just as important as any other. I look forward to reading A History of Me when it arrives at the library. They have 6 on order!
January 11, 2022 at 11:46 am
Kathy Watson
Wow! Thank you so much for sharing your insight. I am working on a story about a profoundly disabled child. Grateful for your thoughts to inspire me forward.
January 11, 2022 at 11:47 am
Peggy Dobbs
Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. Picture books are powerful resources for children to use to help understand difficult topics.
January 11, 2022 at 11:50 am
Shelly Hawley-Yan
This is SUCH and important message!
Thank you for sharing some of your philosophy and thought processes about it💗
January 11, 2022 at 11:50 am
Maria Altizer
Thank you for this post. Lots to think about.
January 11, 2022 at 11:50 am
Annie Guerra
I like the emphasis on hope and positive resolutions. Annie Guerra
January 11, 2022 at 11:51 am
Amanda
I have had a difficult topic story idea percolating for a while now but every time I try to write about it, it comes out wrong! I was so excited to read this back and forth and cannot wait to read both of your pictures books as mentor texts on how to tackle difficult topics in children’s books. Crossing my fingers to win this critique! 🙂
January 11, 2022 at 11:53 am
Amy Tsao
This encourages me to take a second look at my idea book for anything I initially deemed “too serious” for a picture book audience. Thank you for sharing!
January 11, 2022 at 11:53 am
Meredith Fraser
Your comments really hit home. I have been toying with writing about my childhood with an alcoholic father.
Thank you both for your help!
January 11, 2022 at 11:54 am
Laurie Fortier
Thank you both!
January 11, 2022 at 11:55 am
Anne Appert
Thank you both for such an insightful post! I definitely agree that people tend to underestimate what kids can handle and what they pick up on. Thank you again!
January 11, 2022 at 11:59 am
Lisa P.
Thanks so much for the insight on writing about difficult subjects. The ideas are flowing, and I can’t wait to get them down on paper!
January 11, 2022 at 11:59 am
M.R. Street
I especially love this statement from Kelly: Leave the child reader with hope, regardless of the situation. Thank you, Kelly and Adrea!
January 11, 2022 at 12:00 pm
Audrey
Thank you for this. I have written a few picture books with topics that “some” might consider too heavy for children, but I believe many of those topics are exactly what they need. When done sensitively, they can give the child the words for how their feeling and help them express it more clearly, feeling less alone. Thank you for this reminder and the courage to write what is right!
January 11, 2022 at 12:00 pm
Rosanna Montanaro
Wow. What a powerful book. Congratulations to all. To Tara, Adrea and Kelly, thank you for this post. I appreciate what you have shared here. I have been working with a topic and story idea, and was unsure how to translate it. This is perfect! Thank you so much, and all the best. I’m Canadian so boosting only. Thank you! Rosanna Montanaro
January 11, 2022 at 12:01 pm
M.R. Street
I especiallyi love this wisdom from Kelly: Leave the child reader with hope, regardless of the situation. Thanks, Adrea and Kelly!
January 11, 2022 at 12:05 pm
Debi Boccanfuso
As strange as this is going to sound….I feel like I have had a pretty drama-free childhood to draw from…which is a good thing…..although there were days I was afraid of things, felt insecure about my round freckled face….clumsy with sports…etc. Now you have me thinking! THANKS.
January 11, 2022 at 12:05 pm
mona861
I love this post and your feeling of making ” a mirror for some-a window for others” That’s perfect!
January 11, 2022 at 12:07 pm
maureenegan
So smart and important and hopeful. Thank you both!
January 11, 2022 at 12:11 pm
Stephanie Owen
I like the idea of making difficult topics accessible for kids. That’s the reason I became a teacher and a writer.
January 11, 2022 at 12:11 pm
Bethanny Parker
Thanks for your thoughts on writing for children about difficult situations.
January 11, 2022 at 12:13 pm
Shirley Ng-Benitez
Thank you for this insightful post. Congratulations on such a beautiful and necessary book!
January 11, 2022 at 12:15 pm
Jud Ward
I’ve been struggling with how to present a sad topic. I’m going to try your advice to find the hope first and then write so they can grab hold of it. Thanks!
January 11, 2022 at 12:18 pm
amievc
Thanks for reminding us of the power of the stories we tell.
January 11, 2022 at 12:18 pm
Andrea Yomtob
Hard to find the best way to talk about tough subjects, but I agree is necessary. Thanks for the post 👍
January 11, 2022 at 12:20 pm
Tootie Nienow
Thank you for sharing about difficult topics.
January 11, 2022 at 12:20 pm
judyrubin13
Thank you, Adrea and Kelly, for sharing your writing ideas with us. Each perspective shows your care in writing for a young audience.
January 11, 2022 at 12:22 pm
Nancy Ramsey
Thanks very much for this thoughtful post!
January 11, 2022 at 12:23 pm
Katie Marie
Fantastic post! I can’t wait to read A HISTORY OF ME.
I really liked what Adrea wrote: “The pages of a book can be viewed as a safe space to hear about or see things that can be scary, difficult to handle, or hard to explain.”
January 11, 2022 at 12:23 pm
Gretchen McLellan
Thank you both for this thoughtful post. I’d add using humor to the ways to approach a difficult subject. Choosing animal characters offers distance to explore sensitive subjects as well. I used both to explore stereotyping in my NO PARTY POOPERS! book.
January 11, 2022 at 12:35 pm
Tara Shiroff
Gretchen, this book sounds SO cute. I just requested that my library order it for our collection and I can’t wait to read it.
January 11, 2022 at 12:24 pm
Linda Bozzo
Great post about tackling tough topics.
January 11, 2022 at 12:24 pm
Christine Graham
Thanks for affirming that kids are able to understand and process more than we sometimes give them credit for.
January 11, 2022 at 12:29 pm
@DekkerMeagan
I’m so glad these stores are out there. I’ve had a few “tougher” topic ideas—one I thought was shot down because it was trying to “say too much…” But these smart writers remind me that these topics are important and can be done. Now I won’t toss those ideas but think of them with this inspiration in mind! Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 12:29 pm
Tara Shiroff
This was exactly the boost of inspiration I needed today! Thank you both!!
January 11, 2022 at 12:29 pm
Sheri Radovich
Thank you for opening up so many ideas from my childhood to write about and suggesting ways to tell the story with humor or seriousness. I remembered so many things about my elementary school from my p.o.v. and some from the students I taught. Especially their questions about events or what they noticed and wondered about.
January 11, 2022 at 12:30 pm
hfr2006
I would agree – these books are absolutely necessary for kids to read. It allows them to ask questions in a safe place and to understand the world and process hard topics before they go through a hard situation themselves.
January 11, 2022 at 12:30 pm
Cathy Stefanec Ogren
A very thoughtful post! Thanks for sharing.
January 11, 2022 at 12:34 pm
sue macartney
Adrea and Kelly – so many gems to take away from this post. Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 12:34 pm
kskeesling
Thanks for the great tips Adrea and Kelly. I love how you always keep the child reader in mind and think about the details of the experience!
January 11, 2022 at 12:35 pm
danielledufayet
We need serious books like this one -that’s life! Congrats for writing such an important and beautiful book.
January 11, 2022 at 12:36 pm
Shannon LaPuma
Thank you for focusing on empathy and hope in tough situations and encouraging other writers to do the same.
January 11, 2022 at 12:38 pm
Fiona Forster
Such an empowering article, thank you.
January 11, 2022 at 12:43 pm
Jane Dippold (@janedippold)
Thank you both for your thoughtful post!
January 11, 2022 at 12:48 pm
karammitchell
Thanks, Kelly and Adrea! What a great conversation!
January 11, 2022 at 12:51 pm
Stephanie S
I really like the idea of pulling from personal experiences. Thank you for the post and advice!
January 11, 2022 at 12:53 pm
Mara K Lansky
Childen really can show that they are nuanced readers! Thanks you.
January 11, 2022 at 12:54 pm
Paul Brassard
Thanks, Adrea and Kelly. I agree that kids can understand so much more than we adults give them credit for. You are so right when you recommend that a picture book writer focus on the hope, on the “you are strong and you can get through this” aspect of a hurtful, sad or traumatic situation. I wish there had been a thoughtful, hopeful picture book available to me when I was a youngster. Many kids — and I was one of them — hold hurt and fear inside and just need someone (maybe a character in a picture book) to tell them everything will be alright. As Kermit said, “It isn’t easy being green.”
January 11, 2022 at 12:56 pm
Sue Heavenrich
I agree – this is a great conversation. I like how you don’t shy away from difficult topics, but embrace a kid-centered way to examine/explore/share them.
January 11, 2022 at 12:56 pm
Heather Stigall
these are great tips–thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 12:57 pm
Marilyn R Garcia
Your new book looks and sounds amazing. Can’t wait to get my hands on a copy. Thanks for the post.
January 11, 2022 at 1:03 pm
Joy Wieder
Very inspiring. Thank you for sharing your difficult experiences with us & with kids!
January 11, 2022 at 1:05 pm
Joyce
Excellent advice! Thank you, Adrea and Kelly. I’m looking forward to reading the products of this thoughtful approach.
January 11, 2022 at 1:10 pm
Eileen Mayo
Thank you for such an insightful post. It was very inspiring.
January 11, 2022 at 1:10 pm
Angie
Wonderful post! Those difficult topics. I was the fat/chubby girl. Even one of my best friends called me chubby. And I developed early, so the bullies were all over me about that. I LOVE your advice to seek the hope in the situation, and make sure that shines in the text. Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 1:15 pm
Sarah Meade
Thank you both for this thoughtful post!
January 11, 2022 at 1:15 pm
lsheroan
Hope…for our kids is critical. As a 7th grade teacher, I see students everyday who are trying to find hope and hang onto it.
January 11, 2022 at 1:18 pm
T.R.
Love that you both are tackling these kinds of subjects. They’ve been needed for a long, long time.
January 11, 2022 at 1:19 pm
mariearden
Great post! I have an idea for a wordless picture book about a difficult topic and would like to explore further the pros & cons of developing it this way. Thank-you for sharing your back stories for your books.
January 11, 2022 at 1:19 pm
streetlynn
Great insights! Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 1:21 pm
K. Yin
I love tackling difficult topics too and adding the funny. Congrats on your beautiful book!
January 11, 2022 at 1:22 pm
Michelle Dragalin
The post really rang bells with me! Thank you for a great post. Michelle
January 11, 2022 at 1:23 pm
kirstenbockblog
Thank you so much for this valuable information, ladies! It is so important to write the hard stuff as well as the lighter topics.
January 11, 2022 at 1:25 pm
susan contreras
thank you. I have lived both sides of the “fat” and “skinny” kid. Your thoughts have given me a lot to think about.
January 11, 2022 at 1:26 pm
Chelle
Thank you both for sharing.
January 11, 2022 at 1:27 pm
lynjekowsky
Writing about tough topics in kid lit is difficult. Thank you for your inspiration, and hope.
January 11, 2022 at 1:28 pm
Donna Rossman
Thank you for the insight into your processes, Adrea & Kelly! Tough but important topics discussed.
