Rejection is an unavoidable part of a writer’s life. In fact, the more diligently we pursue our writing dreams, the more we increase our chances of being rejected. (Hey, I don’t make the rules.)
Receiving a “no” from your dream agent or editor stings. I want to tell you that it gets easier with time, but I ravenously ate a chocolate bar after receiving a couple of rejections just a few months ago. Once that passed, I had to do something that was actually useful. I took a break. It doesn’t help to think about a rejection while still emotional about it.
What I did next is something that helps me to think of a “no” as a necessary pitstop towards my final destination of a “yes”. Instead of feeling defeated from a “no”, I started looking to it for inspiration to make my manuscript even better.
Learn from it.
You’re a writer, so take notes. Make a note of the suggestions that you receive. Write them down and turn them into a checklist even if you don’t agree with them at first.
Once you have your initial list, strike out any feedback that you don’t agree with. Specifically, dismiss any feedback that completely goes against your vision for the story.
Review your manuscript, list in hand and make the appropriate revisions.
Grow from it.
Query your shiny new manuscript that was inspired from the feedback you received by the rejection.
Put the manuscript to the side. Perhaps you’ve realized that the manuscript truly wasn’t ready and you need to work more on your craft. Perhaps you’ve realized this manuscript truly wasn’t the right fit for those you queried. Either way, you’ve grown as a writer.
We all hate form rejections. “No response” rejections are even worse. While both make it more difficult to assess what you can gain from them, it’s not impossible. You can still take apart your manuscript and read it as a reader (not as a writer). Look for parts that you don’t necessarily connect with. See if the pacing drags in places. Double-check for continuity in longer works. Nobody knows your work better than you do, and nobody knows your strengths and weaknesses as a writer like you do (just be honest with yourself!). Look past the passion of your passion project and get to work!
Once you’ve gotten to intimately know the no that you’ve received, you’ll be in a better headspace that allows your creativity to flourish.
Then, you’ll be that much closer to your YES!
Ashley Franklin is a writer, mother, and adjunct college professor. She received her M.A. from the University of Delaware in English Literature, where she reaffirmed her love of writing but realized she had NO IDEA what she wanted to do about it. Ashley currently resides in Arkansas with her family. Her debut picture book, NOT QUITE SNOW WHITE, was published in 2019 by HarperCollins.
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January 6, 2020 at 7:05 am
Sharon E Langley
Thank you for saying this. I have a manuscript that I love very much: some people liked it, but not everyone. So, I put it away for a while and I will revist and retool it. It’s a great story. It just has to find a home, right?
January 6, 2020 at 8:42 am
Michele Meleen
Yes! I think we all have at least one of those 😉 Great advice Ashley!
January 6, 2020 at 11:11 am
Samantha
Thanks for this message. Receiving rejections is hard, but they also serve as proof of writers putting themselves out there. And that should be celebrated!
January 6, 2020 at 4:48 pm
karammitchell
I’m going to need to read this post over and over – after each rejection, no response, or form letter. Thanks for the encouragement. You’re right. Taking a break helps to remove me from my ‘darling’ of a dummy. Then I can think a little more clearly about revising.
January 6, 2020 at 7:07 am
thecrowsmap
Thank you, Ashley, for tackling this tough topic.
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January 6, 2020 at 7:08 am
Jocelyn Rish
Getting distance from my writing is definitely the best way for me to read it honestly, so I definitely take breaks to get perspective. Although sometimes my breaks go on for too long. 🙂
January 6, 2020 at 7:10 am
Lauren Barbieri
Great advice—thank you.
January 6, 2020 at 7:12 am
candicewolff
Hi, Ashley! I completely agree. It’s impossible to learn anything useful from a rejection until you’ve given yourself the space to get past the initial hurt and disappointment. I think the other important thing to look for is trends in the rejections. If we have received multiple rejections on a manuscript and we are starting hear the same things again and again, it shows us what we most need to pay attention to in the revision process.
January 6, 2020 at 7:18 am
Elizabeth (@elizabethstiert)
I’m sure this is true for most of us, but I absolutely needed to read this. I’ve been writing since I was a child. I’ve never queried for fear of rejection. My 2020 goal was so push myself, no matter the inevitable rejection, to query and finally put myself out there. After all, how can I encourage my kids to follow their dreams, if I don’t pursue my own. Thanks again, I am going to bookmark this page (and buy some chocolate in preparation.)
January 6, 2020 at 7:23 am
betlw
Turning a negative into a positive is a great reminder that we can always learn from a “no” also. Thank you for the reminder, Ashley.
January 6, 2020 at 7:34 am
Andrea Mack
Thanks for your inspiring words! I’m already thinking, what can I learn today?
January 6, 2020 at 7:24 am
Sarah Hetu-Radny
Great advice, Ashley! Thank you! I just received a rejection with which I need to print out, write down the criticism/suggestions and attack my manuscript.So… it was a good rejection. I was lucky to receive it. It was painful, though, as I had higher hopes for this one than the others!
January 6, 2020 at 7:29 am
Roo Parkin
Thank you, Ashley. I’m sure the rejections will make the wins so much sweeter. (Please let there be a win one day!)
January 6, 2020 at 7:29 am
Laurie Carmody
Thank you for the advice, Ashley! As someone hitting the query trenches this year, this is timely information for me to digest.
January 6, 2020 at 7:31 am
Robin Perkins
I found your tip to strike out feedback that goes against your vision for the story to be particularly helpful. Thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 7:38 am
Marsha Diane Arnold
So many similar things I’m sharing with the writer I’m consulting with. I’m going to share your post too. Thank you, Ashley, and congratulations on your book.
January 6, 2020 at 7:41 am
authoryvonafast
Thank you for the great tips, Ashley! The worst rejections are the no-response or the form letters that don’t give you any ideas for revision. That’s where good critique partners can help. I love your advice to strike out advice that doesn’t ring true with your vision of the story. I’ve gotten advice that may be good – but it would be a completely different story if i followed it. Thanks again.
January 6, 2020 at 7:42 am
teacherwriteracker
Thanks for the reminder to turn the negative into a positive.
January 6, 2020 at 7:45 am
Kathi Morrison-Taylor
This is helpful advice; thanks! The times I’ve set manuscripts aside, even manuscripts I’ve revised multiple times, I’ve always found surprises in them on a later read. Happy New Year!
January 6, 2020 at 7:46 am
Stacey Corrigan
Thanks for the reminder. Love the idea of a checklist!
January 6, 2020 at 7:56 am
steveheron
I have been holding back on a lot of new material as I have been receiving rejections of my current manuscripts. I have spent time working on improving them. Storystorm has provided my with the right kick in the pants to develop my new ideas. So far so good. Thanks.
January 6, 2020 at 7:56 am
Latasha Vernon
My girls and I absolutely loved NOT QUITE SNOW WHITE. Thank you for sharing your take on rejections.
January 6, 2020 at 8:00 am
Lauri Fortino
What a healthy way to look at rejections. Thanks for the tips!
January 6, 2020 at 8:00 am
Suzanne Lewis
Such important advice on how to handle the dreaded “No”. Consider the comments with a calm, open eye; revise to make the story technically better in a way that still holds true to the vision, the story’s alluring heart. Thank you, Ashley!
January 6, 2020 at 8:01 am
Linda Mitchell
Fantastic advice because it’s real. That feeling of rejection…ugh! It’s super tough. But, I like how you say, “learn from it.” Great way of thinking. Chocolate never hurts, either 😉
January 6, 2020 at 8:02 am
kaleegwarjanski
Thanks for the encouragement!
January 6, 2020 at 8:06 am
Patricia Alcaro
Thank you for reminding me not to give up. Even when I get a form rejection, I remain hopeful that someone actually took the time to read my submission.
January 6, 2020 at 8:07 am
tanyakonerman
Oooh, does rejection ever sting, but we must dust ourselves off as you describe!
January 6, 2020 at 8:09 am
hannahhudsonwrites
Thank you, Ashley.
January 6, 2020 at 8:10 am
Jellybean
Time away from a story helps if no guidance is given. Thanks.
January 6, 2020 at 8:10 am
tinamcho
Thanks for the encouragement. Rejection hurts, but we can turn it around for our good!
January 6, 2020 at 8:12 am
Kelly Jaques
Congratulations on your yes, Ashley! Thanks for the post!
January 6, 2020 at 8:14 am
Jellybean
Reimagine and revise. Thanks.
January 6, 2020 at 8:18 am
rosecappelli
Thanks for the inspiration, Ashley! It’s important to learn from every response to our work, good or bad. And you are right, the “no response” rejections are the worst.
January 6, 2020 at 8:18 am
Sandhya Rose
Valuable advice! Thanks Ashley. Here’s to all tne no’s that will help us grow into better writers, cheers!
January 6, 2020 at 8:19 am
debobrienbookscom
Thank you, Ashley, for your words of support. It’s hard not to let rejection get to us.
January 6, 2020 at 8:22 am
Lisa L Furness
Important post. No is not the end of the journey. Its part of the writing journey and can help us figure out what to do moving forward.
January 6, 2020 at 8:24 am
marlainawrites
Thank you for your sensible advice. Rejection never gets easier. But chocolate helps.
January 6, 2020 at 8:25 am
Laurie
Oh man this is such a hard thing to deal with, but such great advice. Thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 8:28 am
Cynthia Way
Great post, this is so my issue. I worry about getting derailed by rejections but I have to put myself out there. Btw my daughter and I loved Not Quite Snow White and the title is genius. Best, Cynthia
January 6, 2020 at 8:28 am
Deb Sullivan
Great perspective Ashley – thanks for sharing!
January 6, 2020 at 8:30 am
Brenna Becker
It’s always hard to hear “no” when you’re so passionate about a project. Thank you for putting things into perspective.
January 6, 2020 at 8:35 am
Vicki Minchin
A very important lesson, thank you.
January 6, 2020 at 8:37 am
jjpc1
Thanks for the reminder to learn from rejection!
January 6, 2020 at 8:41 am
Kathy Halsey
Love your book, NOT QUITE SNOW WHITE, Ashley. This post encapsulates my new theory about submitting. It takes 100 rejections to get that “Yes.” I look at each one as a way to help me grow and “fall forward.”
January 6, 2020 at 8:43 am
Cathy L. Murphy
Thanks for reminding us that a “no” is a part of the journey, Ashley. Onward!
January 6, 2020 at 8:43 am
Jolene Ballard Gutiérrez
I love your suggestion of making a checklist based on feedback we’ve received. Thank you for your insight!
January 6, 2020 at 8:43 am
Sallye O'Rourke
Learn from it!
January 6, 2020 at 8:44 am
hmkingman
Ashley, thank you. In sales we had a saying: “you start with no”. Doing nothing for fear of rejection is the worst type of “no”. Thanks for the encouragement.
January 6, 2020 at 8:50 am
Joana Pastro
That’s a great reminder, Ashley. I have a couple of manuscripts that I love, and are stuck in rejection land. I need to do a serious revisiting to try to give them a boost and make them sing.
Thanks!
January 6, 2020 at 8:51 am
Amy Houts
I love the title of your book! I’ll look for it (or request it) at the public library. We can all commiserate about rejections. It’s part of the process! Even Jane Yolen (so I’ve heard) gets rejections.
January 6, 2020 at 8:52 am
Rita
Yes! And thank you for this important reminder that the only way to get to “yes” is to welcome “no” into your writing life. Write on and submit on. Your “Yes Day” will come.
January 6, 2020 at 8:55 am
TerriMichels
Any time I get ink (comments/suggestions) from an agent or editor I am thankful and run with it.
January 6, 2020 at 8:58 am
Jane Heitman Healy
What great advice–” Look past the passion of your passion project and get to work!” Thanks, Ashley. Here’s hoping we all see more yesses than nos in the new year!
January 6, 2020 at 8:59 am
Mark Bentz
Thank you Ashley for this important reminder of how to turn a “no’ into a “yes.” SCBWI group helps too.
January 6, 2020 at 9:03 am
SpeechVine
No’s definitely sting no matter how many times you see them. But you definitely can learn from them.
January 6, 2020 at 9:05 am
Abby Wooldridge
Love this post, and love your book! Thanks, Ashley! 🙂
January 6, 2020 at 9:06 am
Darlene Koppel
Good to hear that No is not the end. Ashley – Like your idea of a checklist.
January 6, 2020 at 9:06 am
Rebecca
Great advice! Thanks, Ashley!
January 6, 2020 at 9:06 am
Evelyn Bookless
SOLID advice Ashley. I have had a few rejections pointing out where an agent felt a story needed more, and although the rejection was disappointing, it was so helpful in the long run. Super post!
January 6, 2020 at 9:09 am
Jennifer Weisse
Great advice, to put a positive spin on a “no”, and to turn a rejection into something productive! Thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 9:09 am
Deb Buschman (@DebBuschman)
Thanks Ashley your advice comes at a time that I am swamped with rejection. I will refocus and analyze and get back in the game.
January 6, 2020 at 9:11 am
Dee Knabb
Very helpful ideas for learning from those “no’s”. Thanks, Ashley.
