Are you good about saying “thank you”?
Admission: I’m not.
Some people keep desks full of exquisite stationery and sign them with flourishing gratitude. Me, I can’t find a stamp in the junk drawer so I give up before I even start. And my address book? Last seen in 2009, scribbled over by toddler’s crayons. And glitter glue. And strawberry applesauce.
Yeah, despite organizing PiBoIdMo every year, in daily life, I’m highly unorganized. Neatness and order doesn’t compute. I leave dishes in the sink. Piles of unfolded clothes litter the laundry room. A confused conglomeration of bags and boxes accumulate under the stairwell. I’m afraid to know what small animals have taken residence there. (Fodder for my next picture book manuscript?)
Saying “thank you” has always been difficult. When someone offers a compliment, I deflect it with self-deprecating remarks. My goal is to let the person know whatever I did was simple, something they could just have easily accomplished. It feels braggart to accept a compliment. So I don’t take them. The attention feels uncomfortable. Little did I know how rude it was to not respond with “thank you”.
I like to give, not receive. Don’t ask me why. Some psychologist is gonna have a field day with this. But I do have a point, beyond being called in for a head-shrinking session.
I’d like to say “thank you” to YOU for helping me to achieve a rewarding 2013.
- To all the people who purchased my debut picture book THE MONSTORE, thank you.
- To those who voted for my book and my blog in various end-of-year superlatives, thank you.
- To everyone who follows me here or on Facebook and Twitter, thank you.
- To the participants, authors, illustrators and agents of PiBoIdMo, thank you.
- To those who have asked me to guest blog, speak or present, thank you.
- To the authors who wrote all the books I read in 2013, thank you. (Yes, I must thank them—they kept me happily entertained!)
This past year has been a tremendously gratifying one for me, and I would be amiss if I didn’t extend my gratitude.
So THANK YOU.
May your 2014 be productive and successful!
And now, to find that address book…
Yep, I still haven’t mailed out my holiday cards. *sigh*
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January 2, 2014 at 10:36 am
Wendy
They make “Happy New Year” cards – and I sent those one year! (I feel much better about my own messes now 🙂 )
January 2, 2014 at 10:45 am
kathalsey
THANK YOU! Gratitude is more important than super organization, at least in my book, Tara! However, you accomplish so much AND are raising kids, so BRAVO! Cheers to Writing in 2014!
January 2, 2014 at 11:00 am
Margo Sorenson (@ipapaverison)
Tara, I am more than grateful for all you do for us writers! The PiBoIdMo was wonderful and your posts are so helpful and inspirational. I am saying grazie mille, tusen takk, mahalo nui loa, merci beaucoup, kosonom szepen, muchas gracias, spacibo in as many languages as I can!
January 2, 2014 at 11:00 am
melinkee
Gosh, you sound a lot like me. Thanks for sharing, it’s so nice to know we are not a lone in our feelings on this planet. My blog post this past week is on forgiving oneself/me for what feels like a lifetime of being too hard on myself. I feel so much lighter, it was good therapy and the beginning of my newest life-changing resolution. My blog address is http://www.writingnaturally.wordpress.com if you are interested in reading the post. Thanks again for all your wonderful information you share on your site. I so enjoy reading your blogs.
January 2, 2014 at 11:27 am
Anne Bromley
And many thanks to YOU, Tara, for all that you do for the community of picture book writers. Wishing you the very best in 2014.
January 2, 2014 at 11:28 am
Rebecca
You’re welcome! And thank YOU for this awesome blog and for organizing PiBoIdMo!
January 2, 2014 at 11:28 am
Jarm Del Boccio
And thanks to you, Tara, for sparking my creativity with PiBoIdMo. With you, my writing journey began. I am grateful to God for you!
January 2, 2014 at 11:41 am
Donna L Martin
I love, love, LOVE this post Tara! That is exactly how I feel when someone gives me a compliment and nothing gives me more joy in my life than giving to others…so I will give a mighty thanks to YOU for being a part of my life and to giving so much to this writing community. There is a small group of people who have mentored me over the past four years so I could become the writer I am today and YOU are one of those people.
Thank you!
Donna L Martin
January 2, 2014 at 11:47 am
berylreichenberg
I don’t have trouble saying thank you, but I do have a problem receiving praise and like you am disorganized. No matter how much I try, my dinning room table is always heaped with things to put away and my writing/studio space is awash with papers, projects, and drafts of new children’s books. Thanks for the confession; it makes me feel better to know that there are others out there like me. Beryl
January 2, 2014 at 11:49 am
Jenn DesAutels
Yay, go Tara!!
BTW Xmas technically lasts til 1/5 (12 days and all). I hope to send mine by then… =)
January 2, 2014 at 12:29 pm
Deb Lund
Thank YOU, Tara! What a gift to have you here in my writing life. The laughs, the goals, the nudges… And the delight you added to my picture book shindig! Oh, and we haven’t mailed out Christmas cards since our first child was born, um, 17 years ago. Have an amazing 2014. May all your projects be a blast and experience success beyond your imagination.