January 11, 2022 at 1:28 pm
sareenmclay
Thank you. Your post took me right back to Primary School days. Those playgrounds can be very tricky places. Congratulations on your book!
January 11, 2022 at 1:29 pm
authordebradaugherty
Thank you, Adrea and Kelly, for this post. Your comments on how to approach difficult subjects gave me pause for thought. Great advice!
January 11, 2022 at 1:31 pm
Clement, Laura
What a great post. I write many stories about neurodivergent kids, and I loved the honest and encouraging perspective of your approaches.
January 11, 2022 at 1:32 pm
Janet AlJunaidi
Thank you both, Kelly and Adrea, for these words of compassion and truth. And for encouraging all of us to always keep in mind our readers.
January 11, 2022 at 1:35 pm
Debra Collins
Valuable insights, very helpful advice. Thank you.
January 11, 2022 at 1:36 pm
Poupette
Thank you both for this food for thought… To instill hope in one while fostering compassion in another sounds like an impossible task, and I commend anyone who accomplishes this in a single PB.
January 11, 2022 at 1:41 pm
Traci Huahn
Thank you both for tackling the tough stuff and for your thoughtful insights. I, too, tend to write about difficult topics and wholeheartedly agree that these stories are so important to share.
January 11, 2022 at 1:43 pm
Erika
Thanks for sharing these insights!
January 11, 2022 at 1:45 pm
ldodson100
Great advice. Thank you 🙂
January 11, 2022 at 1:47 pm
Louise Aamodt
Thanks for your bravery and for acknowledging how smart kids are.
January 11, 2022 at 1:47 pm
bevbaird
Such insight into the writing about sensitive subjects. Thanks for the inspiration
January 11, 2022 at 1:48 pm
Kate Lynch
A great post!! And what a beautiful book!! Thank you
January 11, 2022 at 1:50 pm
andreesantini
Wow, Kelly and Adrea, thanks! What a great reminder to dig into our most difficult parts of childhood to and use that to encourage hope and positive change. Which gives me an idea…
January 11, 2022 at 1:50 pm
Mark Ceilley
Your post got me thinking of a childhood experience that I might write about. Thank you for your honesty and insight!
January 11, 2022 at 1:50 pm
Earl @ The Chronicles Of A Children's Book Writer
Always great to tell one’s story’s and share one’s experience on the off chance it’s what someone else may need to hear to feel they aren’t the only one.
January 11, 2022 at 1:51 pm
claireannette1
You are both courageous writers. It is a truth that books are safe places for kids and I appreciate how you tackle difficult subjects in was that makes kids feel seen. Thank you for this thoughtful post.
January 11, 2022 at 1:53 pm
Judy Bradbury
Thanks for a thought-full team post. I especially reflected on, “try to see it—whatever “it” is—from a kid’s perspective. Remember what it was like to be that age; and if it’s from your own experience, remember what or how you felt. What was most important to you?” and “dig into the little, concrete details of that experience…”
January 11, 2022 at 1:53 pm
Annelouise mahoney
Thank you, Adrea and Kelly. Your sensitivity and compassion for your stories and your audience is inspiring.
January 11, 2022 at 1:54 pm
SUSIE Hays WILDE
Great interview, strongly highlighting the gift of these two authors. I don’t know Kelly, but Adrea’s thoughtfulness and lyricism are present even in this interview. Kudos and thank you to you both for contributing such meaningful books in a way that’s caring and supportive and not pedantic!
January 11, 2022 at 1:54 pm
Tory
Thanks for the post!
January 11, 2022 at 1:56 pm
Jeanette
Thank you for the great post!
January 11, 2022 at 1:56 pm
Joyce Schriebman
Such an important conversation to have. Thank you for putting it out there so honestly.
January 11, 2022 at 1:58 pm
Becky Wentworth
I love today’s post….thinking about that idea of “the only kid who….” I tried to be sensitive to that as a teacher because it can be so difficult!! I want to channel that to get some ideas.
January 11, 2022 at 1:58 pm
EllenB
Thank you for this eye-opening (heart-opening) post.
January 11, 2022 at 1:58 pm
Kathryn Powell
Thank you for sharing.
January 11, 2022 at 2:07 pm
ellen seal ❄️ (@ellenseal_art)
I wonder if the skeletons in my closet have some stories to turn kid appropriate…hmmm
January 11, 2022 at 2:09 pm
Amy Farris
Beautifully said! I’m working on a PB on a difficult subject right now and these were lovely words of wisdom.
January 11, 2022 at 2:13 pm
debbiemoeller
Kudos for focusing on the sensitive topics. Thank you for a thoughtful post.
January 11, 2022 at 2:13 pm
Sandi
This was a great post. You are so right about overweight kids being cast in roles that are demeaning. Great you are trying it change that.
January 11, 2022 at 2:16 pm
arndt4writing
You really opened my eyes with your wonderful post. Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 2:18 pm
De or
Write what you know is something I’ve heard all my life. Doing so can be painful but also shed a light on something hidden.
January 11, 2022 at 2:24 pm
brontebrown2
Difficult subject matter told in a thoughtful kid relatable way, is the heart of a story. Kids love heartfelt stories.
January 11, 2022 at 2:28 pm
Deb McGarvey
Thank you for these insights. It’s helpful to be reminded that children don’t necessarily need everything blatantly spelled out for them.- and that we need to bring hope into these stories on challenging topics.
January 11, 2022 at 2:28 pm
Ava Chinn
Love Kelly’s comment about writing about serious topics to instill hope, foster compassion, and to make kids feel seen. So important for kids from all walks of life to be represented in kid lit.
January 11, 2022 at 2:29 pm
aidantalkin
Great post, and always keeping in mind the intent of a hopeful resolution and inspiration to make a better world
January 11, 2022 at 2:36 pm
Emily Bertholf
Great interview and Happy Book Release Day (a tad early) ! I look forward to reading your book soon.
January 11, 2022 at 2:38 pm
Daryl Gottier
Thank you so much for sharing your insights!
January 11, 2022 at 2:39 pm
Alia K.
Great perspective that helps me understand how to approach difficult issues as an early childhood educator.
January 11, 2022 at 2:44 pm
reader65
Thank you both so much for this post. I was bullied by a sibling for all of the time I was growing up. I sometimes think about other kids in this situation and wonder if my experience could be helpful to them through my writing. Your post was enlightening and helpful. I feel a bit closer to understanding how to begin.
January 11, 2022 at 2:45 pm
dedra davis
Ohh, I’m writing a difficult story now, and I found your words inspiring and empowering. Thank you! Writing a story that hopefully will take a difficult situation and provide hope feels good!
January 11, 2022 at 2:45 pm
Keri Collins Lewis
Thanks for your insightful post and different take on writing what you know.
January 11, 2022 at 2:47 pm
jesseannabornemann
Thanks so much for this, Adrea and Kelly. I agree it’s so important for ALL kids to see themselves and their experiences in picture books. There’s a tendency for adults to romanticize childhood, but, of course, kids encounter pain and disappointment just as adults do—and often the challenges are far from kid-sized. I appreciate your perspective!
January 11, 2022 at 2:49 pm
Lisa Billa
Thanks for sharing, and for the books you write! Children understand more than they often get credit for, and need honest yet hopeful stories.
January 11, 2022 at 2:49 pm
Shanna Silva
Thanks so much for this perspective. Love “be a mirror and a window.”
January 11, 2022 at 2:51 pm
Rebecca Gardyn Levington
Beautiful interview. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.
January 11, 2022 at 2:53 pm
Marlena Leach
The advice on approaching a painful situation will help with a story idea I have set aside. The story structure does need to give hope and comfort. Thank you both.
January 11, 2022 at 2:53 pm
Mary Nelson
It’s great that you give kids credit where credit is due. They are always more aware readers.
January 11, 2022 at 2:54 pm
Cathy Lentes
Excellent advice for dealing with the tough stuff.
January 11, 2022 at 3:00 pm
jbbower
I love stories that give hope to people! Thank you for this inspiring post.
January 11, 2022 at 3:02 pm
annettepimentel
“children are smarter, more nuanced readers/listeners than adults often give them credit for”: Yes!
January 11, 2022 at 3:02 pm
Margie Markarian
Appreciate your insights!
January 11, 2022 at 3:02 pm
Danielle Hammelef
I like the idea of thinking about how I would explain a tough issue to a child without being condescending and base my story on that.
January 11, 2022 at 3:03 pm
matthewlasley
Thank you for sharing. Our history and society has been watered down and it is important to help kids think about these tough topics. I tackle these tough topics in my first grade class in a manner that does not look at right and wrong from a historical or cultural standard, but in context of who they are right now in reflection to a different time, place or culture.
In my class, I have 9 distinct cultures and backgrounds represented, and that is with only 14 students!
January 11, 2022 at 3:03 pm
Patricia Oppenheim
As a child psychologist, I am a true believer that children need verification of their own experiences, even the difficult ones. Thank you for bringing to light a painful but important subject.
January 11, 2022 at 3:07 pm
Tanja Bauerle
Thank you for sharing your experience. T
January 11, 2022 at 3:14 pm
ryanrobertsauthor
Thank you Adrea and Kelly for reminding us that the hard parts of childhood are worth writing about
January 11, 2022 at 3:15 pm
Alice Fulgione
This was a great post & I very much enjoyed hearing from both authors about their real life childhood struggles. Great food for possible story ideas!
January 11, 2022 at 3:21 pm
Kim A Larson
Great information! Thanks for sharing. I like your comment about presenting it in a way that is beneficial to your audience. Great advice.
January 11, 2022 at 3:22 pm
M. P. McCune
HIstory of Me sounds and looks amazing! As a child who experienced trauma, I would have loved books that reflected and validated that experience.
January 11, 2022 at 3:22 pm
Becky Walker
I loved hearing how you tackle serious, important subjects with kids. Great post and thank you for sharing your story.
January 11, 2022 at 3:25 pm
Susan Eyerman
Lots to ponder today, Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 3:25 pm
Amy Center Cory
Thank you both so much for sharing your stories, and for this heartfelt discussion!
January 11, 2022 at 3:27 pm
Rona Shirdan
Thank you for your post. It’s important to write about the tough issues. They are relatable as well.
January 11, 2022 at 3:27 pm
Natasha Garnett
I am really enjoying all these posts. Thank you, thank you. This line from Adrea has me thinking: Is this something that can be used as a mirror for some kids or a window for others? Write on, Storystormers.
January 11, 2022 at 3:28 pm
marshaelyn
Thank you both for your honest, authentic insight. I find your approach refreshing! I applaud how you choose themes, characters, and plots that resonate with children in their real world, especially when facing the harsh realities. Adrea and Kelly, your heartfelt storytelling offers children hope, emphasizing the vital message that we are not alone in our struggles. Sending you inspiration for your continued success…
January 11, 2022 at 3:28 pm
sarahsteinberg
Love that you don’t underestimate kids. THEY KNOW. They get it. Thanks for writing!