January 6, 2020 at 9:12 am
Dea
I always think about what Stephen king says that it’s basically a numbers game, and every know is another step closer to a yes. Thanks for the inspiration!
January 6, 2020 at 9:12 am
Katherine
I appreciate your thoughtful comments!
January 6, 2020 at 9:12 am
asiqueira1307
Ashley, your book NOT QUITE SNOW WHITE was my favorite one from 2019. I loved it Thanks for the post too. Being ready for a No can be hard, but much needed.
January 6, 2020 at 9:12 am
Robin Jordan
Yup! You pretty much summed it up, Ashley! Thanks! for your insight.
I don’t mind the “no response” rejections – if I chose to send a MS to someone that didn’t ask for it, I’m not terribly offended if they don’t respond. It is a nice courtesy, though!
We all face rejection. However, it is MUCH better to have this community for support. Have a great day, everyone! Onward and upward!
January 6, 2020 at 9:13 am
stiefelchana
Yes! Thank you! Congrats on your book.
January 6, 2020 at 9:13 am
Colleen Owen Murphy
Thank you Ashley. That is what I am going to do. Although I have only received form rejections so far, just saying we are not a match, I can still look at the manuscripts again. I am impressed with how quickly I get some of these rejections when the manuscripts are submitted and the rejections are sent via e-mail.
January 6, 2020 at 9:14 am
ptnozell
Post-rejection revision is always so difficult, but your suggestion to use the feedback to create a checklist is very helpful. Thank you so much, Ashley.
January 6, 2020 at 9:16 am
Dayne Sislen, Children's Book Illustrator
Congratulations on your book. Rejection is the pits, but we should all keep writing and revising. Thank you.
January 6, 2020 at 9:17 am
Susie
Great advice. Thanks!
January 6, 2020 at 9:18 am
Jaclyn Crawford
Thank you for sharing this advice.
January 6, 2020 at 9:18 am
maryraebel
Thank you for your post. Rejection makes me want to eat chocolate, too! But it is truly one step closer to making a manuscript a “yes.”
January 6, 2020 at 9:20 am
Beth Charles
Thanks for the great advice. Not easy, but so useful and important to be able to take the no’s and use them to our advantage.
January 6, 2020 at 9:21 am
M.R. Street
Rejections are part of every writer’s life. Even JK Rowling and Stephen King got rejections. (I think I read that Stephen King actually wallpapered a room in his house with rejections.) Thanks for reminding me that “No” is short for “Not Yet.”
January 6, 2020 at 9:22 am
westindianmommy
Thank you for this important piece of advice, Ashley!
January 6, 2020 at 9:23 am
Kristen Tipman
Thanks for this great post!
January 6, 2020 at 9:24 am
Robin Brett Wechsler
Always good to hear, and to remember that we’re not alone, and we can find ways to grow! Thank you, Ashley.
January 6, 2020 at 9:25 am
Sally Lotz
Thank you for the gentle reminder.
January 6, 2020 at 9:26 am
Paula Thomas
I also think if one person doesn’t like your idea don’t give up. Take the criticism on board, make it better. But remember it’s also a matter of taste. I absolutely hate “Where’s Bear?” That doesn’t make it a bad book and other people love it.
January 6, 2020 at 9:28 am
Charlotte Offsay
Great advice, thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 9:28 am
kirsticall
I adore NOT QUITE SNOW WHITE!!!
January 6, 2020 at 9:29 am
Andria Rosenbaum
It may not be what we want to hear, but it’s the “Nos” that make us grow.
Thank you, Ashley.
January 6, 2020 at 9:29 am
Andria Rosenbaum
It may not be what we want to hear, but it’s the “Nos” that make us grow.
Thank you, Ashley.
January 6, 2020 at 9:32 am
Miki Conn
I’m working on my first book for children which I intend to self-publish. I would love a critique of the book because all though I like it, I know that doesn’t mean its good enough. Thanks for the advice.
January 6, 2020 at 9:32 am
Meli Glickman
Wonderful tips and reminders about how to handle rejections. It’s all a learning process. Thanks for sharing!
January 6, 2020 at 9:35 am
Jane Serpa
Great advice. Thank you for sharing.
January 6, 2020 at 9:38 am
Lori Dubbin
“Take apart your manuscript and read it as a reader (not as a writer).” That is excellent advice and will help me “know the no.”
January 6, 2020 at 9:40 am
betlw
What happened to lessons 4 and 5? I have 1-3 but not 4 or 5, then I see lesson 6. What gives? I’m confused.🤔
Elizabeth Westra elizabethwestra@gmail.com
On Mon, Jan 6, 2020 at 6:01 AM Writing for Kids (While Raising Them) wrote:
> Tara Lazar posted: “by Ashley Franklin Rejection is an unavoidable part of > a writer’s life. In fact, the more diligently we pursue our writing dreams, > the more we increase our chances of being rejected. (Hey, I don’t make the > rules.) Receiving a “no” from your dream agen” >
January 6, 2020 at 9:40 am
Joan Swanson
I know rejection is part of the process, but it still gives you a punch in the gut as a writer. After several, it makes me feel if I’m good enough to be a writer, but I’m still trudging on.
January 6, 2020 at 9:40 am
Becki Kidd
Great advice. We all get rejections~Learn from them.
January 6, 2020 at 9:40 am
Matt Forrest Esenwine
People look at me funny when I make reference to “good rejections” – but some truly are! Congratulations, Ashley.
January 6, 2020 at 9:41 am
Susan
Great advice Ashley. Thank you. And I really like your eat a chocolate bar after rejection. 🙂
January 6, 2020 at 9:42 am
Cathy Ballou Mealey
Know the no is great advice. It’s part of the process for us all – writers, agents and editors – whether we like it or not. Thanks for framing this in a new light Ashley.
January 6, 2020 at 9:43 am
fspoesy
Very good advice that can be difficult to take to heart, but should be. Thanks for the reminder, Ashley!
January 6, 2020 at 9:46 am
mlflannigan
Good advice! Thank you.
January 6, 2020 at 9:47 am
mypetopia
It’s always good advice to turn the negative into a positive. I will learn from the suggestions of others to help make a better story. Thanks!
January 6, 2020 at 9:48 am
Karin Larson
Terrific advice. Rejection is certainly a difficult part of the process but learning from it is necessary. Thick skin needed!
January 6, 2020 at 9:50 am
Aileen Stewart
Well said Ms. Ashley. And dark chocolate would be my choice for consolation :0)
January 6, 2020 at 9:50 am
Celeste Bocchicchio-Chaudhri
It is so easy to get discouraged! Thanks for reminding us that even rejections can be part of our success story!
January 6, 2020 at 9:50 am
pathaap
Great advice, Ashley, especially the part on striking out feedback that goes against your vision of your story, after making a list of the suggestions.
January 6, 2020 at 9:52 am
Krista Maxwell
Thanks for the reminder and the encouragement!
January 6, 2020 at 9:53 am
Aimee
Thanks for the reminder a no is getting closer to a yes. But taking time away to look objectively.
January 6, 2020 at 9:55 am
Chrissie Wright
My students loved NOT QUITE SNOW WHITE! 🙂
January 6, 2020 at 10:03 am
nrompella
We’ve all been there! Will keep truckin’ on!
January 6, 2020 at 10:04 am
Gregory E Bray
I’ve saved all of my rejection letters. It’s interesting to go back and see what was said. Thanks for the post.
January 6, 2020 at 10:05 am
Virginia Manning
Thank you, Ashley! I’m waiting for answers right now and your post was comforting : )
January 6, 2020 at 10:06 am
Johnell DeWitt
A worthwhile reminder. Thank you.
January 6, 2020 at 10:06 am
clairebobrow
This is excellent advice, Ashely. Thank you! Sometimes it’s hard to climb out of the crater of disappointment and see that the person who rejected us is helping make the story better and that’s the whole point. None of us want to put a bad story out there. Love the checklist idea – gonna put it to use!
January 6, 2020 at 10:06 am
kateywrites
Thanks, Ashley! This is spot on advice. I think “getting to know your no” is such a productive and positive spin!
January 6, 2020 at 10:06 am
Cathy Lentes
Good advice. I believe in the redeeming powers of chocolate, as well. And, of course, all the less delicious reposnses to rejection.
Thanks!
January 6, 2020 at 10:07 am
beckylevine
Thank you for such a positive, encouraging post!
January 6, 2020 at 10:08 am
Jessica Kulekjian
Thanks Ashley! Turning a disappointment into an opportunity to learn is a brilliant way to grow in our writing (and lives). Thanks for the inspiration.
January 6, 2020 at 10:08 am
me
Let’s hear it for the nos!
January 6, 2020 at 10:11 am
rimna
Thanks, Ashley – great advice.
January 6, 2020 at 10:11 am
judyrubin13
Thank you, Ashley, for reminding us that we are able to survive a “no”. The first ones are truly frustrating, but I have learned that a “no” eventually leads to a better “yes”.
January 6, 2020 at 10:12 am
BRU BENSON
The best reject I’ve received was 20 years ago from an editor who sent a postcard saying, “You know as much about writing as you do playing right field for the St. Louis Cardinals.” I had it framed above my desk to remind me when I write every day.
January 6, 2020 at 10:13 am
Manju B. Howard (@ManjuBeth)
Good for you! It’s exhausting to press on when a “No” feels like the end of another path to publication.
January 6, 2020 at 10:14 am
lmconnors
Thank you and congratulations on your debut!
January 6, 2020 at 10:14 am
Lisa black
Great post!
January 6, 2020 at 10:14 am
cynthiahm
I am so inspired by your advice. There is so much power in taking positive action towards your writing goals. Thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 10:14 am
Linda Hofke
Great advice.
January 6, 2020 at 10:15 am
Lynne Marie
You’re so right! Keep moving forward. Find a way to turn nope into hope. One of my clients inspired me to say that 🙂 Lynne Marie
January 6, 2020 at 10:15 am
Polly Sena Renner
Thank you, Ashley, for your encouraging words:>
January 6, 2020 at 10:15 am
Jennifer Kay
Great advice. Rejections can be so hard to receive.
January 6, 2020 at 10:16 am
dianaguerin
Getting past No is a difficult thing. Thanks for the great advice and congrats on your published work!
January 6, 2020 at 10:17 am
kimpfenn
Love the list idea and taking apart a manuscript with those notes. Re-reading my own work with someone else’s comments really can pinpoint the parts that need to be clearer and stronger! Thanks, Ashley!!
January 6, 2020 at 10:19 am
Maryna Doughty
Great advice! One of my New Year’s resolutions is to take 3 weeks off from my manuscripts once I finish them. That way, I can read them at a later time with a more objective view. Thanks for the post, Ashley!
January 6, 2020 at 10:23 am
Megan Whitaker
Looks like I’m well on my way to a “yes” with all the rejections I’ve seen over the years. Glad I have lots of mss that need more attention! Thanks for the encouraging post!
January 6, 2020 at 10:26 am
Susan
Good tips!
January 6, 2020 at 10:27 am
Franny G
Thanks — I am so scared of rejection I have not subbed in ages. New resolution: sub more and learn from the inevitable rejections.
January 6, 2020 at 10:29 am
Michelle Ramirez
So true, thanks for this post!
January 6, 2020 at 10:30 am
Franny G
Thanks, I’m going to start subbing again and not be afraid of the nos.
January 6, 2020 at 10:32 am
Franny G
Thanks, I’m going to start subbing again and not be afraid of the nos. (third attempt at posting!)
January 6, 2020 at 10:33 am
gayleckrause
Great advice. I especially like the checklist of suggestions from the rejection letters. 😉
January 6, 2020 at 10:34 am
Robin Wiesneth
Thanks for the words of encouragement. No only means NOT YET, right!?!
January 6, 2020 at 10:38 am
Melissa Richardson
Ashley thank you for this fantastic post. Rejections used to get me so down (sometimes they still do!) but they have taught me so much and helped me grow in ways I never could have from a yes.
January 6, 2020 at 10:38 am
donnacangelosi
Thank you for this empowering post, Ashley! Looking forward to reading your picture book!
January 6, 2020 at 10:39 am
Judy Palermo
Thanks, Ashley. Good advice!
January 6, 2020 at 10:42 am
Debra Kempf Shumaker
Great post! Yes, many, many “No’s” are just a part of this industry. And they make the rare “Yeses” that much more sweet!
January 6, 2020 at 10:42 am
Carol Gwin Nelson
Thanks for the great advice! After the initial sting, making a list is a great way to get my mind moving in order to see the possibilities in the manuscript that I was blind to before.
January 6, 2020 at 10:42 am
Glenda Roberson
Thank you for the encouraging post! A rejection gives the opportunity for growth- if you don’t take it personally! Plus, what doesn’t appeal to one agent
may be another’s cup of tea!
January 6, 2020 at 10:43 am
cantsing1
So very glad you included those of us who often get form rejections or the “wait 6 months . .” kind. And your check-list suggestion is so valuable for those occasionally personal ones. I’m heading back to my rejections right now! Yeah!