January 2, 2014 at 1:15 pm
Marianne Knowles
You’re welcome, Tara! And whatever you’re afflicted with, I have it too. Inability to accept thanks gracefully. Organized time, cluttered surroundings. And holiday cards? I send them only twice a decade or so. Happy New Year!
January 2, 2014 at 1:36 pm
Suzanne Kaufman
Thank you! PiBoIdMo moved me in so many ways!!!
Date: Thu, 2 Jan 2014 15:30:59 +0000 To: suzanne_kaufman@hotmail.com
January 2, 2014 at 2:14 pm
bucherwurm65
Dear Tara, You’re welcome. And “Danke Schön”! (I disguised the “thank you” to confuse you so you wouldn’t have time to make self-deprecating remarks.) I love your blog. I love PiBoIdMo and I love The Monstore! Keep doing what you’re doing, girlfriend! Oh yeah, and I mailed my Christmas cards today. 😉
January 2, 2014 at 2:18 pm
Donna Mae Pasiczniak
Gratitude is very powerful. It opens the door to abundance.
January 2, 2014 at 2:23 pm
Joanne Roberts
Thanks to you, Tara. And may you have a fabulous and productive new year.
January 2, 2014 at 3:32 pm
kjbateman
You are welcome. Thank you for PiBoIdMo, consider it your holiday card to the world. I send out bi-annual cards-one year to design, the next year to send.They are made but not written yet.
January 2, 2014 at 3:54 pm
LovableLobo
Thank you, Tara, for continuing to inspire us! It’s always better to give a thank you than to receive one. I think that’s a golden rule, isn’t it? My office and desk are an unorganized mishmash of mayhem and I like it that way. Cheers to another successful year!
January 2, 2014 at 4:11 pm
Kaye Baillie
No. thank YOOOOUUUU!
January 2, 2014 at 4:32 pm
orthodoxmom3
You are so welcome! Your admission of disorder makes me feel better 🙂 But thank YOU for being organized on here and providing such wonderful posts!
January 2, 2014 at 4:36 pm
Juliana Lee
I gave up on the holiday cards this year because I couldn’t find the stack I had bought last year in the after-Christmas sales. Instead I opted for emails, Facebook, and phone calls. I bought more cards for next year and put them where I’m sure I’ll find them next year! *fingers crossed* However, I am HUGE proponent of gratitude. I write thank you notes, make phone calls, give hugs etc. and I’ve taught my children to do so as well. I even specifically taught how to write a thank you letter to my students. (Last week I wrote a blog about it using the picture book THANK YOU, SANTA as the lesson prompt…. http://juliana56lee.wordpress.com/2013/12/26/thank-you-santa/
January 2, 2014 at 6:11 pm
Rosi Hollinbeck
And thank you for all the inspiring posts!
January 2, 2014 at 6:51 pm
Myrna Foster
Thanks for all that YOU do!
January 2, 2014 at 7:30 pm
Genevieve Petrillo
Thank you for being organized for us. And if you ever find your address book, please mail me the page with the strawberry applesauce. My dog, Cupcake will have it licked clean in no time flat.
January 2, 2014 at 8:44 pm
Dawnyelle
Your posts make me smile! Happy new year!
January 3, 2014 at 9:31 am
Jenifer Heidorn
Gratitude is a beautiful thing. You are oh so welcome!
January 3, 2014 at 3:25 pm
Quinn Cole
One of my favorite books is called Attitudes of Gratitude. Just the title reminds me to be thankful for everyone in my life including writing colleagues.
January 3, 2014 at 7:59 pm
thiskidreviewsbooks
You’re welcome! And thank you, too! 😀
January 4, 2014 at 1:39 pm
laurenhk
Thank you for your heartfelt post. I thoroughly enjoyed reading your post– thank you for helping us all feel like we are in good company trying to keep all of the balls from dropping (well, at least not permanently dropping). Take good care and may you have a 2014 filled with hope, a little magic, lots of inspiration and huge amounts of time for writing!
January 5, 2014 at 11:15 am
Lynn Anne Carol
I can surely relate to shirking away from compliments and gratitudes. The embarrassment of receiving praise. I can also relate to the gift of “giving.” Your post has shed light on the true meaning of the words, “thank you.” Two simple words are the greatest gift we can give someone. Sadly I can also relate to the missing address book. lol You’re pretty super, Tara. Thanks for being you.
January 6, 2014 at 12:17 pm
fashionistaphilly.tumblr.com
actually it should be thank you Tara – for all that you do to help the rest of us truly unconditionally a thank you from the heart happy new year 🙂
January 6, 2014 at 8:45 pm
Carol Gordon Ekster
You’re welcome. Gratitude is the right attitude. Now thank YOU, for all you do for the writing community and other kidlit authors. Keep inspiring us in 2014!