January 11, 2022 at 3:32 pm
triciahinely
Perfect for today. I am writing a middle grade book with a personal and serious experience. My favorite take away: Kelly answered: I don’t write about hard topics to make readers feel sad but to instill hope. Thank you so much.
January 11, 2022 at 3:32 pm
Linda
Real stories are so important. Thank you for this thoughtful post!
January 11, 2022 at 3:37 pm
R.L.S. Hoff
Beautiful post that has me mining memories.
Thank you.
January 11, 2022 at 3:38 pm
marybeningo
Thank you for your ideas here!
January 11, 2022 at 3:42 pm
Nancy Ferguson
Adrea, Thank you for the encouragement to “find the hope first”. That can help. Kelly, Your ballet class has me thinking! Thank you, both for the guidance.
January 11, 2022 at 3:52 pm
Joanne Roberts
Thanks for breaking down you method for tackling difficult subjects and all your advice.
January 11, 2022 at 3:54 pm
Jess Freeman
Writing real can be difficult, but it is such an important thing to pass on to our children!
January 11, 2022 at 4:02 pm
Lisa Gaines
Thank you for such a thoughtful view of difficult topics!
January 11, 2022 at 4:04 pm
Laurel Ranveig Abell
Beautiful thoughtful advice! Thank you both!
January 11, 2022 at 4:06 pm
Molly Ippolito
Wonderful tips! Tackling big concepts is so important for children…and you are right. As adults we often don’t give them the credit they deserve…they understand much more than we realize!
January 11, 2022 at 4:07 pm
kdgwrites
Thank you for being so honest. Makes me curious as to how I might be able to incorporate my own childhood dilemmas into a story with a curious new character.
January 11, 2022 at 4:13 pm
Jennifer Rathe
Love how you pointed out how intelligent kids really are!
January 11, 2022 at 4:27 pm
Kaye Baillie
Excellent post. Thankyou Kelly and Adrea. Congratulations on your book.
January 11, 2022 at 4:29 pm
viviankirkfield
Bring on that cup of Earl Grey tea! I love everything about this post: cultivate kindness, enhance empathy, instill hope, foster compassion. Thank you for encouraging us to distill our own experiences into something that will be useful for our young readers and listeners.
January 11, 2022 at 4:34 pm
laureannawrites
I think your message of leaving with HOPE is my takeaway today. I work in environmental education and we always want to empower our students to change the world for the better, and not get bogged down by despair. Thanks for sharing!
January 11, 2022 at 4:37 pm
KeelyWrites
Lovely. Ironically often hard to remember how to see from a child’s view these difficult topics, though it shouldn’t be. Thank you.
January 11, 2022 at 4:38 pm
Jennie H
This post was so helpful as a lot of my writing is about real topics that incorporate SEL and mental health. Love the insight about bringing out the hope so readers “can see it and grab hold of it.” Thats what I strive for.
January 11, 2022 at 4:39 pm
cbcole
Great insight on how to approach writing about serious topics for a PB so kids will learn but not feel threatened.
January 11, 2022 at 4:39 pm
Karen Greenwald
Thoughtful and insightful post–thank you both for taking on challenging subjects and guiding others to do the same!
January 11, 2022 at 4:47 pm
Writer on the run
Thank you Adrea and Kelly for a thought-provoking post! I am writing more and more about climate-change related topics, and I think kids need hope in the future of the planet. “consider how to present it in such a way that it’s beneficial to our audience. … And is there a way to leave the child reader with hope, regardless of the situation? The onus is on the writer to find that hope first and then bring it out in the text so the reader can see it and grab hold of it.” Love this!
January 11, 2022 at 4:48 pm
Dayne Sislen, Children's Book Illustrator
Thank you for your thought provoking post.
January 11, 2022 at 4:49 pm
KeelyWrites
Maybe it goes without saying that we should be writing from a kid’s perspective, but I sure appreciate this reminder. Thank you.
January 11, 2022 at 4:50 pm
Christine M Irvin
Great post! Thanks for sharing.
January 11, 2022 at 4:51 pm
Debi Novotny
This topic has been on my mind, so thank you for the honest advice!
January 11, 2022 at 4:52 pm
Lisa L Furness
Kids need these books. Congrats to each of you for your writing successes!
January 11, 2022 at 5:05 pm
dragonmintcallisto52281
I do not say this lightly, but I CAN’T WAIT to read A HISTORY OF ME. Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 5:06 pm
Lisa M. Horn
Great post! Serious topics are so difficult but thank you both for your candid answers on the best ways to handle them.
January 11, 2022 at 5:08 pm
Michele Helsel
“…focusing too much on the pain can actually be damaging to kids rather than empowering.” This is interesting. Can’t wait to read your books!
January 11, 2022 at 5:09 pm
mbtgroupcb
Congrats on your book! It looks amazing! I have several “tough” topics I’d like to write about someday. You are an inspiration! Thanks for sharing!
January 11, 2022 at 5:17 pm
marty bellis
Real stories are so important and I love the thoughtful approach you’ve taken in writing them.
January 11, 2022 at 5:19 pm
ruthwilson48
This is a topic I’ve always wanted to know more about how to approach. Thanks for offering your experiences!
January 11, 2022 at 5:20 pm
savoringeverymoment
“I don’t write about serious topics to make kids sad. I write about them to instill hope, foster compassion, and to make kids feel seen.” Love this so much. Thank you for sharing.
January 11, 2022 at 5:25 pm
Tammi Beck
Thank you for your time! Great advice 🙂
Best
January 11, 2022 at 5:34 pm
geigerlin
Writing from a place of familiarity surely will produce heart!
January 11, 2022 at 5:35 pm
jhall2018
Excited to read A HISTORY OF ME! And today’s post took me down some interesting trails of brainstorming. Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 5:39 pm
Julia Lyon
I totally agree with what you said about picture books being safe spaces. Kids are far more ready and open to talk about things that adults are not!
January 11, 2022 at 5:42 pm
Afsheen Atif
Inspiring and helpful for writing a difficult subject.
Thanks
January 11, 2022 at 5:44 pm
Debbie Meneses
Dear Adrea Theodore,
I am interested in your A History of Me. Your experience sounds similar to my immigration experience coming from Japan to Louisiana as a young child in the 1960’s. My mother and I were the only Japanese people in our neighborhood. We lived across the street from a cotton farm where families that worked on the farm lived in small houses too. A few of our neighbors did not like Japanese people and I experienced being chased out of a yard by a father when he came home one day from his military duty. The mother allowed me to play with their children, but the father did not. He called me Jap. My mother explained why and then I understood. The children at the cotton farm would wave at me. I wanted to play with them, instead.
Your story resonates with me.
January 11, 2022 at 5:50 pm
Tara Cerven
WOW, thank you both for tackling some tough subjects here. This was a very enlightening read and gives me much to think about.
January 11, 2022 at 5:52 pm
Anne Louise Wan
I love the idea that a book can be a mirror for some children and a window for others, brilliantly expressed! I also love the approach of writing in such a way that it engenders kindness and empathy. Lots to think about and a real encouragement not to shy away from tough topics. Thank you both 🙂
January 11, 2022 at 5:53 pm
Rebecca Ralfe
Thank you, really insightful.
January 11, 2022 at 5:54 pm
TL Fales
I think it’s so helpful to have a specific child in mind as you try to think of how to explain something complex or difficult. Thinking of what I would say to my kids helps me clarify what I want to communicate and how.
January 11, 2022 at 5:57 pm
Kimberly Marcus
Thank you for your thoughtful post. I appreciate it.
January 11, 2022 at 6:02 pm
loricevans
I have one serious story from my experience and it is still a bit awkward and finding it’s place. Thank you for the reminder that these stories are needed. Today I will brainstorm more from this area of thought that I tend to avoid. Your books are beautiful and inspirational.
January 11, 2022 at 6:11 pm
Dannielle Viera
Brilliant and insightful post – thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 6:12 pm
Leigh Anne Carter
This was so wonderful, thank you both for this important post.
January 11, 2022 at 6:15 pm
Laura F. Nielsen
There is always a “ME” hidden inside of every “other.”
January 11, 2022 at 6:19 pm
chardixon47
Thank you, Adrea and Kelly, for your insightful and thoughtful post. Pure inspiration.
January 11, 2022 at 6:28 pm
Ann Page
Adria and Kelly,
I was a fat girl too. Now I’m a grown woman with a voice disorder. There’s always something that makes us feel different from the crowd. Thanks for shedding light on topics that get brushed aside or overlooked because they’re not happy/cheerful all the time. Kids need to know they’re not alone in feeling “different”.
January 11, 2022 at 6:31 pm
Michele Rietz
Thank you for your first-hand advice on handling difficult things in children’s picture books. You are both very generous to share hard things from your own lives.
January 11, 2022 at 6:32 pm
Dena Davis
Thank you so much for this post! A dormant idea from last year may have received enough nourishment to be sprouting again. “Comforting and validating kids going through similar situations” rings true for me and why I want to explore this story idea.
January 11, 2022 at 6:33 pm
Stephen S. Martin
Oh the places I have been and the things that I saw !
January 11, 2022 at 6:41 pm
kmajor2013
Great post, ladies! I have often shied away from such topics because of a fear of scaring children, but you have caused me to pause and reassess that position by using some of your smart approaches to such subjects. I have a number ideas/topics that I plan to work on stories for going forward. Thanks,
January 11, 2022 at 6:42 pm
Laura De La Cruz
Thank you so much for this, Area and Kelly! I am working on a story and am excited about using your tips
January 11, 2022 at 6:44 pm
saintamovin
Thank you Adrea and Kelly 😊
January 11, 2022 at 6:47 pm
kristiniebla
Thank you for your wise words and experiences, Adrea and Kelly. Another tough balance for me is finding the hope in the difficult story,, but not sugarcoating or being too preachy-teachy. Kids are smart, nuanced reader-listeners, something to live up to and create for!
January 11, 2022 at 6:49 pm
Amy Leskowski
Love the duet post! Great words here. Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 6:51 pm
Marci Whitehurst
Writing what you know will help kids. Yes!! Thank you for sharing.
January 11, 2022 at 6:54 pm
Susan Wollison
I really liked this blog.
January 11, 2022 at 6:59 pm
Laurel Santini
Thanks for your thoughtful post. Looking forward to A History of Me
January 11, 2022 at 7:03 pm
mommamoocow
I really enjoyed reading your post.
January 11, 2022 at 7:04 pm
Claire A. B. Freeland
Thank you for bringing your stories to children in an authentic and comforting way. That’s not easy.
January 11, 2022 at 7:06 pm
ofmariaantonia
It is so important to bring even the hard stories to life!
January 11, 2022 at 7:10 pm
Susan Korchak
Thank you for your insights on how to write about tough topics in a way that can help kids feel seen and see others more compassionately.
January 11, 2022 at 7:10 pm
Amy Newbold
Thanks for this post. The insights you shared about how to deal with a difficult topic when writing for kids are so useful!
January 11, 2022 at 7:14 pm
John McGranaghan
Nice guidelines for how to write about difficult topics. Always bring it back to the kids POV. I often forget that essential detail. Thanks.