January 6, 2020 at 10:44 am
Denise Engle
Ashley! This was super helpful! My pen was super crazy as it hurriedly jotted down my notes from your post. Sure hoping I luck into a critique! Love your vision and focus.
January 6, 2020 at 10:47 am
Amy Harding
I love the phrase, “know the no.” It really is important to put it into context.
January 6, 2020 at 10:52 am
ryanrobertsauthor
Thanks for this
January 6, 2020 at 10:55 am
Julia Dworschack
Yes!! Keep playing! You will hit the right note!
It conjured up an image of someone walking up stairs and on the face of each step in says, “No” in different typefaces and sizes!!! 🤣🤣
(And somewhere ahead on a step in reads, “YES” !!!!🤣🤣
January 6, 2020 at 10:55 am
Susan Johnston Taylor
Even when I get a personal pass, it usually doesn’t contain actionable feedback. (For instance, an agent who says they loved the writing but didn’t feel they had the vision to champion that project.) Fortunately, my critique partners are great at reminding me that my work will find the right home.
January 6, 2020 at 10:56 am
ofmariaantonia
Taking a break can be a great way to deal with a NO. Even a day is helpful when re-assessing your MS. Thanks for the reminder.
January 6, 2020 at 10:56 am
danielledufayet
Love the checklist! No just means “just keep going”. It worked for me! 🙂 Congrats!
January 6, 2020 at 10:57 am
reluctantspy
The drive to tell your story is internal. If the agent or publisher doesn’t get it, keep on going. Self publishing may be the answer.
January 6, 2020 at 10:57 am
Cheryl Johnson
Learn from the NOs ~ great advice!
January 6, 2020 at 10:58 am
rjtraxel
I find focusing on my strengths gets me through rejections.
January 6, 2020 at 11:03 am
Linda Schueler
Thanks for the suggestion to read my story as a reader.
January 6, 2020 at 11:08 am
TammyB
I am in the middle of #100rejections project! The mindset for the no is different! Thanks
January 6, 2020 at 11:09 am
bookfish1
Ashley, great post, I liked that you acknowledged the no response rejection, and the idea of emotionally diverting your energy, putting your manuscript on hold and coming back to it when you are in a better spot. It’s not over when you fail it’s over when you quit
January 6, 2020 at 11:10 am
Sue Heavenrich
Thanks Ashley – No is just part of “Not Yet” which is just another way of saying “we’re on our way”…
January 6, 2020 at 11:11 am
Becky Ross Michael
Great advice, Ashley. Thanks for the boost today!
January 6, 2020 at 11:11 am
Angie
Oh, those rejections sting, yes they do. Great suggestions on how to deal with feedback (when we get it). Thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 11:12 am
Samantha
While receiving rejections is heartbreaking and hard, they also serve as proof that you’re putting yourself out there! Celebrate! 🙂
January 6, 2020 at 11:16 am
Gail Atherley
I also believe you can take pride in allowing the risk of vulnerability to submit your work. It takes courage!! Thank you for the reminder to turn it into a positive experience.
January 6, 2020 at 11:17 am
laurimacey
My mom used to collect rejections and reward herself for every 10 she got. That way each one was a little step on the journey to a reward. It sort of made the whole thing a game and made rejections something to get excited about… you know, only 2 more and I can buy myself that box of fancy chocolate!
January 6, 2020 at 11:18 am
AudreyDayWilliams
Phew. I needed to hear this message this morning, thanks, Ashley! I will start to use the checklist idea. So simple. So brilliant. It’s hard to keep track of feedback, this will be incredibly helpful!
January 6, 2020 at 11:18 am
jenabenton
Good advice!
January 6, 2020 at 11:21 am
Laurel Ranveig Abell
One day I’m going to spell out the word YES as big as I can with all my rejection letters!!
January 6, 2020 at 11:27 am
Juliana Lee
It pays to have a positive attitude!
January 6, 2020 at 11:28 am
June Sengpiehl
Wonderful, useful information that we can all benefit from.
January 6, 2020 at 11:28 am
Susie Sawyer
Thank you, Ashley! I’m going to make a point to “get to know each no”. You’re right, each no can be a step toward a YES!
January 6, 2020 at 11:28 am
Thelia Hutchinson
No is a hard for me to take. I am a “Yes” man. But, I understand. No is not so bad, it helps to grow, it’s like a seed. It can give you the drive to improve and work harder. Thank you for you insight.
January 6, 2020 at 11:31 am
BARBARA SENENMAN
Yes, it’s hard to take a no. If that no comes with suggestions, it makes the no easier to take.
January 6, 2020 at 11:33 am
Eileen Mayo
Rejections are so hard. Thanks for putting it into perspective!
January 6, 2020 at 11:33 am
Stefanie Raszler
Thank you, Ashley!
January 6, 2020 at 11:35 am
Angela De Groot
No is just a pitstop – love that! Thanks for the tips on handling rejection.
January 6, 2020 at 11:40 am
Melissa Stoller
Thanks for a great post, Ashley! I love lists, so a revision checklist really resonates! Congratulations of your wonderful PB!
January 6, 2020 at 11:44 am
Jill Friestad-Tate
Great, positive way to deal with rejections. We all need to remember that it is just part of the journey. Thanks!
January 6, 2020 at 11:45 am
dedradavis03
Thank you for this reminder! I fail forward every time I receive a rejection!
January 6, 2020 at 11:46 am
Jill Friestad-Tate
Positive response to rejections, which are part of the journey. Thanks!
January 6, 2020 at 11:49 am
Catherine @ Story Snug
I like your chocolate response :o) I try and move forward by sending a submission somewhere else although it does sometimes take a few weeks to get the courage up to do that!
January 6, 2020 at 11:49 am
Shirley
Perfect timing for this as I’m definitely revising from rejections, thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 11:53 am
Judith Snyder
I agree with everything you said. And it is so much nicer to receive a rejection with comments.
January 6, 2020 at 11:54 am
Louann Brown
We celebrate rejections in my critique group. Now here’s something else we can do. Thanks.
January 6, 2020 at 11:54 am
TerriMichels
When i get ink (comments/ suggestions) from an agent or editor, I ran with thn and improve upon my work. 🙂
January 6, 2020 at 11:54 am
Sue Reichard
Ashley, thank you for the insightful and instructive article. I love how said, “look past the passion of your passion project.” Thanks for sharing your expertise.
January 6, 2020 at 11:56 am
brittanypomales
Look past the passion. Great Advice!
January 6, 2020 at 11:57 am
jenfierjasinski
This is a helpful post. I especially appreciate the idea to turn the rejection notes into a checklist. Thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 11:57 am
bevbaird
Such great advice Ashley! I’ve been blocked for a while. I’m going to use your advice and move forward. Thank you
January 6, 2020 at 11:59 am
Michele R
Thank you, Ashley. I haven’t submitted anything yet, but will keep your suggestions in my back pocket for when the inevitable rejections come.
January 6, 2020 at 12:02 pm
alisongoldberg
Thanks for this terrific post, Ashley!
January 6, 2020 at 12:04 pm
Midge Ballou Smith
Thanks, Ashley! Great advice!
January 6, 2020 at 12:05 pm
LenoraBiemans (@BiemansLenora)
So helpful to have you prepare us to expect that “no” is a natural part of the long term process.
January 6, 2020 at 12:07 pm
Lisa Riddiough
Thank you, Ashley. Words of wisdom!!
January 6, 2020 at 12:08 pm
sjwmeade
Thank you for this thoughtful post!
January 6, 2020 at 12:09 pm
Nancy Ferguson
Thank you, Ashley. You’ve set my goal for today-revisit,revise a rejected manuscript from a reader’s perspective. Thank you.
January 6, 2020 at 12:11 pm
E. D. Stewart
So true! Everyone needs to wade through a certain tide of No’s before they reach the land of Yes! Thank you for your wise words. 🙂
January 6, 2020 at 12:12 pm
Susan Macartney
Ashley – So many things I like about this post! “Sting” of rejection just wearing off as I return to one of my manuscripts so your advice ringing (positively)in my ears. Spot on and very motivating – thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 12:14 pm
Judy Cooper
Great tips for learning how to revise from rejection. Thank you.
January 6, 2020 at 12:17 pm
Laura Purdie Salas
I’m super proud of my hundreds of rejections, and I definitely wouldn’t have my published books without those nos along the way.
January 6, 2020 at 12:21 pm
Kim Erickson
Thank you for the encouragement!
January 6, 2020 at 12:22 pm
Rachel
Loved this post. It is hard to listen to suggestions when I hear “no” but those suggestions can help me. I do not want to throw the baby out with the bath water.
January 6, 2020 at 12:23 pm
Joan Longstaff
On a day I received a rejection, this couldn’t have come at a better time! Thanks for sharing! Now, back to revision!
January 6, 2020 at 12:24 pm
Rachel
Loved the post.
January 6, 2020 at 12:26 pm
jjsewell416
Rejection is tough! Thanks for your thoughts and advice – I especially like the idea of eating chocolate to ease the sting. : )
January 6, 2020 at 12:30 pm
kswemba
Ashley, I love NOT QUITE SNOW WHITE! It’s a wonderful book that I read to my daughter and we both enjoyed the message.
Rejection is hard! Chocolate helps ☺️. Thank you for your post, encouraging words, and for helping writers see that a “no” is just a chance to learn and grow.
-Kelly
January 6, 2020 at 12:31 pm
authorjanetparkinsonbryce
Thanks Ashley, for great advice!
January 6, 2020 at 12:32 pm
Kimberly Marcus
Hi Ashley!! So nice to read your post and see how you are doing!! Thank you for the inspiration! 🙂
January 6, 2020 at 12:32 pm
Dawn Young
Love “No is not the end of your journey” so true! it’s just part of the journey.
Thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 12:36 pm
Janie Reinart
Working towards that yes! #amwriting Thanks Fr the post.
January 6, 2020 at 12:38 pm
sareenmclay
Thank you Ashley. I like the idea of having a very measured, logical approach to rejection – I also like the idea of chocolate!
January 6, 2020 at 12:38 pm
LittleCornishWriter
Fabulous advice on how to turn a negative to a positive… thankyou! 😀
January 6, 2020 at 12:38 pm
LittleCornishWriter
Fabulous advice on turning a negative into a positive…thankyou 😀
January 6, 2020 at 12:40 pm
Melanie Ellsworth
Ashley, thanks for the useful suggestion to read your manuscript again as a reader and note the parts you don’t connect with.
January 6, 2020 at 12:41 pm
Sheri Radovich
I received two rejections this year on different ms. I am working on revising and writing some new manuscripts with new inspiration. I’m trying to learn more about the agents I submitted to and their likes. Thank you for your article to put it aside and work on something else.
January 6, 2020 at 12:43 pm
Poupette Smith
Ashley, thanks for reminding us of this. I shall digest and persevere!!!!
January 6, 2020 at 12:45 pm
Jean Matthew Hall
So many NOs. So few YESes. Thanks for the reminder to keep on keeping on.
January 6, 2020 at 12:45 pm
Elizabeth Brown
Great post, Ashley! Thanks so much!
January 6, 2020 at 12:46 pm
Marty lapointe-malchik
I love your post, Ashley! No is so hard to hear but taking action to move to a better place with the rejected manuscript is saying yes to yourself. I saw myself in the candy bar response! Thanks for including that! I’ll seek out NOT QUITE SNOW WHITE. It sounds like such an important picture book for all readers to listen to.
January 6, 2020 at 12:46 pm
Daniele Arndt
Thanks, Ashley! What a great reminder!
January 6, 2020 at 12:47 pm
Jane Dippold
Thank you for your advice to move past rejections to a YES!
January 6, 2020 at 12:47 pm
Arlene Schenker
Thank you, Ashley. Learning how to take rejections is part of the writing/growing process.
January 6, 2020 at 12:47 pm
arndt4writing
Thanks, Ashley! What a great reminder!
January 6, 2020 at 12:54 pm
kirstenpendreigh
Timely post, Ashley. I’m in no-response rejection land for one of my stories. On the bright side, each rejection does reinforce how wonderful my acceptances really were!
January 6, 2020 at 12:54 pm
Apryl Lee
This is the hardest and most important lesson to learn.
January 6, 2020 at 12:54 pm
Darcee Freier
Thanks for the help handling the inevitable rejections. Now I just need to be brave enough to send out my manuscripts. Lol.
January 6, 2020 at 12:55 pm
Sarah Tobias
Great post.
My hope for the year is to get feedback that helps me make my stories the best they can possibly be. I also hope that along the way, an editor or agent will see in my stories the vision that I see and they say yes.
I think feedback from CG’s and mentors can be viewed in the same light. This year, I have had feedback on several occasions that I realized immediately I was already thinking, but I hadn’t taken the steps to make the revisions. Other feedback I struggled with, but when I looked back and realized I had heard it from multiple people, I knew there was a problem to be solved.
January 6, 2020 at 12:57 pm
Heidi Yates
Thank you for sharing this message, Ashley!