January 11, 2022 at 7:19 pm
lindakaychavezbooks
“Can it enhance empathy or cultivate kindness?” Great words to keep in mind when considering our writing. Thanks for this thought provoking post!
January 11, 2022 at 7:19 pm
Amanda Malek-Ahmadi
Thank you ladies for the insight on sharing hard topics. Thank you for putting yourselves out there too.
January 11, 2022 at 7:21 pm
Leslie Santamaria
Such a great perspective on handling tough topics for kids. Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 7:26 pm
Julie Murphy
In this time of rampant book banning, it’s even more important for kidlit creators to be brave enough to cover tough topics that kids need to hear about. Many are experiencing them first hand and need to feel heard and validated. Our kids deserve our support. Thanks for this thoughtful post.
January 11, 2022 at 7:28 pm
Elayne
Powerful and crucial questions to consider. Thank you so much for this thoughtful, and important, post.
January 11, 2022 at 7:34 pm
bgonsar
Enjoyed reading the interview – thanks for sharing!
January 11, 2022 at 7:35 pm
Ashley Bankhead
Thank you for this post. It really can be a great thing to write what you know. Thanks for sharing.
January 11, 2022 at 7:43 pm
Linda Silvestri
The respect and sensitivity you both have for children’s intelligence and capacity for understanding is wonderful and refreshing. I very much appreciate this wonderful post!
January 11, 2022 at 7:45 pm
kbrandyberry
Thanks for sharing – loved reading both of your perspectives. When difficult topics come up with my kids, i always look for a PB to help me explain!
January 11, 2022 at 7:47 pm
libbydemmon
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences on the page!
January 11, 2022 at 7:49 pm
Ashley Sierra (@AshleySierra06)
I often forget about drawing from our own experiences. This is a great reminder.
January 11, 2022 at 7:53 pm
Sue
Great discussion! Thanks for sharing. I perked when I saw there is a fellow weaver – yea! Now if I can just figure out a weaving story……..
January 11, 2022 at 7:56 pm
sharonkdal
Your idea of the mirror or the window is really helpful. Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 7:56 pm
MDalphin Williams Creative.Com
Thank You Adrea and Kelly. This discussion is very interesting in today’s world where it is so important for all children to feel valued for the gifts they have and can offer to others. I look forward to reading your books.
January 11, 2022 at 7:57 pm
Trine Grillo
I will keep this in mind as I write: “The pages of a book can be viewed as a safe space to hear about or see things that can be scary, difficult to handle, or hard to explain.”
January 11, 2022 at 8:12 pm
Jeanne Cherney
It is important but hard to tackle difficult subjects.
January 11, 2022 at 8:13 pm
seschipper
Thank you both for sharing this with us! great job! 🙂
January 11, 2022 at 8:17 pm
cathystenquist
Thank you Adrea and Kelly for the thoughtful blog post. I too loved this quote,“The pages of a book can be viewed as a safe space to hear about or see things that can be scary, difficult to handle, or hard to explain.” Even happy things like a wedding, a new baby, a sibling off to school are happy but can have overwheming emotions.
January 11, 2022 at 8:28 pm
bonnie fireUrchin ~ pb illustration & writing
Putting these books on my definite to check out next library list. I’ve always gravitated as a reader and a creator to books that tell difficult stories, out of my past experiences, empathy, curiosity, and a yearning to know more about others, find more answers, be more comfortable with the difficult world issues that hurt my insides.
I feel most kids today tap into or see on social media if not in their own lives. Kids are keenly ware and want to be able to cope better and then be a part of change for a better future world.
Authenticity is the key, imho, to kids feeling hope, finding safety, because how do you trust those who hide the truth from you? Thanks for the great tips on how you make these truth shares age appropriate.
January 11, 2022 at 8:31 pm
Lonna Hill
Great post! Thank you. There are some topics that I hope someday I will have the courage and knowhow to address in a picture book.
January 11, 2022 at 8:32 pm
Jojo Kasala
Loved all your answers!
January 11, 2022 at 8:39 pm
carmelamccainsimmons
This blog post brought me peace knowing children can be empowered with tools and hope to face life’s difficulties by the work of these two women. All of us should strive for this level of art.
January 11, 2022 at 8:47 pm
JEN Garrett
Loved this post!
January 11, 2022 at 8:51 pm
Yolimari Garcia
Great post! Writing from self-experience indeed results in authenticity.
January 11, 2022 at 8:54 pm
Sara Ackerman
Thanks for this insightful post. I really appreciate Kelly’s point that “focusing too much on the pain can actually be damaging to kids rather than empowering.” I have seen this happen with some books on tougher topics and I also think it takes a skilled reader (as in the adult reading to the child) to help children navigate these books in a way that helps them feel empowered and affirmed. It can require some scaffolding and discussion. Lots to think about. Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 8:58 pm
beckylevine
Such a beautiful post. Thank you
.And I need this book!
January 11, 2022 at 9:02 pm
Janna DeYoung
Thanks for your post. Some topics are hard to tackle but they are still important to write about.
January 11, 2022 at 9:20 pm
Deslie English
I appreciate Adrea’s words that the pages of a picture book can be a “safe space” to think about things that are difficult. Thank you both.
January 11, 2022 at 9:34 pm
Yvette Pais
Kelly, what an amazing post you shared with us. This theme indeed is so important. I love your wisdom words about honesty and authenticity to our own words. These two words pretty much summarises it all. Thank you for all your great input.
January 11, 2022 at 9:37 pm
susanzonca
Yes, indeed, picture books should be a safe place to learn and wrestle with difficult things. Thank you both for sharing your wisdom.
January 11, 2022 at 9:38 pm
Kelly Perkins
Love your shared ideas and experiences and juts jotted down the first idea that came to mind! You two sound amazing 🙂
January 11, 2022 at 9:39 pm
Monica Acker
It is so important to write the thing that is true to you and trust the reader. Thanks for the reminder!
January 11, 2022 at 9:39 pm
Lori
I write from personal experience also.
January 11, 2022 at 9:39 pm
girlscout72091
Love this! Would love a copy of this book for a mentor text.
January 11, 2022 at 9:40 pm
claudine108
Thank you so much for this insightful post!
January 11, 2022 at 9:44 pm
Sophie Furman✨Illustrator (@SophieFurmanArt)
This is my favorite post so far! Adrea and Kelly, I can’t say enough how inspirational and touching your words are, and how much they bring hope and and a “window” to not only kids but for adults seeking to change the lives of kids everywhere!
January 11, 2022 at 9:46 pm
Celeste Turner
This post provided me with lots of supporting information since I am currently pitching a tough subject to write about. Looking forward to the book release. Thanks for the insight from you both.
January 11, 2022 at 9:51 pm
Buffy Silverman
I love this: ” I think virtually any topic can be broached with kids if done in a thoughtful, developmentally-appropriate way. “
January 11, 2022 at 9:52 pm
Prairie Garden Girl
Thank you for the inspiration, Adrea and Kelly.
Suzy Leopold
January 11, 2022 at 9:53 pm
jenfierjasinski
Thank you for asking and answering these important questions!
January 11, 2022 at 9:56 pm
Susie Sawyer
Adrea and Kelly, thank you so much for sharing your insight on writing about tough topics. I’m inspired by your post and your stories to dig deeper into the things I struggled with as a child – maybe there’s a little Susie out there that needs to read my story. 🙂
January 11, 2022 at 9:57 pm
Angela Turner
I admire you for tackling the hard stuff. I’m not sure I could do it. Thank you for this thought provoking post.
January 11, 2022 at 9:57 pm
Sarah Hetu-Radny
This is great thank you for posting! There are definitely some difficult topics I want to turn into picture books but haven’t quite figured out how to water the seeds yet.
January 11, 2022 at 9:59 pm
Jaime
Thank you both. I love how you approach these topics to empower children and give hope and compassion. Can’t wait to read!
January 11, 2022 at 10:11 pm
Jennifer Weisse
Wonderful post and advice. Thank you both for sharing your stories.
January 11, 2022 at 10:13 pm
Karin Larson
Thank you both for this wonderful and inspiring post. Instilling hope is so very important for kids, and something I strive to do as well.
January 11, 2022 at 10:18 pm
Bonnie Kelso
Thought-inspiring article! Thank you so much for your insights, Andrea and Kelly.
January 11, 2022 at 10:20 pm
steveheron
Thank you for saying this, “I want encourage kids to think about why things are the way they are, and to question if they could be different.”
January 11, 2022 at 10:23 pm
Tamisha Williams
I appreciate you all naming that challenging topics are appropriate for young people and just need different considerations to be told in a way that speaks to their needs at their stage of development.
January 11, 2022 at 10:26 pm
kathydoherty1
This post has given me much to think about. Thank you.
January 11, 2022 at 10:30 pm
tinefg
Wow, thank you! Some amazing feelings from when I was growing up flooded back while reading this (literally stopped reading to email an idea to myself).
January 11, 2022 at 10:35 pm
rosihollinbeck
Thanks for this post. Learning to write for kids about hard subjects is high on my list of things to do. This is very inspirational.
January 11, 2022 at 10:37 pm
greengirlblueplanet
Beautiful illustrations. Can’t wait to read! Happy to hear about the consideration taken in sharing these American stories as it can often be re-traumatizing for communities that continue to be affected by ignorance.
January 11, 2022 at 10:39 pm
roberta abussi
I’ve been asking myself those questions for a long time, but since I’m fairly new to writing, I didn’t have an answer just yet. Until… today. Thank you so much Kelly and Adrea
January 11, 2022 at 10:44 pm
Jessica Fries-Gaither
I’ve been itching to write about a tough personal experience and asking many of these questions…now I’m encouraged to give it a try! Thank you!
January 11, 2022 at 10:55 pm
Allison Strick (she/her) (@byallisonstrick)
Thank you both for your insights! I can’t wait to read A History of Me–and all future publications!
January 11, 2022 at 10:57 pm
Pamela Brunskill (@PamelaBrunskill)
Love the idea of using difficult topics to teach kids how to find hope in them. Thanks for sharing!
January 11, 2022 at 10:58 pm
denitajohnson
Thank you so much
January 11, 2022 at 10:59 pm
Tonya K. Grant
You were both very inspiring! Thank you for sharing your experiences!
January 11, 2022 at 11:03 pm
Diane M
You provided lots of food for thoughtful thought. Thanks.
January 11, 2022 at 11:04 pm
Amy Mucci
I loved today’s post. Thanks so much for sharing your stories and such a thought-provoking topic.
January 11, 2022 at 11:06 pm
Andrea MacDonald
Wonderful primer on tackling difficult topics in a manner that’s uplifting and never didactic. Thanks to you both for sharing your stories! Very thought-provoking.
January 11, 2022 at 11:14 pm
Dianne Borowski
So inspirational! Thanks to you both!
January 11, 2022 at 11:14 pm
Judy
Loved having two voices speak about this! Definitely filing away.
January 11, 2022 at 11:15 pm
tinamcho
Great post on sharing experiences with kids!
January 11, 2022 at 11:24 pm
Cassie Bentley
Thank you for the insight about writing difficult topics for both children and adults. The thoughtful questions are especially helpful.
January 11, 2022 at 11:29 pm
Huyen
I think children’s books can broach some very tough topics but it seems very challenging. It makes sense to write what you know so it’s genuine and connects. Thanks for the tips!
January 11, 2022 at 11:32 pm
Thelia Hutchinson
Thank you ladies for you wisdom and vision. I truly believe in writing what you know and sharing it with the world.
January 11, 2022 at 11:32 pm
alana devito
So empowering. Thank you both!
January 11, 2022 at 11:43 pm
Julie Reich
Thank you for sharing your experiences and advice.
January 11, 2022 at 11:49 pm
Alicia Shawn Gagnon
Thank you BOTH for putting into words what my heart has been feeling. Your validation is appreciated more than you know. Peace.
January 11, 2022 at 11:56 pm
Antje
What a great and helpful interview. I agree that children understand much more than we give them credit for. How inspiring to read your insights! Thank you both.
January 11, 2022 at 11:56 pm
Sherri
I can totally relate. Some of the best stories are told from a place of childhood experience.
January 12, 2022 at 12:08 am
Maria Marshall
Thank you both for a thought provoking and encouraging post. This line really stuck with me – “The onus is on the writer to find that hope first.”
January 12, 2022 at 12:13 am
Haley Thomas
Thank you both for sharing!
January 12, 2022 at 12:24 am
Cristina Chan
Thank you so much for this wonderful interview. Children deserve to be validated.
January 12, 2022 at 12:30 am
Michelle Losardo
Thank you, Kelly and Adrea! The right topic at the perfect time!
January 12, 2022 at 12:50 am
Kimberly Grace
One of my goals is to write a PB about being a SA survivor from my experiences as a child! Articles like this are so encouraging.
January 12, 2022 at 1:09 am
Diana Marie Linton
Growing up, it took me a long time to find a way to speak more openly about finding belonging as a mixed child, and it is still a struggle today. It is a story that I know I want to put out in the world, so that children and the adults who have felt caught in between can feel seen. I can’t wait to read A HISTORY OF ME having also been one of the only black students during lessons on slavery and segregation in America.
January 12, 2022 at 1:29 am
Rebecca Sheraton
Very interesting
January 12, 2022 at 1:38 am
Armineh Manookian
Thank you for the important work you both do to help kids feel seen.
January 12, 2022 at 1:45 am
serenagingoldallen
Great post! I have a couple stories I’m working on that are about difficult topics and it was interesting to read how you two deal with them.
January 12, 2022 at 1:54 am
ivankadimitrova
Thank you both for tackling such a difficult but very important topic and sharing your expertise.
January 12, 2022 at 1:54 am
ivankadimitrova
Thank you both for tackling such a difficult but very important topic and sharing your expertise.
January 12, 2022 at 2:14 am
Marie Chan
Your post was very helpful as I write stories that also address difficult topics. Thank you for sharing how to use these experiences to help children grow in kindness and compassion.
January 12, 2022 at 2:21 am
Gaby
Adrea congrats for your book, I wish I could read it. Kelly and Adrea thanks for sharing your points of view, the world is a better place because of you!!!!!
January 12, 2022 at 3:29 am
Jess Burbank (@jburbank)
I, too, was the overweight girl in ballet class and was thinking about this exact subject, but shied away from it because it was such a personal, difficult topic. This post hit home for me. Thank you!
January 12, 2022 at 3:29 am
wyszguy
What a thoughtful entry – thank you so much!
January 12, 2022 at 5:04 am
Rita Jane
Thank you, Adrea and Kelly. There were lots of little, seemingly inconsequential things that happened as a child over which I remember feeling deep shame. This prompt encouraged me to think about friendship conflicts I had and how universally relatable those experiences still are.
January 12, 2022 at 6:39 am
Shanie Cooper
This is great. Even when we feel like our lives are “boring,” there is nothing about the human experience that someone else hasn’t also experienced or can’t relate to. And that makes every one of our lives rich fodder for numerous stories.
January 12, 2022 at 6:45 am
Lindsay Bartlett
Thank you for a thought-provoking and moving post. It made me remember when I was young and did ballet and this girl would always stand behind me and whisper nasty things about my appearance to me. Picture books are the perfect place to explore these difficult situations.
January 12, 2022 at 7:12 am
Nadine Poper
Your reasons for writing about difficult topics for children are spot on. Thank you for bringing your experiences into the kid lit world.
January 12, 2022 at 7:16 am
Krissy
Great post. Kids definitely understand more that grownups give them credit for sometimes.
January 12, 2022 at 7:55 am
wordwritermo
Bookmarking this for later! Great perspectives from both of you. Everyone has stories inside them that they can mine, even the hard ones. Especially the hard ones–because you’re right. Those are the ones that can help someone else the most.
–Melisa Wrex (@mowrex on Twitter)
January 12, 2022 at 8:04 am
cath jones
Thanks for a thought provoking post and for sharing your own experiences…
January 12, 2022 at 8:21 am
cmochowski
Children are the best people to handle difficult topics because they want the world to be a better place. Difficult topics are important because it matters, to paraphrase Maya Angelou, once you know better you do better. And that includes adult when we have to talk to children about difficult topics.
January 12, 2022 at 8:43 am
yangmommy
Very thoughtful ways to approach thought-provoking stories. Thank you!
January 12, 2022 at 9:16 am
Ellen
Thank you! Will re-read this post a few times as I am about to attempt a PB on a difficult topic.
January 12, 2022 at 9:17 am
Phyllis Mignard
My favorite stories were told to me by my dad about his life as a child. Great article!
January 12, 2022 at 9:53 am
Lindsey Aduskevich (@LAduskevich)
I really enjoyed this post. Thank you so much Kelly and Adrea. I love your insight and tips on how to break down difficult experiences and situations into kid appropriate stories. ❤
January 12, 2022 at 10:21 am
Judy Bryan
Thank you, Kelly and Adrea, for this thoughtful, insightful post. Great tips and wise words.
January 12, 2022 at 10:22 am
donnacangelosi
Thank you for this inspiring post, Kelly & Andrea! Instilling empathy and hope is so important for kids. I can’t wait to read A History of Me! Congratulations!
January 12, 2022 at 10:29 am
Rebekah
Great Advice thank you !
January 12, 2022 at 10:29 am
Brinton Culp
Thank you–I appreciate books for kids with tough topics because they help me share these with my kiddos and also learn as an adult.
January 12, 2022 at 10:35 am
Anita M Banks
Thoughtful advice, thank you.
January 12, 2022 at 10:36 am
readmybook2002
The more real characters in books give the unique reader who thinks he is all alone, finds he has something in common with others and will find their place in the universe.
January 12, 2022 at 10:37 am
emoodydotcom
Books like these can help when one doesn’t necessarily have the words to describe what one is feeling or seeing – no matter the age!
January 12, 2022 at 10:46 am
amyrsinn
Great post! Thanks ladies!
January 12, 2022 at 10:49 am
Melissa Stoller
Thank you both for an insightful post. . . kids can learn so much and feel seen when reading about challenging topics.
January 12, 2022 at 10:51 am
Kelly Vavala
This is a really great post. Reading and writing about serious topics for children have to be difficult. I appreciate how both of you tackled it head on and conquered the challenge. It probably helped the both of you to get it out on paper also! I’ll have to give this a try this with some trauma that happened in my childhood and see if it works. If not for anything it will help get it out of your head and onto paper! Thank you for sharing!
January 12, 2022 at 10:58 am
Debbie Austin
Thank you, Adrea and Kelly, for sharing how you go about tackling tough subjects for kids. I appreciate your thoughtful approach.
January 12, 2022 at 10:59 am
susaninez0905
Thanks for a very insightful post.
January 12, 2022 at 11:02 am
Apryl
I love this post. It’s so hard to write about hard things. But I guess that’s why it should be done!
January 12, 2022 at 11:11 am
georgeandjohanna
Great post – thank you both for sharing your hearts with us.
Johanna Peyton
January 12, 2022 at 11:14 am
Joan Swanson
I love the enhancing empathy, cultivating kindness, and hope for kids. Thank you for pointing this out!
January 12, 2022 at 11:29 am
jimchaize1
I loved how both of you expressed your thoughts, feelings, and ideas for writing about difficult topics. Thank you for sharing your insights.
January 12, 2022 at 11:46 am
Viviane Elbee
Can’t wait to read this book! Thank you for sharing
January 12, 2022 at 11:47 am
Darcee Freier
Hope can get us through the hard places. Thanks for shining some light.
January 12, 2022 at 11:48 am
Cheryl Simon
Thank you for this helpful advice!
January 12, 2022 at 12:16 pm
JC
This is such a wonderful post. I really love the way you both are focusing on your difficult experiences to give encouragement and hope to children. Thank you so much for your advice!
January 12, 2022 at 12:33 pm
Deborah Ishii
I have always written about difficult situations or problems, either personally or about others. As a teacher, I found that students could really relate and empathize with serious issues in books and relate them to their own lives. Thanks for your supportive and affirming words.
January 12, 2022 at 12:49 pm
paulajbecker
Hard topics are a challenge to write about so thank you both for sharing your thoughts on how to go about it. Very helpful!
January 12, 2022 at 12:56 pm
Jill Lambert
This post was very thought-provoking, leading me to a deep dive of my childhood. Thank you both!
January 12, 2022 at 1:07 pm
Jay
Thank you for sharing how we can tackle hard topics.
January 12, 2022 at 1:20 pm
Barbara Senenman
Thank you Adrea and Kelly. A great way to focus on difficult experiences.
January 12, 2022 at 1:33 pm
Sarah Cody
I love your comment about how the story can be a mirror for some and a window for others. A story doesn’t have to resonate the same way with everyone. Thank you!
January 12, 2022 at 1:33 pm
carolynleillustrations
I love that “ The onus is on the writer to find that hope first and then bring it out in the text so the reader can see it and grab hold of it.”
January 12, 2022 at 1:44 pm
chaunceyelephant
You took on an important challenge and succeeded. I hope someday I can do the same.
January 12, 2022 at 1:46 pm
Angela De Groot
Excellent discussion on what to consider and how to approach writing difficult topics for young kids. Thanks!
January 12, 2022 at 1:51 pm
allyenz
Thank you for your wise words. The story as mirror vs window perspective will be useful to keep in mind. Fostering compassion, hope, kindness, and helping kids feel seen, all such important stuff. Remembering that kids are smarter more nuanced readers than we give them credit for and honoring their intelligence is so helpful to keep in mind when writing. I appreciate all of your thoughts you’ve shared.
January 12, 2022 at 1:55 pm
Mary Zychowicz
This is a very interesting post. I think it takes special talent to successfully write a story about difficult topics as these and others and to reach a child and give them a sense of hope and encouragement. Thank you, both, for your insights in that process and best wishes on your upcoming books.