January 6, 2020 at 1:00 pm
Jess Townes
Thanks for sharing this Ashley! Dealing with rejection is certainly a part of the journey for all of us. Also, I think I need to add more chocolate to writing life!
January 6, 2020 at 1:02 pm
Mary Worley
Rejections can be so hard to keep in perspective. Thanks for reminding us it’s just part of the journey.
January 6, 2020 at 1:10 pm
Traci VW
An encouraging post for sure. “Look past the passion of your passion project and get to work!” — love that line and this was something I needed to do last year and hopefully with doing this, I have improved the manuscript and dummy book to get that yes.
January 6, 2020 at 1:10 pm
Ashley Congdon (@AshleyCCongdon)
Yes, taking a break and letting it set in then evaluate the feedback.
January 6, 2020 at 1:12 pm
kyavorski
Though I’ve gotten better at receiving rejections over the past few years, some sting more than others., Thanks for permission to dismiss advice. That’s tough to do when the advice comes from an “expert.”
January 6, 2020 at 1:15 pm
Brandy Lynne
Great way to view rejections!
January 6, 2020 at 1:18 pm
aidantalkin
Reading works as a reader, not the writer, is always sage advice!
January 6, 2020 at 1:19 pm
katiemillsgiorgio
Such great reminders. I like to collect “nos” 🙂
January 6, 2020 at 1:21 pm
Jennifer Hunt
So true–rejection stings, but we can’t let it stop us. Thanks for the reminder and inspirational post to keep going.
January 6, 2020 at 1:21 pm
orchardka
Yes! Thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 1:24 pm
jbbower
Thank you for the inspiring post Ashley! Rejections really do sting; but you are right, a lot can be learned from them and lead to that coveted “yes!”
January 6, 2020 at 1:24 pm
Mary Jane
Great advice Ashley! Thanks for the post.
January 6, 2020 at 1:30 pm
Jill Lambert (@LJillLambert)
I especially liked your comment to “dismiss any feedback that completely goes against your vision for the story.” Some things are non-negotiable. Thanks, Ashley!
January 6, 2020 at 1:38 pm
Liz Steinglass
Good advice. Thanks.
January 6, 2020 at 1:38 pm
Deb McGarvey
Thank you for this! It’s so helpful to reminded of how much there is to learn from rejection/feedback, and I particularly appreciate the advice to make a checklist of feedback to determine what resonates and what doesn’t serve the story.
January 6, 2020 at 1:39 pm
Jen Bailey
Thank you for the pep talk! 🙂 back at it!
January 6, 2020 at 1:41 pm
Gayle Veitenheimer
Great advice! Thanks!
January 6, 2020 at 1:41 pm
Gayle Veitenheimer
Great advice! Thanks!
January 6, 2020 at 1:41 pm
Lisa Billa
Thanks for helpful advice on how to learn from the rejections!
January 6, 2020 at 1:45 pm
Linda Silvestri
Getting rejections, as crummy as they feel, have actually, also helped me feel legit. In fact, getting notes as well would be a god send! My favorite tip from your post is when you don’t get notes or just get a “no response” rejection is to read your manuscript as a reader (not a writer,) to critique for yourself. I can see how changing your perspective would be invaluable! Thanks for the great, inspiring post, Ashley!
January 6, 2020 at 1:49 pm
Elizabeth Duncan
Thanks for the advice about rejection letters. Revision and rethinking are all a part of this process.
January 6, 2020 at 1:50 pm
Janice Woods
Thank you for sharing!
January 6, 2020 at 1:50 pm
sheriradford
Thank you for the encouragement not to let a rejection defeat you!
January 6, 2020 at 1:52 pm
Aimee Satterlee
Thanks, Ashley for the advice. We love Not Quite Snow White.
January 6, 2020 at 1:52 pm
Rebekah Lowell
This is wonderful advice, Ashley. Thank you so much for sharing. I’m going to be printing this. Also, yes—chocolate is SO necessary in this journey.
January 6, 2020 at 1:52 pm
Linda KulpTrout
Thank you, Ashley. Rejections are hard, but the “no responses” are even harder. Your advice to take apart the manuscript and read it as a reader is very helpful!
January 6, 2020 at 1:52 pm
Ashley Bankhead
Great post! Thank you for sharing.
January 6, 2020 at 1:53 pm
LaurenKerstein
This is so true: “In fact, the more diligently we pursue our writing dreams, the more we increase our chances of being rejected.”
Thank you for your insightful post!
January 6, 2020 at 1:53 pm
mona861
Hate to hear it…but thanks for the good advice.
January 6, 2020 at 1:54 pm
Cathy Ogren
Great tips on how to use rejections to benefit your writing. Thank you for sharing, Ashley!
January 6, 2020 at 1:58 pm
Debra Daugherty
Ashley, your post was well-timed. I just received a no from an agent who had asked for the full of my MG novel. I’ll take your advice, learn from it and grow from it.
January 6, 2020 at 2:13 pm
Louise Aamodt
You’re right, the ‘no response’ rejections are the worst! But if nothing else, it still shows we’re submitting, still rocking and rolling. And that’s something!
January 6, 2020 at 2:16 pm
M.A. Cortez
Thank for your words of wisdom, Ashley. I have finally learned to make notes on the rejections I recieve and sit with them for a awhile. They still sting, but I look at them as a chance to learn and move on.
January 6, 2020 at 2:19 pm
Brittanny Handiboe
I have received only four rejections in the span of five years and they were all different manuscripts! Each time I felt like the story wasn’t good enough so I would just write another while I edited. That seems to help, but I do need to go out a get more rejections I think haha.
January 6, 2020 at 2:19 pm
Joel Chalmers
Thanks Ashley,
It is hard to be positive and build from a rejection, but thinking about it as a way to improve your story helps to refocus. Then you can build ideas and try something new.
January 6, 2020 at 2:20 pm
Katie L. Carroll
The rejections are definitely hard. Thanks for the encouraging words, Ashley!
January 6, 2020 at 2:20 pm
Nicole Loos Miller
Personalized rejections from professionals are definitely positive feedback! Maybe not the feedback we’d like but still a way to grow!
Critique partners and groups are also so crucial to the growth of writers and their manuscripts. I feel so lucky to have found amazing people to help me grow!
January 6, 2020 at 2:23 pm
Mary Ann Blair
Thanks for the encouragement!
January 6, 2020 at 2:28 pm
Terrie Hellard-Brown
Great encouragement! Thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 2:28 pm
Lindsey Hobson
No is tough to hear, especially generic responses or no response at all. Good reminder not to let it stop you, though!
January 6, 2020 at 2:34 pm
Susan Wroble
Inspiration from rejection is a hard, but vital, lesson. Thanks!
January 6, 2020 at 2:35 pm
Deborah Foster
Wow! I never would have thought of putting the critiques I get into a checklist! I’m going to go use this idea right now!! Thank you!!
January 6, 2020 at 2:36 pm
Carol Gordon Ekster
Ashley, let’s keep submitting and getting rejections…and some acceptances, too! Thanks for the inspiration.
January 6, 2020 at 2:43 pm
Monica A. Harris
Some good tidbits here but I’d like to add that sometimes, early writers aren’t aware of their strengths and weaknesses—they think EVERYTHING they put down is perfect the first time. That’s why you connect with communities like SCBWI, attend conferences and workshops, and participate in paid agent/editor critiques so that you CAN learn where you soar & where you need work.
January 6, 2020 at 2:44 pm
Damon Dean, SevenAcreSky
Ashley, this is perfect advice for someone like me who tends to withdraw from the even notion of rejection! I’ve got to remember that No is NOT the End! Thanks for the encouragement from a fellow Arkansan!
January 6, 2020 at 2:46 pm
Karen Greenwald
Thanks for this honest approach…I love what you said about rereading your ms as a “reader” and not as a “writer!”
January 6, 2020 at 2:46 pm
juliannahelt
This advice could also be helpful when thinking about feedback from critique partners.
January 6, 2020 at 2:46 pm
Hélène Sabourin
Thank you.
January 6, 2020 at 2:50 pm
Michael Sussman
Excellent post!
January 6, 2020 at 2:51 pm
Gabi Snyder
Thanks for this golden advice, Ashley! Learning from the rejections is a key part of the process.
January 6, 2020 at 2:52 pm
Kaylynn Johnsen
“Once you’ve gotten to intimately know the no that you’ve received, you’ll be in a better headspace that allows your creativity to flourish.”
January 6, 2020 at 3:09 pm
LeeAnn Rizzuti
Getting to “intimately know the no that you’ve received.” Not for the faint of heart, but exactly what a writer must do to grow. Thanks, Ashley.
January 6, 2020 at 3:14 pm
Kassy Keppol
Thank you. I am saving all of my rejections to wallpaper a writing space with. I can’t wait till I have enough.
January 6, 2020 at 3:16 pm
Carol Calladine
Thanks, Ashley for sharing your take on how to use the rejection process. Good advice.
January 6, 2020 at 3:21 pm
KASteed
Thank you for this advice.
January 6, 2020 at 3:22 pm
Sandra Jenkins
Thanks, Ashley. Can’t wait to read Not Quite Snow White
January 6, 2020 at 3:23 pm
Gabriele
Wise words, Ashley. Thank you for the inspiration. And I love and relate to the message in your book NOT QUITE SNOW WHITE.
January 6, 2020 at 3:23 pm
Lindsay Robinson
Learning through rejection…a good lesson in writing and in life. Thanks for your post!
January 6, 2020 at 3:24 pm
Lori Alexander
Yay, Ashley! Great (and relatable) advice. 🙂
January 6, 2020 at 3:25 pm
drawingablank6
I think it’s important to remember we can take breaks as long as we get back to it eventually. Great advice!
January 6, 2020 at 3:31 pm
Shanah Salter
Your book sounds cute!
January 6, 2020 at 3:32 pm
Cortney Benvenuto
Thanks for your insight and encouragement!
January 6, 2020 at 3:35 pm
Chelle Martin
Have received a few positive comments with my rejections. That’s what keeps me going. Good luck with your debut book.
January 6, 2020 at 3:40 pm
Heather Stigall
thanks for the reminder to think of rejections as inspiration to make our mss even better
January 6, 2020 at 3:41 pm
Lydia Lukidis
Ashley!!! You have always inspired me. Thanks for your great advice here…so happy we’re friends
January 6, 2020 at 3:41 pm
Mary A Zychowicz
Good Advice Ashley! Thank you. I’m making note of this for the future.
January 6, 2020 at 3:46 pm
Judy Abelove Shemtob
Wise advice! A writer can’t be opposed to listening to the honest criticism given in a rejection letter. How fortunate we are to be given the opportunity to revise and make a story better! Looking forward to reading NOT QUITE SNOW WHITE, Ashley Franklin.
January 6, 2020 at 3:48 pm
Liz L.
Thank you. This is a good reminder to use rejection as a stepping stone rather than a roadblock.
January 6, 2020 at 3:50 pm
Maria Bostian
What a positive reaction to rejections! Thanks so much for your advice!
January 6, 2020 at 3:58 pm
Anita Banks
Thank you for the advice.
January 6, 2020 at 3:59 pm
marshaelyn
Ashley, your positive approach to “rejection” is refreshing! After we stomp, grrrrr, and silence our inner critic’s lies, we CAN learn from the “no’s.” I take a deep breath, tuck the letter nearby, and read it again later (after the disappointment deflates). Thank you for your thoughts! Sending you inspiration and energy for your 2020 storytelling…
January 6, 2020 at 4:00 pm
Michele Ziemke
I agree that chocolate can solve many problems! I also loved all the other advice. Thank you for your encouragement! ❤️
January 6, 2020 at 4:02 pm
Daryl Gottier
Thanks for the words of encouragement. If I’ve learned from each rejection, I must be genius by now! Success must be just around that next corner.
January 6, 2020 at 4:03 pm
percyandcat
Ashley, what great words of advice and encouragement. Wise words and insight. No, is the word all writers fear of hearing when they have worked so hard on their stories. It is a learning curve, not the death of our stories. Thank you so much.
January 6, 2020 at 4:15 pm
authorlaurablog
Fear of NO has been a problem, but not putting work out there is an automatic NO. My 2020 mantra.
January 6, 2020 at 4:17 pm
wyszguy
Thank you, Ashley! Great advice!
January 6, 2020 at 4:18 pm
viviankirkfield
Love your post, Ashley! And I, too, have learned that a no is just one step on the ladder to a yes. It does help to put the feedback aside for a bit…and then come back to it refreshed and ready to dig in to make your story sing.
Thank you for sharing your wonderful process!
January 6, 2020 at 4:20 pm
Kathy Erskine
I eat a whole lot more than one chocolate bar, which is why I always have a large supply!
January 6, 2020 at 4:24 pm
Heather Gallagher
It’s really hard to put a positive spin on rejection! But thanks for the tips 😅
January 6, 2020 at 4:27 pm
rindabeach
Thanks for some positive thinking. For me, anything bad eventually leads to something good and vice versa. Here’s to the journey!