January 12, 2022 at 2:05 pm
Brandon Rodriguez
Keeping the intellectual level of a child in mind is extremely important. Remembering that a story about a more serious subject might work with an older kid, like a 5th or 6th grader, but may not be totally appropriate for a younger one, even a 3rd grader. It might create more issues than it helps. Great topic for ideas though
January 12, 2022 at 2:17 pm
Charlotte Glaze
I agree about writing from experience is good.
January 12, 2022 at 2:20 pm
lois1952
Thank you for this. Lots of really interesting insights.
January 12, 2022 at 2:55 pm
heidikyates
This was a thought provoking interview. Thank you for sharing your insights Adrea and Kelly!
January 12, 2022 at 3:15 pm
Leslie Norris
Great post! This makes me want to dig deep to find my stories from the hard situations I went through growing up.
January 12, 2022 at 3:23 pm
vgraboski61gmailcom
So helpful, thank you! So many are afraid to approach tough topics with children, but it is so important. Great post!
January 12, 2022 at 3:25 pm
naturewalkwithgod
Thank you for sharing from your hearts, Adrea and Kelly, as we also should be doing when we write for young readers. –Kim Peterson
January 12, 2022 at 3:50 pm
Deborah Foster
Wonderful lesson from two amazing authors! Wish I had read this ages ago! Kelly I loved your banner that you made for the contest! Wish we could be best buds!
January 12, 2022 at 4:13 pm
Jessica Milo
This post is incredibly helpful in how to approach writing about difficult situations and uncomfortable or challenging topics. Great advice and so thoughtful. I needed this post!
January 12, 2022 at 4:31 pm
Sarah Skolfield
thank you both for sharing your advice
January 12, 2022 at 5:04 pm
Sylvia Mary Grech
Thank you both for your post!
January 12, 2022 at 5:22 pm
Micki Ginsberg
I appreciate your takes in these difficult topics!
January 12, 2022 at 5:51 pm
Joannie Duris
Great post, Kelly and Adrea. Thank you for sharing moments from your childhoods. Giving kids hope is one of the key ingredients for difficult topics. I appreciate books that explore Social Emotional Intelligence, and love stories that challenge a paradigm.
January 12, 2022 at 5:57 pm
Chloe ward
Great interview friends! Love the tips on tackling hard topics- I’m struggling/working on that now!
January 12, 2022 at 6:27 pm
Matt Tesoriero
Much to digest. Best part is that adults can help navigate the difficult issues in real time while reading those books with the kids.
January 12, 2022 at 6:33 pm
Rachelle Burk
This got me thinking again about a fiction MG using my own complicated family history. Hmmmm
January 12, 2022 at 6:34 pm
Roxanne Troup
Thank you for sharing.
January 12, 2022 at 6:41 pm
lorisherritt
Thank you both for this insightful post. There were so many layers to take away. Our challenges connect us all as humans, our resilience too. Today I am inspired to write a story that, “instils hope, fosters compassion and makes kids feel seen.”
January 12, 2022 at 6:50 pm
Laurie Seaford
I agree! It’s so important for children to see their experiences reflected in the books they read–to normalize, to provide opportunities for reflection, for help . . . Thank you so much, both of you.
January 12, 2022 at 7:51 pm
Diane O'Neill
Thanks so much–this post was extremely helpful, as lately I’ve been writing picture book drafts about difficult subjects. I appreciate your insights!
January 12, 2022 at 8:07 pm
Janet Frenck Sheets
I am thankful for writers who are willing and able to tackle difficult topics in picture books.
January 12, 2022 at 8:19 pm
Tonnye Fletcher
Sadly, I can relate to being the “FAT” girl — for me, in middle school (and beyond. . .), but I love the idea of writing about challenging experiences to instill hope, foster compassion, enhance empathy and cultivate kindness! What a fabulous reminder! It also reminded me of an idea from my childhood experiences that I can now tell in a very different way than I’ve previously thought of it, so thank you for that!
January 12, 2022 at 8:33 pm
Elizabeth
I also can relate to being the “fat”, “four eyes” “short”, “freckled and red -jead” child for at time. I understand the teasing that goes on even in middle school. I have been hesitant in writing about these years, but I’m thinking I should try to voice how I felt and what the teesing did to me, and how I overcame it. Maybe it would help some other kid goiing through the same thing. My story might help another chlld cope with a situation similar to mine. . .
January 12, 2022 at 8:40 pm
betlw
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On Tue, Jan 11, 2022 at 7:02 AM Writing for Kids (While Raising Them) wrote:
> Tara Lazar posted: “by Kelly Mangan & Adrea Theodore ‘Write what you know’ > is a popular refrain we’re used to hearing as writers. And for good reason! > When you write from your own, lived experience, there’s an honesty and > authenticity to your words that’s hard to ” >
January 12, 2022 at 8:43 pm
Donna Marx
Thank you for this clear perspective.
January 12, 2022 at 9:07 pm
Kate Rietema
Thank you for sharing these bits of wisdom!
January 12, 2022 at 9:14 pm
Claudia Sloan
Thank you! Very insightful! Serious topics are just as important as the fun and happy ones. I really liked your focus on leaving a message of hope with the reader.
January 12, 2022 at 9:18 pm
Jeannette Suhr
Thank you, Adrea and Kelly, for these excellent tips on how to write about important subjects for children that can also be sensitive. These are great guidelines!
And Happy New Year and best wishes for continued success in your writing.
January 12, 2022 at 9:21 pm
supermario6
Such sage advice! All good!
January 12, 2022 at 9:26 pm
Jen K.
Thanks for the encouragement to write about difficult topics.
January 12, 2022 at 9:49 pm
cindyhutter
Loved this point “ Is this something that can be used as a mirror for some kids or a window for others?”
January 12, 2022 at 9:56 pm
Patricia B. Ellson
Thank you for a thought-provoking post. It encouraged me to consider some story ideas I might not have thought of otherwise.
January 12, 2022 at 10:14 pm
Karen Lawler
Personal experiences are always a wonderful thing to talk about BUT to put them into writing is difficult! Thank YOU for your encouragement 😍
January 12, 2022 at 10:23 pm
Nancy Rubin Fahmy
I like the statements that writing about challenging realities can support children going through the same things. I have worked with children in trauma and books have always been a good starting point to open different kinds of dialogue. Thank you for this perspective .
January 12, 2022 at 10:51 pm
Becky Ross Michael
Very thought-provoking; yes, hope is the important piece!
January 12, 2022 at 10:58 pm
Beth Elliott
Your post made me think of something I read recently in Story Genius (L. Cron), “write what you know emotionally”, which resonates with what you shared above. Thank you for your post!
January 12, 2022 at 11:37 pm
Teresa Daffern
Wonderful advice – thank you for sharing!
January 12, 2022 at 11:59 pm
Liz Godfrey
Beautiful! Mirror / Window / Hope / Compassion. Thank you for your insights!
January 13, 2022 at 12:13 am
Virginia Rinkel
Write your emotions. Thank you – very good advice!
January 13, 2022 at 12:20 am
Virginia Rinkel
Have to write what I know! Enough said!
January 13, 2022 at 12:29 am
Ines Taylor
Thank you for sharing your process. I like to write from real memories of my childhood and for many years have kept journals of my many adventures. Great advice!
January 13, 2022 at 12:54 am
Aly Kenna
Thank you Kelly and Andrea for an insightful post.
January 13, 2022 at 1:08 am
gail fontana
So helpful for people of any age at all to learn how others deal with problems. Thank you for this interview post.
January 13, 2022 at 1:53 am
mariamarianayagam
This post resonates so much! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences!
January 13, 2022 at 2:24 am
karenlee
Y’all are great! And you triggered some story ideas for me, too. Thanks !
January 13, 2022 at 4:00 am
Pauline Cleary
Kelly and Adrea thank you! Your final take away was great – leave with hope whatever the situation!
January 13, 2022 at 4:24 am
Catherine Friess
Thanks for a great post Kelly and Andra! When my daughter was younger I always looked for picture books to help her understand and deal with challenging topics. I’m not so good at writing them myself though!
January 13, 2022 at 4:50 am
Hanna Geshelin
Thanks for giving me the push to try this again. An author I greatly admire told me I needed to avoid difficult topics but I can see now it wasn’t the topic but my approach that needed adjusting. Thanks again!!
January 13, 2022 at 7:49 am
Fredan Lewkwoicz
Thanks for this great and practical advice.
January 13, 2022 at 8:21 am
René Bartos
Great post! Thank you for your insight and ideas.
January 13, 2022 at 10:02 am
carlislemalone
What a wonderful book! I love that you framed it using real-life experiences.
January 13, 2022 at 10:26 am
Marzieh Abbas
wonderful advice- thanks for sharing
January 13, 2022 at 10:32 am
ptnozell
I gravitate to picture books about difficult topics, and this post was very insightful. Thank you!
January 13, 2022 at 10:41 am
Charles Richardson
Takeaway…look at it from the child’s perspective and make it simple. Thanks.
January 13, 2022 at 10:44 am
Rosalind Malin
Sometimes something hurts so bad it is hard to find the words. Thank-you for sharing.
January 13, 2022 at 11:31 am
Maureen (www.maureenfergus.com)
Great post! Very inspiring! Thank you!
January 13, 2022 at 1:04 pm
allthingscreativeequal
Thank you for sharing this helpful advice.
January 13, 2022 at 1:39 pm
Eva NMN Felder
Great insight, thank you for sharing your experiences.
Kelly, I liked your opinion about encouraging kids to think why things are the way they are and to question if they could be different. Love to see all the different expressions on kids faces on your banner. The city on the background fabulous!
Adrea, you must hear a lot of stories from all the kids you see at the Center.
“Is this something that can be used as a mirror for some or a window for others? Is there a way to leave the child reader with hope, regardless of the situation?” How thoughtful and inspiring!
January 13, 2022 at 1:53 pm
rindabeach
I’m a retired teacher, and I loved finding these kinds of books to help my kids. Now I hope when I write my stories, that I can still help kids. My story – the green bean incident – I got paddled for lying about eating green beans.
January 13, 2022 at 2:33 pm
Renata Wurster
So important that all kids get a chance to see themselves in picture books in positive rolls. Important work for sure!
January 13, 2022 at 2:58 pm
AC Perry
Thank you for this! I think that should be every writer’s goal: to instill hope, foster compassion and help kids feel seen.
January 13, 2022 at 3:55 pm
nrompella
Thanks for sharing! A History of Me looks like a great book.
January 13, 2022 at 4:05 pm
Christine Van Zandt, author of A BRIEF HISTORY OF UNDERPANTS
A bonus day with advice from two strong writers! I’m glad we’re seeing a wider range of topics in picture books and agree with your thoughts on how we, as writers, should think about a “harder” topic so that it’s presented at a level kids will understand but also in a realistic manner and with the hope of making the world a better place.
January 13, 2022 at 5:46 pm
Juliann Caveny
Thank you! I found this post to be very inspiring and motivating. It is making me look at issues and topics that I may not have tried out before.
January 13, 2022 at 6:10 pm
Shirley fadden
Thank you! Looking forward to reading your heartfelt story that will surely help us all.
January 13, 2022 at 6:20 pm
stephaniemstories
Thank you for sharing your experiences. This was a great post.
January 13, 2022 at 6:44 pm
shirley301
Thanks for this inspiring post.
January 13, 2022 at 6:50 pm
pamelacourtney
This subject is close to my heart. I have similar emotional engagement in one of my pb stories. Love this. Appreciate this.
January 13, 2022 at 8:14 pm
Karen Gebbia
thanks so much for sharing this; it resonates with a piece I’ve been working on and gives me courage to keep at it
January 13, 2022 at 8:47 pm
ingridboydston
Thank you for taking the time to share ,even when it’s tough.
January 13, 2022 at 9:37 pm
jillcstuck
Kids deserve such thoughtfulness. Thank you.
January 13, 2022 at 9:47 pm
Carol Gordon Ekster
Such important topics! Thanks for your inspiration, Ladies.
January 13, 2022 at 10:37 pm
🌱 𝚁𝚎𝚋𝚎𝚔𝚊𝚑 𝙻𝚘𝚠𝚎𝚕𝚕 🌻 (@RebekahLowell)
Love this post so much. Thank you for sharing the tough stuff.
January 13, 2022 at 11:24 pm
katiefischerwrites
Thank you for sharing your experience!
January 14, 2022 at 12:45 am
Judith Snyder
The idea of books being both mirrors and windows for children is so important. So much of our experience is universal.
January 14, 2022 at 3:16 am
linafeli
Thank you for sharing how your turn your painful personal experience into something hopeful.
January 14, 2022 at 9:17 am
Linda Hofke
Lovely interview, ladies. I agree that any topic can be appropriate for children when written the right way. And I love Kelly’s answer to the last question: “I don’t write about serious topics to make kids sad. I write about them to instill hope, foster compassion, and to make kids feel seen. There has to be light at the end of the tunnel. Ultimately, I’m trying to distill my experiences down into something useful for kids.” So true!
January 14, 2022 at 9:27 am
gayleenrabakukk
Thank you for writing stories that help all kids feel seen!
January 14, 2022 at 9:56 am
Meghan Downs
This is so wonderful! It is inspiring me to look at my own experiences and see what I can use as inspiration for my next story. I love children’s books that teach about hard topics- I absolutely agree they can be done in a hopeful and age-appropriate way. And thank you so much for your work in child advocacy. This is such an important area of children’s health. Your work makes a huge difference!
January 14, 2022 at 10:12 am
Meaghan Mountford
Loved today’s dive into discomfort. The authors’ words are so helpful. Thank you!
January 14, 2022 at 11:36 am
Rita Antoinette Borg
there is nothing better than to plunge into one’s own experiences
January 14, 2022 at 11:57 am
Abby Wooldridge
What a powerful post! Thank you both so much for sharing! ❤
January 14, 2022 at 12:30 pm
Bethany Walker (@bookshelfofbeth)
Love this incredible post. I am currently writing a book about trauma, not to make kids feel sad as you said but to help them feel seen and know they aren’t alone.
January 14, 2022 at 12:37 pm
Angela H. Dale
“try to see it—whatever “it” is—from a kid’s perspective” – so important, always – such a wonderful, thoughful, actionable collection of wisdom in this post. Thank you.
January 14, 2022 at 2:41 pm
mwolpin
A very thoughtful post. I have a WIP on a difficult topic and this was very helpful at just the right time. Thank you, Kelly and Andrea.
January 14, 2022 at 5:00 pm
amyrsinn
Thanks for addressing how to write difficult topics. I’ve dealt with them in stories myself and like to add positivity and humor. Can’t wait to read your book.
January 14, 2022 at 5:40 pm
Susan Schade
Thank you for sharing these ideas. I think picture books with difficult topics are so valuable!
January 14, 2022 at 7:23 pm
Stephanie Wildman
I appreciate this post so much. Thank you for the concrete advice.
January 14, 2022 at 7:42 pm
Kimberly Wilson
Thanks for this perspective, Adrea and Kelly! Writing from experience is such a great way to come up with ideas and tackle difficult topics.
January 14, 2022 at 9:00 pm
Stephanie D Jones
So helpful – thank you both!
January 14, 2022 at 9:38 pm
Michelle Kashinsky
Thank you, very insightful!
January 14, 2022 at 9:58 pm
S. K. Wenger
Thank you for the insights on writing about tough topics! Putting these stories into the hands of young readers is invaluable.
January 15, 2022 at 10:10 am
Andrew Hacket
I love hearing your perspectives on how and why you write about difficult topics. Thank you for sharing.
January 15, 2022 at 10:23 am
https://katiewalsh.blog/
I appreciate this post and reminding me to take a chance and try writing about what I know. Thank you!
January 15, 2022 at 10:48 am
Kristy Nuttall
I like how you said, “there’s an honesty and authenticity to your words that’s hard to duplicate.” So true! Thanks for sharing all of these gems of wisdom.
January 15, 2022 at 11:16 am
topangamaria
EMPOWERing !!!
January 15, 2022 at 11:42 am
heathercmorris
Thanks so much for the great interview/post!
January 15, 2022 at 12:18 pm
amomnextdoor
Your book sounds wonderful; it’s now on my library list!
January 15, 2022 at 2:34 pm
Kirsten Leestma
Thank you!!
January 15, 2022 at 3:09 pm
Dea Brayden
Great answers to great reflective questions. Thank you both!
January 15, 2022 at 3:19 pm
Nazanin Ford
Thank you for delving into the specific ways you place a child’s perspective at the center of the story. Will definitely be referring back as a checklist for making sure my writing is focused on the child I want to reach.
January 15, 2022 at 6:06 pm
Erik AmmonErik Ammon
I’ve written an MS about my struggles with school, but not about being overweight. That one’s next!
January 15, 2022 at 6:12 pm
Chiara Beth Colombi (@ChiaraBColombi)
What excellent advice for the hardest of stories to write. Thank you for this inspiration! I’ve already realized there’s a story I’ve been wishing I could find but had never considered writing it myself. Jotted down some great notes for it already. Thank you, Adrea and Kelly!!
January 15, 2022 at 6:51 pm
Charlene Avery
Wow! Thank you for sharing this emotional, deep diving, wonderful post. And coping, perspective…much. Best wishes for all your projects and enjoyments!
January 15, 2022 at 7:33 pm
writersideup
It’s that delicate balance…excellent post, ladies 😀 Thank you!
January 15, 2022 at 8:12 pm
kbottagaro
I appreciate the vulnerability of this post. Thank you both for sharing pieces of yourselves.
January 15, 2022 at 9:48 pm
Zoraida Rivera
Real life experiences are tough to write about. I’ve written lovely and too sad manuscripts. I needed to shine a light on my hope. Thanks.
January 16, 2022 at 12:08 am
Tonya K. Grant
Wow! Insightful post! Thank you both for sharing.
January 16, 2022 at 1:56 am
sharongiltrow
Thank you for showing me how to write about the difficult topics in a sensitive, developmentally appropriate way.
January 16, 2022 at 4:21 am
meilin418
This is a post to return to when I attempt to begin new drafts these coming months. As tough to sell as difficult topics can be as a debut, it is a great reminder that beginning with a gentle approach from the kid’s perspective is that first step. Thank you!
January 16, 2022 at 12:04 pm
Debbi G
Thanks for sharing your experiences. insight,and inspiration.
January 16, 2022 at 12:41 pm
Dawn Prochovnic
Thank you for this insightful, inspiring post.
January 16, 2022 at 12:56 pm
Stacey Lynn Corrigan
I appreciate this post so much. I had a really tough 2021 and am trying to wrap my head around how to process it. I want to write about it but didn’t really know where to start. This really helps.
January 16, 2022 at 2:09 pm
Jan Milusich
Andrea and Kelly, thank you both for sharing your experiences and perspectives.
January 16, 2022 at 3:23 pm
Thelia Hutchinson
Thanks for your insight
January 16, 2022 at 3:45 pm
chrisynthia
This was a perfect topic after doing the exercise from day 9. Several of my interests and values present tough topics. I was wondering how to translate that to a picture book.
January 16, 2022 at 4:24 pm
Aimee Jenkins
Thank you for sharing your experiences!
January 16, 2022 at 4:37 pm
Carolyn Kraft
Thank you sharing your insights!
January 16, 2022 at 5:26 pm
dmcbee
Our experiences are a great resource, but we often forget to think about them. Thank you for a timely reminder.
January 16, 2022 at 6:01 pm
Rebecca McMurdie
I appreciate this so much. Reading/engaging with difficult topics is a great entry point to cultivate compassion, kindness and hope.
January 16, 2022 at 6:35 pm
Susan Cabael
Thankful that both of you are writing about experiences that help children be seen and allow others windows into their worlds.
January 16, 2022 at 7:33 pm
H. Abigail Perry
Thank you so much for sharing this!
January 16, 2022 at 7:34 pm
Jane Baskwill
Books like these are so important, especially when done right. Thanks for sharing.
January 16, 2022 at 8:49 pm
Tamara Ann Alba
I love the idea of storybooks being a safe space to explore difficult ideas.
January 16, 2022 at 9:29 pm
Kellie
This post really resonated with me. I tend to write more ‘serious’ books than ‘fun, fluff and fizz’ and am always looking for ways to be less didactic and less ‘scary’. Your post has given me new energy.
January 16, 2022 at 11:00 pm
calliebdean
I so appreciate this post. Picture books can give kids a safe space to explore these difficult topics.
January 17, 2022 at 1:15 am
Katherine Godfrey
I love how Kelly says that she writes about difficult topics to instill hope!
January 17, 2022 at 3:17 am
Megan McNamara
Thank you for the insight, Adrea and Kelly!
January 17, 2022 at 3:18 am
Acamy Schleikorn
This was such a great post!! Definitely goood good for thought!
January 17, 2022 at 9:52 am
theresacocci
Thank you for sharing your insights. This has given me so much inspiration!
January 17, 2022 at 11:41 am
Dina Towbin
Wonderful. I love your process.
January 17, 2022 at 12:01 pm
littleredstoryshed
Great post. Thank you for sharing your process and advice.
January 17, 2022 at 1:03 pm
Alexis_Bookdragon
Thank you for all of this!
January 17, 2022 at 3:41 pm
Caren Cantrell
It’s so easy to fall into adult language when trying to depict difficult subjects. Thanks for that reminder to take it back to a child’s level.
January 17, 2022 at 4:29 pm
Sue (Susan Uhlig) (she/her) (@susanuhlig)
Thanks for sharing.
January 17, 2022 at 5:25 pm
deniseaengle
I love that you said stories should give hope!!
January 17, 2022 at 6:13 pm
maryvanderplas
Great insight. Thank you both!
January 17, 2022 at 6:17 pm
Jacqueline Adams
There are so many great questions to think about in this post. Thank you both!