January 6, 2020 at 4:27 pm
Cinzia V.
Great inspiration – thank you!!
January 6, 2020 at 4:32 pm
susan schade
Such a good reminder. Thank you for the advice on staying positive!
January 6, 2020 at 4:36 pm
Becky Woodall
You often see what you haven’t before when you have a break! Great post, thank you 😊
January 6, 2020 at 4:37 pm
JillDanaBooks
Thanks for your encouraging post and for the tips on turning a ‘rejection’ into an opportunity for growth! 🙂
January 6, 2020 at 4:40 pm
Emily
Thank you for your helpful advice!
January 6, 2020 at 4:42 pm
Arin Wensley
Great point about learning from your rejection letters.
January 6, 2020 at 4:43 pm
Nancy Ramsey
Great post! Thanks very much!
January 6, 2020 at 4:44 pm
stacey miller
Ashley, thank you for this post, I really needed this as I have been putting off submitting again because of all the rejections. This makes me feel a lot more positive.
January 6, 2020 at 4:56 pm
Amy Cory
Thanks for this post, Ashley! It is inspiring and has great tips for moving forward!
January 6, 2020 at 4:57 pm
Heidi M. Rogers (@heidimrogers)
When I hear “get used to the rejection,” I often respond, “I’m not sure I want to.” It’s always hard to hear “no,” but it usually makes us stronger. Chocolate is a great partner to have when we press on. 😉
January 6, 2020 at 5:16 pm
chardixon47
Terrific advice! Thank you, Ashley, for inspiring me to keep submitting after crucial re-evaluation of my mss!
January 6, 2020 at 5:24 pm
Edith Johnson
So encouraging Ashley!!!!!!
January 6, 2020 at 5:26 pm
Sara Trofa
Thank you, Ashley!
January 6, 2020 at 5:46 pm
Alice Fulgione
Great post about learning from rejections! Thanks!
January 6, 2020 at 5:53 pm
writeknit
Thanks for reminding me not to take rejection too personally and to learn and grow along the way.
January 6, 2020 at 5:53 pm
Sara A
Thank you for the wise advice!
January 6, 2020 at 5:58 pm
Elizabeth W Saba
Thank you for posting this Ashley.
January 6, 2020 at 6:09 pm
Amy Newbold
Great perspective on rejections! Thanks for this post, Ashley.
January 6, 2020 at 6:12 pm
heatherbell37
“know the no”- great advice! There’s tons of possible growth in each no. Thank you for sharing!
January 6, 2020 at 6:20 pm
kltwrites
I’m trying so hard to get to the “yes!”
January 6, 2020 at 6:24 pm
carmelamccainsimmons
I so needed to read this. The silence of not getting any response at all from an R and R set me back. Thanks for the encouragement!
January 6, 2020 at 6:31 pm
kathydoherty1
Thanks, Ashley. I agree…the rejections get less painful.
January 6, 2020 at 6:36 pm
Kellie
Great points about being positive and especially about not feeling you have to accept all feedback if it doesn’t agree with your story vision. Unfortunately, in Australia, the majority of rejections are either ‘no response’ or ‘form rejections’ where they just say your story doesn’t fit their list at the moment but keep trying. However, this advice from you applies just as well to a paid manuscript assessment or a critique. Thank you so much.
January 6, 2020 at 6:38 pm
Genevieve Petrillo
That’s definitely the way to handle rejections -like stepping stones to success. But don’t totally rule out the chocolate bar(s)!!
January 6, 2020 at 6:52 pm
Patti Richards, Children's Author
Thanks for this, Ashley! We all need to be reminded that rejections are stepping stones on the journey even though they feel like boulders in our way!
January 6, 2020 at 6:54 pm
Rona Shirdan
Rejections, with comments, are actually gifts for growth. I will try to keep a positive frame of mind. Thanks!
January 6, 2020 at 6:54 pm
claireannette1
I actually love making lists so your idea of listing feedback suggestions from rejections sounds like a great idea. Thanks!
January 6, 2020 at 6:56 pm
vgraboski61gmailcom
Encouraging advice! Thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 6:58 pm
saintamovin
No is not the end …thank you😊
January 6, 2020 at 7:20 pm
Lori Mozdzierz
Terrific advice!
Thanks, Ashley.
January 6, 2020 at 7:22 pm
Kim Larson
Great advice, Ashley. Thanks!
January 6, 2020 at 7:23 pm
Jeanette Stampone
I’ve grown to appreciate rejections. I have definitely improved my craft due to receiving them. They inspire me to edit my work and submit elsewhere.
January 6, 2020 at 7:25 pm
Bettie Boswell
Thank you for the encouragement.
January 6, 2020 at 7:26 pm
Kathy Cornell Berman
Thanks Ashley! Rejections are for improving our craft, especially if one gets a personal rejection. It’s a time for self-reflection and/or another look at our writing. And sometimes they’re not the right fit for us.
January 6, 2020 at 7:30 pm
Erik Ammon
I love the quote at the top! I know No isn’t the end, but, yeah, it can still be hard. Thanks for the revising advice on our No MSs!
January 6, 2020 at 7:32 pm
Maureen Tai
I’m so glad you mentioned the “no comment” rejections as those are the ones that are hardest to live with: “it was so bad that you couldn’t even give me one word of feedback?!?” is always the initial reaction, and no doubt about it, it hurts like the dickens. Thanks for the reminder to dust off, get back up again and keep plugging at it. Because we believe it in our work, and we love it.
January 6, 2020 at 7:33 pm
James Smith
Great advice- thanks
January 6, 2020 at 7:34 pm
yangmommy
Fantastic tips, Ashley! The road to Yes is paved with many pebbles of No. 🙂
January 6, 2020 at 7:34 pm
Heather Rowley
Such a great post!
January 6, 2020 at 7:36 pm
Rebecca Heller
Thank you so much. Great advice!
January 6, 2020 at 7:41 pm
jessicadunnagan
Thank you for reminding us to find meaning in each step of our writer’s journey!
January 6, 2020 at 7:42 pm
kathrynjeanhagen
Thank you for the wise advice, Ashley. It is easy to get discouraged, but you gave concrete tips for next step!
January 6, 2020 at 7:46 pm
EmmieRWerner
Thank you ❤️We need to be reminded.
January 6, 2020 at 7:52 pm
Lori Sheroan
Thank you for taking a negative experience and suggesting a plan for turning it into a positive opportunity for growth.
January 6, 2020 at 7:55 pm
Carolyne Ruck
Great ideas for what to do after the chocolate bar… or bag of chips! I liked what you said about discarding the ones that don’t match your vision. Not that they can’t give you information too, but sometimes I wonder whose manuscript they read! Very helpful advice.
January 6, 2020 at 8:04 pm
Mary Warth
Thank you Ashley! A- No – is always hard to hear, but you’ve summarized some great ways to turn it into NOw what’s next!
January 6, 2020 at 8:05 pm
Sherry Smith
Ashley, Thank you for your thoughtful post about rejection. Form rejections don’t give authors any clear idea about why the story wasn’t accepted. Decisions on what to publish are so subjective, i.e. perhaps an editor just doesn’t want to publish another furry kitty story.
January 6, 2020 at 8:11 pm
Sylvia Mary Grech
Thanks for the advice. It’s difficult getting no feedback at all but at least I can take solace that I’m not the only one. 🙂 Will keep marching forward!
January 6, 2020 at 8:14 pm
eross
Thank you for this post, Ashley! Finding the silver lining around rejections is excellent advice.
January 6, 2020 at 8:26 pm
Nancy Furstinger
Yes, think positively…and I can’t wait to read Not Quite Snow White!
January 6, 2020 at 8:28 pm
Sarah Wolfe
Thank you for your encouraging words!
January 6, 2020 at 8:29 pm
Hollie Wolverton
A good reminder to keep going, keep learning, keep honing your craft. Thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 8:30 pm
charlestrevino
Excellent advice: Grow from it.
January 6, 2020 at 8:35 pm
Priya Gopal
Keeping this in mind when I will need it in the future
January 6, 2020 at 8:44 pm
Elle
Constant rejection is hard. Good post.
January 6, 2020 at 8:51 pm
Jennifer Phillips
Persistence is key, along with willingness to learn from rejection. Thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 8:55 pm
Ruthie
thank you! those rejections are the hardest part! this is great advice.
January 6, 2020 at 8:57 pm
Kate Molde
Thank you for your ideas on how to handle rejection. I really like how you remind us to take notes even if we don’t agree. The steps and insight you provided will help navigate the writing process.
January 6, 2020 at 9:00 pm
DaNeil Olson
Outstanding post! Thanks for reminding us to always look at the positives.
January 6, 2020 at 9:00 pm
Dea Brayden
Ashley, thank you for this take on the “no.” So helpful!
January 6, 2020 at 9:06 pm
Jane Baskwill
Thanks Ashley for the advice. Any ‘no’ is hard to hear but I like the idea of making the most of it and using it to your advantage.
January 6, 2020 at 9:15 pm
Buffy Silverman
Thanks for your good post. No is a part of the process for us mortals…
January 6, 2020 at 9:16 pm
Brenda Grant Lower
The greatest teacher, failure is. -Yoda
Learning to grow from rejection is hard, but so worth it!
January 6, 2020 at 9:19 pm
Amy Bradshaw
Rejections are hard – and there are many in this business. All advice on how to handle rejection are welcome! We are all in this together!
January 6, 2020 at 9:33 pm
Brenda Miller
This is super helpful advice about learning from no.
January 6, 2020 at 9:41 pm
Shawna JC Tenney
This is a great reminder. Thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 9:48 pm
Mark Ceilley
Thank you for helping me see how a rejection can be turned into something positive. This is helpful advice!
January 6, 2020 at 9:49 pm
Meredith Fraser
Great read. You do have to look at rejection as a learning process. Thanks for the advice!
January 6, 2020 at 9:51 pm
Megan
It’s so hard to figure out what to take from a form rejection! But maybe I’ll reread mine for bits of hidden wisdom!
January 6, 2020 at 9:57 pm
8catpaws
Re a prior comment: I heard it was F. Scott Fitzgerald who wallpapered his NY apt. with rejection slips. Maybe all pre-famous writers do that! If so, I’d rather get a “No” than a no-response!
January 6, 2020 at 10:00 pm
aixaximena
I am amazed at how much easier it is to get rejections now than it was a year ago. I still hate it though. I do spend more time thinking about it and stepping back from just feeling misunderstood and unloved – more willing to revise and rethink. Thanks for sharing your chocolate story, need to go buy some 😊
January 6, 2020 at 10:05 pm
Robyn McGrath
This is so great!
January 6, 2020 at 10:10 pm
deirdreprischmann
Thanks for this post – rejections are SO tough!
January 6, 2020 at 10:22 pm
farmfolkfamily
Thanks for the advice!
January 6, 2020 at 10:36 pm
Kristin Wauson
I especially like the advice to make a checklist. Thank you Ashley!
January 6, 2020 at 10:38 pm
Writer on the run
Thanks for the inspiration to push through the “no” and enjoy the learning experience!
January 6, 2020 at 10:38 pm
Prairie Garden Girl
Receiving rejections is difficult. When comments and feedback are included, it makes for less pain. However, it just means I’m a writer.
Thank you, Ashley.
Suzy Leopold
January 6, 2020 at 10:46 pm
Virginia Rinkel
Yes, to make a checklist is a good idea amongst these rejections.
January 6, 2020 at 10:47 pm
mathbookmagic
Great post. And timely as I’ve just finally begun querying and got my first rejection:) I love the advice that “You can still take apart your manuscript and read it as a reader (not as a writer). ” Thanks for sharing your writing wisdom!
January 6, 2020 at 10:49 pm
rachontheroad
I’m still working on my first one so good news is no rejection yet!
January 6, 2020 at 10:51 pm
Liz
“Intimately know the no.” I love this!
January 7, 2020 at 3:25 am
jenniemacdonald
I do, too! I feel like then I’ll be better able to categorize “no”s and have manageable responses to them: “find the useful bit,” “reflect on,” “disregard”, etc. Kind of like Marie Kondo-ing the submission process 🙂
January 6, 2020 at 10:51 pm
Judy Sobanski
I like your positive take on getting a “no” and how to use it to better your writing.
January 6, 2020 at 10:52 pm
Lori Menning
Solid advice to use. It’s hard to get rejections but we can learn from them. Thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 10:53 pm
Mrs. Vandivier
Being told no when you are pouring your heart into something is difficult. But this is how we learn and grow…thanks for this.
January 6, 2020 at 10:53 pm
Peggy Dobbs
I know rejection is a necessary part of a writer’s life, so I focus on my enjoyment of the writing process and feeling of success when I do submit a manuscript. But of course I look forward to that “yes” day.
January 6, 2020 at 11:09 pm
Jennifer Spillane
Great advice to keep in mind.
January 6, 2020 at 11:10 pm
ingridboydston
Just reading this makes makes NO less intimidating. Thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 11:14 pm
Keila Dawson
All of this! Perseverance is a virtue! And agree it’s so important to recognize when a critique will help you grow your craft.