January 17, 2022 at 6:21 pm
ljh22o
At a time when critical race theory is under attack, Dr. Theodore’s thoughts are so timely
January 18, 2022 at 9:44 am
joanapastro
Love this interview!
Takes talent and heart to tackle the tough topics. Thanks for sharing your insights!
January 18, 2022 at 12:11 pm
juliannahelt
Great post! Thanks!
January 18, 2022 at 12:37 pm
Kelly Conroy
Yay, Adrea!!!!! Congratulations! And Kelly, I’ve never met you, but congratulations to you too!!!! Great post.
January 18, 2022 at 3:10 pm
Kassy Keppol
Thank you for sharing.
January 18, 2022 at 4:20 pm
Christine Pinto
Thank you, both for sharing these insights. It gives me encouragement to write about things I know need to be written about, but I don’t yet know how to write them.
January 18, 2022 at 4:32 pm
Angie Isaacs
Thank you for this thoughtful and important post!
January 18, 2022 at 5:06 pm
Wendy
Thank you both for the encouragement to face remembered moments of darkness to help others believe in the light.
January 18, 2022 at 6:27 pm
Jolie Stekly
❤️ Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
January 18, 2022 at 8:25 pm
Mary Ann Blair
Thank you, ladies!
January 18, 2022 at 9:13 pm
Kerri hardy
Thank you for this post. Books that tackle big issues help children to know that they are not alone, that they can empathize and learn from the characters in the book. I love how you described the pages of a book as safe spaces…those safe spaces leave lots of room for important conversations.
January 19, 2022 at 8:27 am
hansenjc13
striking the right balance between tough situations and putting them into a safe, appropriate context for kids is difficult. thank you for sharing your ideas–there is so much to learn from our not-so-rosy childhood experiences
January 19, 2022 at 8:41 am
reluctantspy
Reality is the stuff of story. Plot is a four letter word.
January 19, 2022 at 11:47 am
Bettie Boswell
Thank you for your perspective on dealing with difficult topics.
January 19, 2022 at 6:07 pm
Lauri Meyers
Lovely thoughts from both of you on how to approach tough topics- and encouragement to not shy away from them.
January 19, 2022 at 6:50 pm
syorkeviney
Thank you Adrea and Kelly, I am in the middle of revision and revision of a PB with subject matter that it difficult but I want it to help children who have experienced this trauma and show them it is possible to find hope, confidence and happiness.
January 20, 2022 at 8:54 am
Kaitlin Hedberg
I love the advice for the writer to look for the hope first so that the reader can hold on to it later. Thank you for the thoughtful reflections and guidance!
January 20, 2022 at 1:58 pm
writeknit
Thank you for sharing your stories and inspiring me to tackle topics seemingly too “adult” for kids. We all know they are much more perceptive than we often give them credit for. 🙂
January 20, 2022 at 4:28 pm
Teresa Rodrigues
I’m late responding, but I loved this post! Thank you for sharing and congrats on your new books! Adrea, A History of Me is such a beautiful book. Thank you for writing it!
January 21, 2022 at 12:55 am
Karan Greene
Good stuff to ponder here! Thanks!
January 21, 2022 at 1:14 pm
jennyb_writes
Hello from North Carolina! What a fantastic, insightful post. Thank you both for your input.
January 22, 2022 at 7:57 am
🇵🇪 Sara Fajardo 🇺🇸 (@safajarwrites)
Incredibly insightful. Thank you!
January 22, 2022 at 1:33 pm
Christine Fleming McIsaac
Very powerful post. Thank so much for this insight and thoughts on writing more difficult stuff.
January 22, 2022 at 9:41 pm
Kris H.
Thank you
January 22, 2022 at 10:30 pm
Jaymie Dean
thank you so much for doing this storystorm together and sharing both your perspectives.
January 22, 2022 at 10:44 pm
Susanne Whitehouse
I tend to recommend books for parents to read to their children when they’ve gone through a difficult experience. I agree that they can be a safe space to learn about scary things. Thank you both for this insightful post.
January 23, 2022 at 2:46 am
Dani Duck
Thank you so much for your wonderful insight both of you!
January 23, 2022 at 7:01 am
Emma Wood
Thank you both for sharing your insights!
January 23, 2022 at 7:52 pm
Yaa
Congrats on your new book, History Of Me. I hope your new book will inspire
people who had a difficult childhood.
January 24, 2022 at 7:36 am
Adam Blackman
Can’t wait to read A History of Me to see how you’ve rendered this topic.
January 24, 2022 at 2:59 pm
angiecal76
Your books could be lifelines to kids who wrestle with serious situations in their own lives. Crafting a story that strikes the right balance of seriousness and kid friendly jargon is definitely an art. Love your thoughts on this.
January 24, 2022 at 4:19 pm
Abraham Schroeder
Thank you for sharing!
January 24, 2022 at 10:01 pm
Devyn
Thank you both so much for sharing!
January 24, 2022 at 10:05 pm
treuting
I really appreciate both Kelly and Adrea’s advice, especially what Kelly shared about digging into little, concrete details of experiences you may have had and finding ways to SHOW not tell. I’ll be thinking about how that ties into an author sharing the experience and story in an empowering way, vs. traumatizing or hurting when you mean to be healing. Thank you!!
January 25, 2022 at 10:05 am
Sheri Dillard
Wonderful post! Thank you!
January 25, 2022 at 10:05 am
Federico Erebia / F. Jordan Erebia (@FedericoErebia)
This is a terrific post. Thanks
January 25, 2022 at 1:19 pm
Brian Burak
I love that you collaborated and what a great post. Thank you
January 25, 2022 at 1:36 pm
Amanda
I’ve been toying with the idea recently of approaching tougher topics in my writing and how best to approach them–its such a delicate line to walk these days. Thank you for your perspective. This gives some food for thought.
January 25, 2022 at 8:00 pm
Mary Beth Rice
Thank you for this good advice!
January 25, 2022 at 8:00 pm
Rebecca Guzinski
I love how you referred to the picture book page as a safe space for a child. Thank you Adrea and Kelly!
January 25, 2022 at 9:01 pm
Lucky Jo Boscarino
Mirror or Window? So much to think about…
January 26, 2022 at 10:01 am
Judy Palermo
This is generating a flood of ideas. Thank you!
January 26, 2022 at 2:22 pm
suzannepoulterharris
Yes, it’s so important to tap into these difficult situations to enhance empathy and cultivate kindness. Thanks for sharing your experiences.
January 26, 2022 at 3:02 pm
goodreadswithronna
Such an excellent post! “I write about them to instill hope, foster compassion, and to make kids feel seen. There has to be light at the end of the tunnel,” particularly resonated with me. Thank you!
January 26, 2022 at 5:29 pm
thelogonauts
Love the idea to balance sad with hope. Thank you both!
January 27, 2022 at 11:54 am
midfreeman
Great advice! I’ll be thinking about this a lot.
January 27, 2022 at 1:45 pm
Lori Mozdzierz
Appreciate the post!
January 28, 2022 at 11:22 am
Andrea
Thank you. This is so helpful, because I like writing about living with a disabled parent, because that was my experience growing up. I have a lot to learn on how to write about this for young children and this post has been a great place to start.
January 29, 2022 at 11:24 am
Melissa Hastings
Many of my students have shared their experiences of being the “only one” in a classroom or other spaces. Folks who don’t live those experiences need to read those stories. Thank you both.
January 29, 2022 at 1:44 pm
LaurenKerstein
What an important, illuminating, and insightful post! Thank you.
January 29, 2022 at 3:03 pm
susan gruidel
i have a few tough topics i myself have been through and think often of how to put into a story for children. it’s a fine dance and your advice here and reminders of how to approach this style of writing was helpful. thank you.
January 29, 2022 at 9:50 pm
setwiggs
What a powerful post. I remember awkward times as a child. Putting these feelings into words can help a child now facing their own periods of sadness and anger.
January 29, 2022 at 10:57 pm
Penny Taub
Thank you for your generous prizes. I like what you said the book is either a mirror or a window. Children in elementary school do need books that reflect the reality of their world and daily conflicts. I also work with children after school.
January 29, 2022 at 11:01 pm
riverwoods21
Thank you for your generous prizes. I love the idea a story is either a mirror or a window. Yes, children need encouragement.
January 30, 2022 at 3:09 pm
kathryn hagen
I agree that there is a place–actually a need–for children’s books about difficult topics. Books done well help our young people process feelings and life experiences. Thank you!
January 30, 2022 at 3:41 pm
Anna Brooks
Thank you, this is so helpful! It’s such a fine balance you have to strike when talking about difficult subjects, and this is a great way to think about that.
January 30, 2022 at 4:05 pm
Anyuka- Ilona Holland
Thank you for the encouragement and for reminding us all to instill hope with our writing! Ilona Holland
January 30, 2022 at 4:06 pm
Jennifer
Thank you for sharing this! This was a very important and helpful post.
January 30, 2022 at 8:46 pm
Mina
Thank you for your insightful post 🙂
January 30, 2022 at 9:50 pm
Krista Maxwell
Thank you for your inspirational post.
January 31, 2022 at 12:13 pm
Ana Archi
Stories of hope and compassion are so needed and universal.
January 31, 2022 at 12:26 pm
lee77094
I am working on a difficult topic at the moment. Your post is timely inspiration. Thank you!
January 31, 2022 at 2:16 pm
Lucy Staugler
Kelly and Adrea, as a retired educator/school counselor, I thank you for tackling difficult topics. Books can help children deal with their life situations and make them feel like they are not alone!
Thank you for helping our precious children!
Lucy Staugler
January 31, 2022 at 6:24 pm
nataliemoralesbooks
This post resonated with me. Thank you for sharing Kelly and Adrea.
January 31, 2022 at 7:15 pm
matike2209
What a wonderful article! Thanks for sharing.
January 31, 2022 at 10:16 pm
angelapadron
Wonderful post thank you
January 31, 2022 at 11:17 pm
Jennifer Broedel
Honestly, when I think about facing a difficult time with a child, I would certainly turn quickly to picture books. Creators who put them into the world give us a safe space and jumping-off point the broach these topics with kids. To consider difficult topics in a child-centered way is an important step!
February 1, 2022 at 12:23 am
Kristin Sawyer
What an important topic. Thank you for the thoughtful advice.
February 1, 2022 at 1:41 am
Terri Sabol
I love y’all’s approach to writing about difficult topics. Thank you for sharing!
February 1, 2022 at 6:06 am
Azra Rahim
Being real and authentic works for kids just as it works for adults. Thank you.
February 1, 2022 at 3:57 pm
kaitlinsikeswrites
I was just having this conversation with someone, very true. Thanks
February 1, 2022 at 4:12 pm
Sylvia Chen
So insightful to hear your approaches, thank you!
February 1, 2022 at 5:52 pm
Jennifer Hunt
Thanks for honesty and willingness to share how your experiences shaped your writing.
February 2, 2022 at 1:58 pm
Anne Young
So many gems of advice in here. Interesting point about the tough craft of achieving balance.
February 7, 2022 at 3:40 pm
Archaa
I have so many book ideas around important topics, this post really helped!