January 6, 2020 at 11:17 pm
Susan Apps-Bodilly
Thank you for your post – thinking about “no” as feedback is very important and helpful!
January 6, 2020 at 11:18 pm
VICKI M CONRAD
These tips are top notch
January 6, 2020 at 11:19 pm
Natalie Lynn Tanner
ASHLEY: “Learn from it.” “Grow from it.” LOVE IT!!! AMAZING advice that is SO IMPORTANT to not only remember, but put into use each and every day to make our writing the best it can be. I REALLY like the list idea, as well as reading our work not just as the writer, but as the reader. THANK YOU SO MUCH for the inspiration! I LOOK FORWARD to reading your new book!!! And CONGRATS on batteling through the rejection to MAKE IT HAPPEN!!!
January 6, 2020 at 11:21 pm
Nadia Salomon
Thanks for the reminder! Even with an agent, rejections still head into my inbox. Rejections NEVER get easier, but I agree I’ve been able to bounce back better. Great advice on critiques. If multiple comments are returned on the same section – that is something noteworthy. Otherwise, I reflect on singular comments and work with them only if they help me stay true to my vision.
January 6, 2020 at 11:24 pm
susaninez0905
Perfect advice as we continue on this journey. Thank you!
January 6, 2020 at 11:26 pm
carolmunrojww
I know firsthand that what you say is truth! I’ve learned so much from those nos. And from the YAYs. Thanks, Ashley.
January 6, 2020 at 11:31 pm
saputnam
Great post, Ashley!! Thank you for talking about rejections. I may be weird (I’ve have had people tell me that I was) but I was tickled pink to get my first rejection… as it meant that I was now a writer!! I also decided to try reverse psychology on fate by saying that I was going to buy a brick for each rejection I got, and I hoped that I got a lot of them as I wanted to build a brick ranch house… knowing that if I wanted it bad enough, fate wouldn’t give it to me.
I listened to a few of the suggestions, which were more like critiques, and revised one of my manuscripts their way, but I realized that by following their suggestions all the magic was gone… it had become just another part and parcel stale PB. Recently I dug out my old copy… I save and date each and every revision, so I can go back and see where it began to lose it’s magic.
I have 3 manuscripts that I absolutely love and will not give up on… they have been sitting on the back burner for a while now and need to be taken down and re-read… and then there is the manuscript that I love and is only about a quarter written… I hit a brick wall, and now the characters are sitting thumbing their nose at me and giving me raspberries!!
January 6, 2020 at 11:33 pm
writersideup
Thank you, Ashley 🙂 Rejections aren’t fun, but I’d rather get a form rejection than no response ANY day! And when you actually get feedback— it’s such a gift 😀
January 6, 2020 at 11:59 pm
Joanne Roberts
Just when I think I’m over the sting of rejection, I get one that hits me particularly hard. I try to have another avenue for submission all lined up and ready to go so if/when the rejection comes I’m excited to send the manuscript out again. This process also makes it much easier to consider feedback, because I can decide if it makes sense to me and if it’s a good fit for the next editor. I love your to-do-list response to rejections. I’m definitely trying that next time. Thanks.
January 7, 2020 at 12:02 am
seschipper
Thanks Ashley for the great advice! As hard as it is to receive a rejection, turn it into something positive! 🙂
January 7, 2020 at 12:14 am
Cynthia Harmony
Great advice, thank you Ashley!
January 7, 2020 at 12:17 am
Laura W.
Great advice Ashely! Thank you for the post and the encouragement!
January 7, 2020 at 12:23 am
Maria Marshall
Ashley, such great advice. I love your strategy for working through the rejections, especially the silent ones. Thank you for giving us lots to think about.
January 7, 2020 at 12:30 am
Dani Duck
I was absolutely sure that I was done with the story I started to submit to agents. In my eyes it was. I got a lot of rejections! There were several major things wrong and I’m still working on revising them. That rejection was wonderful in making my work stronger!
January 7, 2020 at 12:36 am
cbcole
Ashely, you are so right about approaching rejections as a means to improve your stores. Also, everyone needs to realize how subjective rejections are. I received a strong one the week before a publisher bought my first & only (so far) book.
January 7, 2020 at 12:50 am
Mita
In the corporate world, we say the same thing in the form of “Feedback is a gift”. It’s the hardest gift to take though, but often after initial shock & disbelief, you can find some merit/something constructive to work with!
January 7, 2020 at 12:53 am
Rachel Funez
Good advice. It’s so hard to take an objective perspective on your own work. But so needed. I see it in my critique partners. Those who are willing to kill their darlings soar! But it’s also important to trust yourself and reject advice that goes against the heart of your story. The hard part is knowing which is called for in a given moment.
January 7, 2020 at 1:10 am
Marty Bellis
It’s so difficult to be philosophical about rejection. Sometimes nothing works except chocolate 🙂
But I like your idea of making a checklist of the suggestions received. I’m going to give that a try.
Thanks for sharing your perspective.
January 7, 2020 at 1:14 am
Keeping the Me in Mommy
Thanks for the encouragement and I’m there with you in going for the chocolate!
January 7, 2020 at 1:26 am
matteo121
This is great!
January 7, 2020 at 2:03 am
tdjw
Thank you! It’s so easy to feel defeated when you hear/read a no but this post let’s us know there is power in the word no.
January 7, 2020 at 2:06 am
Jenn
Great advice here. Any rejection still means that it was one more time that I took a leap of faith in my work, took a chance, and stuck my neck out.
You can’t get a yes if you are so afraid of no that you don’t try! I’m hoping to try a lot more this year!
January 7, 2020 at 2:32 am
Mirka Hokkanen
I think I’ve gotten pretty used to rejection, but I still have my hopes up for that one “yes”.
January 7, 2020 at 3:04 am
Riya
I will think of NOs as stepping stones towards a YES. Thank you, Ashley for the insightful post.
January 7, 2020 at 3:29 am
S moody
Good advice
January 7, 2020 at 3:35 am
Marcia Berneger
A rejection is good-it means you’re submitting. (Of course, a yes is even better) 😊
January 7, 2020 at 3:42 am
Rachel S. Hobbs Gunn
Thanks!
January 7, 2020 at 6:44 am
awritersdream41
Thanks Ashley for helping us to embrace the “no” and using it to gain insight on our project.
January 7, 2020 at 6:59 am
58chilihed13
Knowing rejection is nothing new, NOing rejection is subtle ways has given me a clue! I need more work at my craft…thanks Ashley for your words!
January 7, 2020 at 7:00 am
Nadine Poper
Thank you Ashley. A No to me just means NOt yet.
January 7, 2020 at 7:33 am
Freda Lewkowicz
Thank you! Those NO REPLIES though! Ouch!
January 7, 2020 at 8:40 am
Eileen
I’m in sales so I hear no a lot but a rejection for something I created stings. Thanks for the encouragement
January 7, 2020 at 8:48 am
Kara Newhouse
You can’t get a ‘yes’ without taking the risk of getting a ‘no.’
January 7, 2020 at 9:07 am
Jan Milusich
Thank you Ashley for your honest and encouraging post.
January 7, 2020 at 9:54 am
kelliejanebyrnes
Thanks for sharing, Ashley.
January 7, 2020 at 9:58 am
Erin Fennell
Thanks for the advice and encouragement!
January 7, 2020 at 10:04 am
jshaklan
Good suggestions, thank you! 😊
January 7, 2020 at 10:05 am
Judy Bryan
Thoughtful, encouraging advice for getting past a rejection. Much needed. Thank you, Ashley.
January 7, 2020 at 10:24 am
Bonnie Auslander
I like the checklist idea and the idea of withholding judgment of the criticism until later. Thanks!
January 7, 2020 at 10:32 am
susanzonca
Returning the my first manuscript and first rejection that derailed me and analyzing the feedback before I edit. Thanks for the reminder. I do think not hearing is more challenging than rejection. My first rejection took two years to receive after submission.
January 7, 2020 at 10:39 am
Kaitlyn Leann Sanchez
Sage, sage advice!
January 7, 2020 at 10:59 am
Heather Thurmeier
Rejection is all part of the process and it doesn’t stop after you have an agent or after you’ve been published. It’s just something we have to learn to roll with.
January 7, 2020 at 11:01 am
Sarah Skolfield
I know rejections are part of the process but it’s nice to hear it again. I keep a notebook of my rejections where I list the comments I’ve received.
January 7, 2020 at 11:06 am
Cheryl Keely
Recently listened to an interview with you about Not Quite Snow White. Congratulations. It sounds lovely. The suggestion about making a checklist from any notes you get from a rejection is good. If we’re lucky enough to get feedback. 😊
January 7, 2020 at 11:07 am
Tina Hoggatt (@tinahoggatt)
Love this post.
January 7, 2020 at 11:13 am
Amanda Malek-Ahmadi
Great idea to write down those critiques and also to let the manuscript sit. It is definitelyhard to receive the “no” but I love your ideas to spring board then into inspiration!
January 7, 2020 at 11:25 am
mginsberg10
Thanks for a better way to deal with rejections! Micki
January 7, 2020 at 11:25 am
anitajjones
Important information! I needed the reminder as well…to keep going! I find it still stings after so many rejections, but I’ve learned so much. I just keep my rejections in a folder….so I’ll remember how far I’ve come. Thanks Ashley!
January 7, 2020 at 11:31 am
booklover1
I needed to hear this. The rejections can bring you down. Thanks for the hug & push for me to persevere in your post.
January 7, 2020 at 11:31 am
Rebecca E. Hirsch
“You’re a writer, so take notes.” Love this. Thanks for the great advice!
January 7, 2020 at 11:53 am
leahpsmoser
I love hearing success stories as this process can be quite discouraging. Thank you for sharing your story!
January 7, 2020 at 12:19 pm
Julia Rauba
Thank you for your insight! I really love the idea of turning the comments into a checklist. Brilliant!
January 7, 2020 at 12:21 pm
Laura Jean Watters
The sentence about how its not helpful to think about rejection while you are still feeling emotional about it really resonates. Its useful to think about separating the emotional part of rejection from the opportunity to grow.
January 7, 2020 at 12:22 pm
Brinton Culp
Am waiting and growing in this journey. Thank you for sharing the goodness that sometimes comes from “no.”
January 7, 2020 at 12:28 pm
Naana
Thanks Ashley for an in depth way of accepting rejections, although they sting. Your post does inspire one to examine one’s writing and hone in on the craft. Eating the chocolate would be me!
January 7, 2020 at 12:35 pm
curryelizabeth
Rejections sting but thanks for reminding us to use the feedback to further our craft (or help us understand our ms better by disagreeing with some feedback!) Congratulations on your success!
January 7, 2020 at 1:35 pm
Kelly Vavala
Great way to handle rejection! Especially the chocolate part! Thank you for this great advice!
January 7, 2020 at 1:37 pm
Kyle McBride
Thanks for the post.
January 7, 2020 at 2:15 pm
Tracy Hora
Nice reminder about dreaded rejections. Thanks.
January 7, 2020 at 2:31 pm
kirstenbockblog
Ugh, rejections are the worst. But you’re right. We can learn so much from them.
January 7, 2020 at 2:40 pm
Carrie Williford (@carrietimes)
I’ve always tried to see “no” as an accomplishment – I sent the query or I submitted the story. It’s helped but rejection is never easy!
January 7, 2020 at 2:51 pm
angie9091
I long ago accepted that rejection was a necessary part of the process. But I still wasn’t ready to accept just HOW MUCH rejection it would take.
January 7, 2020 at 2:58 pm
jeanjames926
Rejections are hard, but you give solid advice on how to handle them. Thank you.
January 7, 2020 at 3:05 pm
Paula Puckett
Dealing with rejections are hard, yes…and you helped take some of the “sting” out of the ouches. Thank you!
January 7, 2020 at 3:25 pm
phyllisharris50
Thank you! Rejection never gets easier but the more I experience it, the thicker my skin gets and I know it is just part of the journey.
January 7, 2020 at 3:37 pm
David McMullin
Ashley, you make me feel stronger. This was terrific.
January 7, 2020 at 3:56 pm
Lynn Alpert
Yes! Thanks for the reminder that in order to get a yes, you have to get the no’s out of the way first.
January 7, 2020 at 4:14 pm
Wendy
It’s wonderful to see you here, Ashley! Thanks for your upbeat take on the hard part of this business.
January 7, 2020 at 4:27 pm
DCSM
Thanks for the reminder that NO is a big part of the business of writing – but that it doesn’t necessarily mean the death of a particular story. As I struggle to be brave enough to send my writing out – I need to remind myself of your message.
January 7, 2020 at 4:54 pm
sara fajardo
This post was perfect timing. Thank you.
January 7, 2020 at 4:55 pm
iefaber
I need more rejections. More rejections means I’m trying. I can’t seem to get query ready. I’ve only submitted to a few magazines here and there.
January 7, 2020 at 5:15 pm
Kelly Rice Schmitt
Thanks for sharing this method Ashley. It’s a nice idea to compile a running spreadsheet if rejection feedback. It all makes us better!
January 7, 2020 at 5:27 pm
Annie Lynn, AnnieBirdd Music, LLC
Right On Ashley!!!😊. “Look past the passion of your passion project and get to work!” That reminds me of song lyrics, “Just list your goals, envision yourself meeting them, because that’s when….the magic happens again.” I constantly have to remind myself to immerse myself in my next project, and THAT is when some old forgotten project gets noticed and sells. I also want to say something about rejection. Ten years ago, I was submitting songs to music libraries who sell it to companies and media outlets that need it. They remain in these music libraries, and now finally, work a bit for me. However, every so often I would get an email from a project manager, who wanted me to know how great my submission was. Several producers commented that there was just this other song, that was a little bit better fit for the commercial or client. One said he wanted me to understand how the business works, and not give up. He basically said Right Place- Right Time combined with continued submissions and new products, would get me there. He believed in me. I tell you this story because if you can hang in there for the right place and time, while you work hard at business & create new things, that magic will begin again and you will achieve more goals. Thanks for letting me share and thanks Ashley for being insightful and kind.✌🏼💙🎶🎨📚😊
January 7, 2020 at 5:28 pm
jcyoungstrom
This is something I’m dealing with right now because I used November to query. So far I’ve only gotten form rejections. I want to know how to take that kind of feedback. Do I continue to wait for personal rejections, or take it as a sign that my writing needs to continue to improve?
January 7, 2020 at 5:36 pm
Rebecca Gardyn Levington
Rejection is so so SO hard, but I’ve tried very hard to take away SOMETHING from each rejection. When there are comments, obviously, that’s helpful. But when there are only crickets, I still pat myself on the back because I was brave enough to put myself out there. Every attempt helps thicken my skin just that little bit more and helps me become even bolder and braver to accept whatever response the next query will bring. Thank you so much for sharing your story and inspiration! 🙂
January 7, 2020 at 5:37 pm
Teresa Robeson
Getting rejections definitely never gets easier…LOL! But we have to eat chocolate and then learn and grow from the helpful passes, like Ashley said. 🙂
January 7, 2020 at 5:41 pm
Amelia Shearer
Good reminder to move through the no instead of letting it stop me in my tracks. 🙂
January 7, 2020 at 5:46 pm
Janet Frenck Sheets
Yeah, those “no response” rejections are the worst. They feel like daily mini-rejections, until you finally give up hope, realizing you’ll never hear from that person. I haven’t figured out a way to put a positive spin on that experience yet, but I’ll keep trying. Thank goodness fellow writers understand!
January 7, 2020 at 6:06 pm
Anne LeBlanc Gr 4/5 teacher (@AnneLeBlanc2)
Thank you for this post! I have had a few no response rejections. I have shared your post with a member of my writing group – who is an amazing writer! She has had rejections – I think the checklist idea is a great way to go!
January 7, 2020 at 6:32 pm
Zoraida Rivera
Accepting feedback has made me a better writer and is a plus to get an agent. Editors have an eye that can manuscripts shine, even when rejecting them.
January 7, 2020 at 6:33 pm
Brenda May
A great and informative post. Thank you.
January 7, 2020 at 6:35 pm
Rebecca Herzog
I am a firm believer in learning from rejection. I always set a rejection goal for the year. It helps me feel like every no is a tick towards fulfilling that goal, in addition to all that i can learn for it!
January 7, 2020 at 7:17 pm
Carolyn Currier
Thank you!
January 7, 2020 at 7:20 pm
adavis6385
Love this nugget—read your story as a reader (not as a writer)—such a good reminder! Thanks for sharing, Ashley!
January 7, 2020 at 7:22 pm
kmajor2013
Interesting post. One of my goals is to try to not let rejections bother me or to not allow myself to build up my hopes too high. It’s a work-in–progress.
January 7, 2020 at 7:34 pm
debbiemoeller
That was very good advice. I will try to look at rejections without a long face.
Thank you.
January 7, 2020 at 8:24 pm
Dawn Young
Ashley, thanks for your words of encouragement.
January 7, 2020 at 8:33 pm
Karan Greene
Great advice! Thanks!
January 7, 2020 at 9:06 pm
Michelle Kogan Art, Illustration, & Writing
Thanks Ashley, I like your idea of holding on to parts of your book that truly work for you. Congrats on NOT QUITE SNOW WHITE!
January 7, 2020 at 9:32 pm
Julie Reich
Chocolate is the perfect antidote to rejection. I wholeheartedly support your decision. Thanks for the advice!
January 7, 2020 at 9:34 pm
Leah
No has always completely derailed me. Thank you for the reminder.
January 7, 2020 at 10:09 pm
teresa.mi.schaefer
Thank you for the reminder! No may be a complete sentence, but it isn’t the end.
January 7, 2020 at 10:24 pm
Kaye Baillie
I like the idea of making a list from the rejection. Handy to work from. Thanks, Ashley.
January 7, 2020 at 10:32 pm
Dee Leone
“When life gives you lemons…” Staying positive in the face of rejection is great advice.
January 7, 2020 at 11:04 pm
Alexia Andoni
Great reminder. Thank you!
January 7, 2020 at 11:09 pm
Sara Matson
A good reminder. Thanks for your post!
January 7, 2020 at 11:16 pm
writeremmcbride
Thank you, Ashley. Every “no” can be a “yes” in some form. It gives one more information for taking on future endeavors, and becomes valuable feedback that brings us closer to our desired results. Thank you for your good reminders!
January 7, 2020 at 11:30 pm
nicolesalterbraun
When i was younger, I took the rejection to heart. Now, I just tell myself that I’m one more closer to a yes. It’s a numbers game. I haven’t given up yet
January 7, 2020 at 11:45 pm
Virginia Rinkel
Bring on the rejections. I need to grow more. Thanks for this post.
January 7, 2020 at 11:56 pm
Becky Shillington
Excellent advice, Ashley! Thank you!
January 8, 2020 at 12:48 am
Carrie Charley Brown
You are absolutely right, Ashley! Feedback is the key to growth, but shelving and percolating are necessary when feedback feels like “sticks and stones.” Best wishes!
January 8, 2020 at 1:31 am
Shar
I love this reminder that we can always find the good and grow from hard things. thank you!
January 8, 2020 at 1:34 am
Gaby Lagos
Ashley, thanks for remember us that the advice that we get from others are important, and one more thing, for me taking notes is like breathing, as you say “You are a writer, so take notes”, it makes me affirm that I am on the right track -as a writer-
January 8, 2020 at 2:13 am
thesheilster
Thanks for your post. It’s hard getting those rejections, but taking a little break and trying to learn from each one helps.
January 8, 2020 at 2:26 am
Dawn Prochovnic
Thanks for the reminder that each “no” gives us an opportunity to get closer to “yes.”
January 8, 2020 at 2:40 am
Michelle Kogan Art, Illustration, & Writing
Building our rejections into new queries and looking “past the passion of our passion project,” thanks for these writing kernels Ashley!
January 8, 2020 at 7:44 am
Loni Edwards (@LoniEdwards)
Excellent advice! Thank you Ashley!
January 8, 2020 at 7:59 am
Susan Eyerman
Grow from it. Very good advice.
January 8, 2020 at 8:00 am
Nat Keller
Thanks for your inspiring post! A great reminder that with each rejection there is an opportunity to learn from it..
January 8, 2020 at 8:09 am
Jennifer Blanck
Thank you, Ashley. It’s always good to be reminded how we can learn from rejection.
January 8, 2020 at 8:15 am
Marianne Knowles
Rejection, like any critique, makes a work stronger. Thanks for the reminder.
January 8, 2020 at 9:15 am
suzannepoulterharris
Great advice, Ashley. I love getting feedback from editors. Sometimes it’s as good as a paid critique!
January 8, 2020 at 11:04 am
aliciaminor
Every success starts with rejections. Who don’t have one? We view it with open hearts and minds and always, there’s a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow so let’s keep writing. I love your title and will surely read it. Congrats!
January 8, 2020 at 11:17 am
Leslie Leibhardt Goodman - Writer
Instead of chocolate, I quit being a writer for five minutes after each rejection. In those allotted minutes, I throw myself a pity party. Then, I put my writer hat back on and keep going. I don’t know if this will help anyone, but I once received feedback telling me my story was clever and fun; it was my synopsis that missed the mark. Ever onward. Thank you for the inspiring post.
January 8, 2020 at 11:40 am
Suzanne Alexander
Thank you, Ashley. It is encouraging to know that even the best writers receive rejections.
January 8, 2020 at 11:44 am
Lauri Meyers
This hit me “the more diligently we pursue our writing dreams, the more we increase our chances of being rejected.” So true! If you’re avoiding rejection, that means you’re avoiding putting your work out there.
January 8, 2020 at 12:30 pm
Erin Forrester
So glad you got your yes – and thank you for giving back and reminding us that No is not universal. Congratulations!
January 8, 2020 at 12:54 pm
Amelia Gossman
This is so important to remind people of – rejection is hard to deal with but the most important thing is to keep going. Thank you!
January 8, 2020 at 3:59 pm
angelcat2014
Thanks for the tips on how to turn a negative into something positive- not always easy to do. 😅
January 8, 2020 at 4:12 pm
Joannie Duris
Congrats on your debut, Ashley! So true that rejections are just part of the journey. I always figure it’s one name crossed off my list before I find the right person, at the right time, for the right story. And I love when personal rejections spark the light bulb in my imagination, leading to a better story.
January 8, 2020 at 4:54 pm
jodelle55
Thanks for reminding us that everyone gets rejections. And rejections suck.
January 8, 2020 at 5:04 pm
Susanne Whitehouse
No is hard to hear, but good affirmation that no is just part of the journey. Thank you!
January 8, 2020 at 5:17 pm
rhumba20
Great advice thank you!
Anna Levin
January 8, 2020 at 5:41 pm
Jilanne Hoffmann
This is something I do, too. Making that list and checking off the items as yes, no, or maybe is an important step in the process.
January 8, 2020 at 6:42 pm
stephaniewildman
Thank you – a good lesson to learn and relearn.
January 8, 2020 at 6:56 pm
Joyce
Good attitude Ashley and one we all need help maintaining from time to time.
January 8, 2020 at 6:58 pm
Julie Augensen-Rand
I love the idea of creating a check list of all the comments. I’ve never done that. Thanks for the post.
January 8, 2020 at 7:38 pm
tiffanydickinson
Thank you, Ashley. Finding productive ways to deal with rejection is so important – but I think starting with a chocolate bar is okay!
January 8, 2020 at 9:13 pm
Janet Smart
thanks for the advice!
January 8, 2020 at 9:37 pm
Angela Padron
Great advice thank you!
January 8, 2020 at 10:12 pm
Lindsay Ellis
Looking forward to getting to know the nos. And keeping a stash of chocolate around too.
January 8, 2020 at 10:19 pm
megcason1
Glad I’m not the only one who uses chocolate as their go-to for rejections!😏
January 8, 2020 at 11:36 pm
Shaunda K Wenger
Thanks, Ashley! As hard as it is, it’s somewhat comforting to know that rejection is not really all that lonely of a road. It’s also good to have a roadmap of suggestions while we’re on it.
January 8, 2020 at 11:37 pm
rgstones
This is a great reminder. Thank you!
January 8, 2020 at 11:38 pm
doreenrobinson
Rejection is part of the process, and we can learn from it. I comfort myself with chocolate, too!
January 9, 2020 at 12:01 am
sharongiltrow
Great tips for what to do when I get a no. Sometimes it happens 3 times in one day. I love your positivity.
January 9, 2020 at 12:07 am
Marchelle
Not only for writers but for everyone who goes out on a journey to become something larger than life. Thank you for showing me how to keep trying.
January 9, 2020 at 12:57 am
Melissa Koosmann
Thanks for the thoughts on rejections. I know it’s not the end (I’d have been done long ago if that were the case), but it’s sometimes hard to tap into the positivity you share. Much appreciated!
January 9, 2020 at 1:52 am
Michelle Kashinsky
Thanks, a good reminder.
January 9, 2020 at 2:24 am
Juliann Caveny
Definitely great advice. (I like the chocolate break suggestion too!) Thanks for sharing with us, Ashley.
January 9, 2020 at 2:47 am
lahewson
Thank you, Ashley, for your words of encouragement and your “never give up!” advice. Chocolate is a great comfort food 😉
January 9, 2020 at 7:22 am
Jen Kraar
Thanks! A good reminder of the process: Embrace the rejection. Examine your work – make it better – move forward.
January 9, 2020 at 11:02 am
Helen Lysicatos
Great post! Very productive way of approaching a rejection.
January 9, 2020 at 11:35 am
Kathy Mazurowski
I am trying to be brave, but…
January 9, 2020 at 12:32 pm
Alicia
Thank you for the great advise!
January 9, 2020 at 12:48 pm
Jenny Read Stout
Thanks for the pep-talk!
January 9, 2020 at 1:26 pm
Dina Ticas
These are such great words of encouragement. Thank you!
January 9, 2020 at 2:02 pm
bluerabbit
Time to revisit some of my ancient rejected manuscripts and see if there are some worthy of rescue. Thanks for the nudge.
January 9, 2020 at 2:04 pm
bluerabbit
Reblogged this on One Way to Wonder and commented:
Some great advice here. I’m off to revisit old manuscripts. Are there any in your drawer?
January 9, 2020 at 3:16 pm
Susan Twiggs
Love your attitude and tips to revise. I’m writing these down!
January 9, 2020 at 4:23 pm
Melissa Chupp
Thank you!
January 9, 2020 at 6:05 pm
vijikc
Thank you for your suggestions!
January 9, 2020 at 6:23 pm
Susan Latta
Thanks so much for this post!
January 9, 2020 at 8:36 pm
Karen Lawler
You are so right. It is HARD to deal with the “no” when you have laid out your heart. I’ll keep writing anyway. Thank You 🙂
January 9, 2020 at 8:38 pm
Karen Lawler
I will write no matter what rejections I get. But it is tough. 🙂
January 9, 2020 at 9:15 pm
shereentv
Thank you for the suggestions. I’ve never made a checklist of feedback/comments/suggestions. I’ll often keep a critique open alongside my WIP and run through it that way.
January 9, 2020 at 10:01 pm
topangamaria
Great advice!
January 9, 2020 at 10:17 pm
Susan Eyerman
Thanks. I needed that!
January 10, 2020 at 1:16 am
Susan Cabael
It’s like in business–get to 100 NOs!
January 10, 2020 at 10:43 am
Beverly Hall
So perhaps it’s time to revisit a thing that wasn’t right the first time around.
January 10, 2020 at 11:45 am
KRISTINA COOPER CASTILLO
So necessary to learn from rejections! Thank you!
January 10, 2020 at 11:58 am
Mary Jo Wagner
I try to remember that rejection is just a way of saying “not yet”.
January 10, 2020 at 2:18 pm
storycatcherpublishing
This is why I love all the “no’s” get from my critique group…it reminds me that while my story may be a strong one, it’s not strong enough yet to withstand a no from an agent or publisher…
Great post!
Donna L Martin
Story Catcher Publishing
January 10, 2020 at 2:19 pm
jenwritespbs
Great post, Ashley! I especially like where you said,”strike out the feedback you don’t agree with.” We definitely have to give ourselves permission to do this. 🙂
January 10, 2020 at 3:33 pm
Megan J. Walvoord (@mjwalvoord2)
Rejection means your trying and are one step closer. Love this! Thanks for the encouragement.
January 10, 2020 at 4:44 pm
Lucretia Schafroth
Thanks for the reminder and advice. I’ve shelved one of my manuscripts–a favorite–for over a year. I’m planning to revisit it soon with a fresh perspective toward it.
January 10, 2020 at 6:30 pm
michelebacon
Thank you! I’ll use your idea of a rejection checklist.
January 10, 2020 at 6:41 pm
debbiemccue
Great post, Ashley. I like your steps of learning from rejection and your advice on how to use the information to grow as a writer.
January 10, 2020 at 10:19 pm
Ashley Pierson
Great post, Ashley! I loved how you wrote, “You can still take apart your manuscript and read it as a reader (not as a writer)” I’m going to remember this!
January 11, 2020 at 8:00 am
Brenda Whitehead
Yes, I always have to remind myself to learn from the “No’s”–thanks!
January 11, 2020 at 10:50 am
doreenrobinson
Accepting rejection is tough but it’s one step closer to acceptance if you learn and grow from it!
January 11, 2020 at 11:30 am
Stephen S. Martin
Rejection means you are in the game. . . and that much closer to publication.
January 11, 2020 at 12:22 pm
Laura
Needed to hear this!
January 11, 2020 at 12:38 pm
gattodesign
Congrats on the book. Never give up is true! Everyone has a good story in them.
January 11, 2020 at 1:22 pm
Jill M Proctor
Thanks, Ashley, for the encouragement to dig deeper and persevere.
January 11, 2020 at 2:39 pm
Heather Kelso
Rejection is always tough. Take a step back and learn from it. Keep writing, keep learning, keep growing. Thank you Ashley for your important post.
January 11, 2020 at 3:08 pm
Elizabeth Metz
Thank you for affirming that it’s okay to completely ignore critique points that miss the point of your story! I’ve felt bad about doing that in the past, but for me its a necessary step to be able to absorb the good notes.
January 11, 2020 at 5:38 pm
Michele Helsel
Just received a long waited for reply today from an agent where I was rejected. Again. I’ll try to heed your advice.
January 11, 2020 at 5:49 pm
Rebecca
Thanks for the encouragement and compassion! A tough road to travel.
January 11, 2020 at 8:36 pm
Stella Gardener
I was hoping you’d say rejection gets easier with time… Thanks for the tip on reading your manuscript like a reader.
January 11, 2020 at 11:32 pm
THarvey
Swimming in no response and form rejections… but still swimming!
January 12, 2020 at 10:10 am
JC
Thanks for encouragement to carry on!
January 12, 2020 at 12:00 pm
julielacombeblog
What a great idea to write down a list of the note you receive on your story!
January 12, 2020 at 1:27 pm
Pamela Haskin
I like your list-idea! I’ll start doing that too. Sometimes a rejection doesn’t mean your work is not good enough, but that it just doesn’t fit a particular editor’s likes or needs.
January 12, 2020 at 3:28 pm
Penny Parker Klostermann
Thanks for advice on rejections, Ashley! You provided some great tips!
January 13, 2020 at 12:08 am
Benji Rearick
Great idea and thanks for the encouragement!
January 13, 2020 at 1:01 am
Diane Tulloch
Great advice on rejections. Thank you for this encouraging post.
January 13, 2020 at 7:07 am
Joan Maher
Thanks Ashley! Inspiring words. Congrats on your book!
January 13, 2020 at 9:34 am
Kim Wilson
What a wonderful perspective- thank you!
January 13, 2020 at 10:28 am
Jim Chaize
This was a helpful post on dealing with rejection. Thanks, Ashley.
January 13, 2020 at 3:46 pm
Viviane Elbee
We love your book NOT QUITE SNOW WHITE, and thank you for the advice on how to rebound after rejection!
January 13, 2020 at 4:43 pm
meghandwrites
Great post!
January 14, 2020 at 1:22 am
Susan Orton
Great suggestions to dealing with rejections, Ashley. It’s never easy, but it definitely is part of the process and growing in your craft. Thank you for sharing.
January 14, 2020 at 12:54 pm
Dawn M.
I welcome any tips on dealing with rejection. Thanks!
January 14, 2020 at 4:47 pm
Aryn Kennedy
Thanks for the reminder as I prepare to start querying again.
January 14, 2020 at 4:48 pm
shirley301
You’re spot on about rejections. They hurt but I realize that they help us to grow and get better.
January 14, 2020 at 4:50 pm
Sheri Dillard
Great post! Thanks, Ashley! 🙂
January 14, 2020 at 11:05 pm
Kari Gonzalez
So timely, Ashely. I just received a rejection. I love the advice to make a check list as you consider revisions. Great idea!
January 15, 2020 at 9:32 am
melissamiles1
It really does sting to get those! Thanks for sharing your insights with us. Good luck with your book! 🙂
January 15, 2020 at 12:26 pm
Kelly Conroy
Thanks for teaching us how to flip our perspective!
January 15, 2020 at 5:38 pm
Anne Appert
A great post! I need to be better at revisiting some of those rejected manuscripts. Thanks for the insight!
January 15, 2020 at 9:06 pm
Janet Halfmann
Your advice rings so true!
January 16, 2020 at 8:11 am
Nadia A.
Love this: Know the No that you recieved and allow your creativity to flourish.
January 16, 2020 at 2:36 pm
dlapmandi
This is such a great post. Learn from the rejection. I know how is to be rejected and to learn from it is the only way to survive the publishing world. Thanks for your post.
January 16, 2020 at 2:51 pm
dlapmandi
It is a blessing to be able to see your ideas flesh out into a finished and published book. Looking forward to that experience. Thanks for the post.
January 16, 2020 at 3:49 pm
Rene` Diane Aube ~ Children's Author
Thanks for the tips on turning those rejections into positive growth. 🙂
January 17, 2020 at 4:58 pm
bgonsar
That’s looking it from the bright side. Thanks Ashley!
January 18, 2020 at 8:45 pm
Stephanie Lau
Nice to know other ppl rejection eat. Though I choose ice cream;)
January 19, 2020 at 8:57 am
Beth Gallagher
Such an inspiring post! And, it spawned a lovely idea for today! 😊
January 19, 2020 at 11:14 am
Natasha Garnett
Thanks for this post, Ashley. A critique from you would be so helpful! Meanwhile, I grow, I learn.
January 19, 2020 at 7:18 pm
Nancy Kotkin
Congrats on your debut publication, and getting to your “Yes!”
January 19, 2020 at 11:51 pm
angiecal76
Rejections are hard to swallow but they do serve a purpose and a learning opportunity. We just have to keep that in mind when our emotions take over.
Thanks for the advice, Ashley, and all the best on your debut picture book!
January 20, 2020 at 12:38 am
Beth Schneider
Congrats on your debut!
January 20, 2020 at 5:10 pm
Karen Rafeedie
Ashley this is a good reminder. Thank you for sharing. Excited about your picture book. 🙂
January 20, 2020 at 6:20 pm
Sue Fritz
I hate getting no response from a submission although I do understand why it happens. Your suggestion of going back to your manuscript and rereading it like a reader would is great!
January 21, 2020 at 1:49 am
Darshana
Congrats! Rejections are hard but yes they do have nuggets sometimes.
January 21, 2020 at 5:06 pm
Jacqueline Adams
Excellent advice! I’ve learned a great deal from rejections.
January 21, 2020 at 7:42 pm
Sylvia Chen
Such an encouraging post, thank you!
January 21, 2020 at 7:50 pm
thedandelionzoo
Thanks for the advice of how to actively turn a rejection to an opportunity.
January 22, 2020 at 3:13 pm
Lisa Tolin (@lisatolin)
One of the hardest parts of writing so far is getting used to rejection. Thank you!
January 23, 2020 at 2:11 pm
wendymyersart
Giving yourself some space from your work is always a good idea. Eating something yummy after rejections certainly. helps! Thanks for the encouragement!
January 23, 2020 at 6:33 pm
Susan
Thank you for the encouraging post!
January 24, 2020 at 12:35 am
Susan
Thank you for this encouraging post!
January 24, 2020 at 12:30 pm
imagination4lf
Thanks, Ashley. Rejection is very hard but your ideas for growing from them, help to put everything into perspective. Thank you.
January 24, 2020 at 7:05 pm
Amanda Sincavage
I love the idea of turning feedback into a checklist! Thank you, Ashley.
January 25, 2020 at 2:25 am
Terri Sabol
“Look past the passion of your passion project and get to work!” Great advice! Thanks!
January 25, 2020 at 3:36 pm
McCourt Thomas
Yay for chocolate!
January 28, 2020 at 3:54 pm
Lucy Staugler
Ashley, great advice! I am just starting to submit my manuscripts. I am printing out your post and putting it in my submission folder as a reminder! Thank you!
January 28, 2020 at 5:34 pm
anneiversonbellsouthnet
Remaining positive is a necessity and it’s easy to get discouraged. Thanks for reminding us to stay focused, learn from those rejection, and press ever onward.
January 30, 2020 at 11:57 am
Joyce Schriebman
Every no gets us closer to YES! Thanks for the encouragement!
January 31, 2020 at 12:06 am
Carrie Cook
Great suggestions, thank you so much! And congrats on your book.
January 31, 2020 at 4:12 pm
LJ Laniewski
Great advice! Thank you for sharing. Indulging in a little rejection letter chocolate is a great way to feel better about getting a “no.” Using the feedback as a checklist is even better.
January 31, 2020 at 4:21 pm
Carrie Tillotson
Ashley, thanks for the tip on getting to “know the no.” Great advice.
January 31, 2020 at 8:57 pm
kmshelley
Very inspirational story!
February 1, 2020 at 12:53 pm
Jefna M. Cohen
Thank you. I’d taken a query break and I’m “on the road” again so to speak. It’s tough! It’s easy to doubt the work in this process.
February 1, 2020 at 3:14 pm
storyfairy
Nice post. It’s good to be able to take advantage of rejection.
February 1, 2020 at 5:44 pm
sheriradford
Unfortunately, form rejection letters (or no response at all) seems to be the norm, with all the cuts in the publishing industry. A writer needs to grow a thick skin and be persistent.
February 1, 2020 at 5:55 pm
shellshock7
thank you!
March 16, 2020 at 5:31 pm
mrskotwitz
That is a hard lesson to learn, but a good one! I had to decide the rejection wasn’t personal. And what could I learn from it? Use it!
April 10, 2020 at 12:02 pm
annkahii
Great advice ! Getting rejected is a part of growing up . We must learn to accept it and grow beyond it.